Reddit mentions of Dr. Tatiana's Sex Advice to All Creation: The Definitive Guide to the Evolutionary Biology of Sex

I find it hilariously ironic that these comments are nothing but a circle jerk. You guys ever stop to think that it's porn, not masturbation, that's kept us/you isolated, depressed, impulsive, anxious, and/or sexually dysfunctional? I don't want to proselytize my opinions too much, but I would like to offer a train of thought dissenting from the common opinion.

Personally, I still masturbate but I do so only using my imagination and no external visual stimuli. Of course, I should clarify that throughout my whole life -- even during my porn addict stages -- I've only masturbated once or twice a week on average. So while my total porn hours per week may have been something like 30, I still would only masturbate about twice a week. True, my libido does fluctuate and, at times, I would masturbate as little as once in three months or as much as five times a day for three days, but my modal average is twice a week.

In my senior year of high school I went the whole year (August '06 through July '07) without masturbating and I found enormous benefits, but it ended up being unsustainable and I spiraled downward into porn addiction in my freshman year of college. Back then I thought my addiction was a masturbation addiction, but it took several years of failing college, seven therapists and psychiatrists, a sex therapist, Sex Addict Anonymous meetings, and telling my family and friends about my challenges to realize it was porn not masturbation that was extremely addictive for me. So, again, I'm not trying to push my philosophy on anybody but, by sharing my life story, maybe others can identify with me and find it worthwhile to learn from.

Edited after reading comments: I also find it immensely helpful to read as much as I can about human sexuality. Articles by Dr. Jesse Bering about fringe human behaviors, books on cultural variations in sexuality, animal variations in sexuality, the neuroscience of porn, and anything else I get my hands on are all vastly enlightening and entertaining. To borrow a phrase from Dr. Bering, I'm all about learning "why you’re going through what you are rather than what to do about it. I may not believe in free will, but I’m a firm believer that knowledge changes perspective, and perspective changes absolutely everything. Once you have that, you don’t need anyone else’s advice."

Read this book:

http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Tatianas-Sex-Advice-Creation/dp/0805063315

It's been a long time since I read it, but if I remember correctly, the author shows how homosexual, transgendered (the creature literally switches genders) and cross-dressing type behavior arises in many species as a result of certain conditions in their environment, i.e., the environment becomes hostile, or overpopulated. In other words, it's a rational survival response so the species does not go extinct.

No, this does not mean someone becomes gay because their mother raised them wrong, or they were exposed to homosexual behavior around them. It means, for example, that as our planet becomes increasingly crowded, it's in the interests of our species as a whole that a certain percentage of humans do not reproduce, but instead, invest in the care and support of their close relatives. This may be why the more male children are born in a single family, the greater the chance the last born will be homosexual.

The author had a theory for transgenderism seen in other species, and also for what is like cross-dressing behavior - when, say, a male species masquerades as a female. This tends to happen when there are more males than females. It's to increase ability to get up close to the female and "sneak in" to mate with her.

Even more interesting is the section where the author describes species that have more genders than just male and female.

TL;DR: Fascinating read; highly recommend.