Reddit mentions of Foldable Grabber Reaching Tool

OK, most of what you are describing, no one can help you with because, well, you just have to deliver, unfortunately. However:

• You may not be on bed rest officially, but both you and your husband know that you don't need to even come close to attempting to "pull your weight." Sit on your butt and just move around enough to avoid those blood clots.
  
  
• Look for a grocery delivery service. One by me is called Peapod. I'm not sure what is offered by you, but with Peapod, you can get delivery within a day or two, so you don't need to rely on people to "offer" to grab you things from the store. Just go ahead and order online and it will be delivered to your door.
  
  
• Get a pick-up tool. Here is one on amazon you can get delivered to your door in 2 days for 7 bucks. Pay an extra $3 for one day shipping and you can have it in 1 day.
  
  
• Your husband doesn't resent you, he resents the situation, just like you do. You're so close to being done though. Pretty soon the babies will be on the OUTSIDE and your body will be able to heal and while you'll both still be utterly exhausted with two newborns, at least one adult won't be so incapacitated.
  
  
• You're in crisis mode. Forget about dishes. Your husband should stop at the store and get a jumbo pack of plastic/paper plates, cutlery, and cups. Ain't nobody got time for dishes right now. If that's one less thing that your husband has to deal with everyday, AWESOME.
  
  
• You mention friends. As I said before, you're in crisis mode. You have to get over the "feeling guilty." If you had a friend who was in your position, you would WANT them to reach out and ask for help, wouldn't you? You would feel awful to find out that they were so miserable and needed help, and you didn't know and didn't offer up enough help? Your friends want to help, but they probably just don't know how. If you have someone you are close to, ask if they could help set up a "meal train" amongst your friends. Basically, people will bring you dinners at specified intervals (every night, every few nights, etc) in order to help lessen the stress your husband is under. Again, this is just one less thing he has to do when he comes home from work.
  
  
• If you can at all afford it, call in a cleaning service. You can usually get these people to help with laundry as well as regular cleaning. Sure, its not going to cover 100% of the laundry for a family, but they can help a lot. Again, this will help your husband out immensely.
  
  
• Another suggestion would be if you know any neighborhood teens who might come over after school a few days each week and entertain your son for a few hours. Ideally, they would come over as your son wakes up from his nap, they would give him a snack, entertain him, give him a bath, and then tidy up some of his toys so that when your husband gets home, he can focus on things other than bathing your toddler.
  
  Just remember, no, you're not on bedrest right now, but you're clearly not functioning either. You need help, and honestly, much of the help you need right now, you'll need within the first few weeks of your twin's birth as well, so why not set it up right now?

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