Reddit mentions of Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm

He's reading a book called Slow Sex which is about Orgasmic Meditation.

In order to OM properly, you need to have a good lube.

I've been to some of their events and met different people and had some interesting experiences.

I would say that the book and the practice isn't focused about having sex. It's about the female orgasm, which requires trust, communication, and technique to acquire and improve upon. In the practice of Orgasmic Meditation, men do not take off their clothes, touch themselves, have sex, or reach climax (unless they are easily turned on, I guess?) - It's solely focused on the woman and creating and nurturing a connection with her.

Practice makes perfect

Two books for you to read

https://www.amazon.com/Slow-Sex-Craft-Female-Orgasm/dp/0446567183

https://www.amazon.com/What-French-Women-Know-Matters/dp/042523648X

No, it's not necessarily you. RP has a distinct group of people in it who have a distinct set of opinions. And if you look online, the women who are the most vocal about sex will be the most adventurous - having had sex with lots of men, threesomes, bdsm'ers etc. They are also the women that men are most likely to have casual sex/one-night sex with, which may skew men's view of what 'most women' like.

Some women do like rough or BDSM sex. But also many don't, or don't want or need that in order to gain the maximum satisfaction. Sex comes up in convos with my girlfriends quite often, after they've had a few drinks ;) They are very varied in what they like and don't like. Hard/fast/rough can make the pelvic area go numb, but some of my friends like it anyway because it means he's getting off or/and because it feels sexy/hot to them. And a bit of that for a change can be fun. But there's generally not enough sustained contact for orgasm. Most women can only orgasm via oral (during sex) because it's slower and uses sustained contact. If they orgasm via PIV, then generally it's slow and deliberate - he has a lot of control and knows what he's doing and what she likes.

Personally, if a guy slapped, choked, pulled hair etc during sex, then I'd find that super weird and ask him to stop. Out of my friends, one said she liked it, and we know her husband and he's a nice guy, so we assumed they're into BDSM-lite. A couple of my friends are into real BDSM. So it's very, very varied.

Basically, research says women vary a lot more than men in their sexual anatomy and accordingly in what they like: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=rdr_ext_tmb

Slow can be good if it's done right: https://www.amazon.com/Slow-Sex-Craft-Female-Orgasm/dp/0446567183

I have had the same problem where I don't last long. I have started with longer amounts of foreplay. If I am going it and feel like i'm going to cum I will slow down or go back to a bit of foreplay. I read a great book called slow sex, which talks a lot about how people are having fast food sex as I call it, When we were teenagers we had to get in and get it done, for fear that we would get caught. No that we are older most people still have sex like that. Try and slow things down. I will list the book below you can get it on amazon.

And tell your hubby good job on the 7 months that's incredible!

https://www.amazon.com/Slow-Sex-Craft-Female-Orgasm/dp/0446567183

by Nicole Daedone

You might give this a shot. A lot of women, and men, swear it improves their sex life. Women who have trouble climaxing are especially happy with the technique.

Maybe this one?
www.amazon.com/Slow-Sex-Craft-Female-Orgasm/dp/0446567183/

u/changingmaya is this like Karezza or tantra? https://www.amazon.com/Slow-Sex-Craft-Female-Orgasm/dp/0446567183

I have the following book but have to find it. Have you read it