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I got into it by reading the aforementioned book.

The first thing I stuck up my ass was my finger. Then it was two fingers. Then three. Then anal beads. Then a vibrating buttplug, then I started working my way down the 7 1/2"er. I'm still quite comfortable at that stage, but I may move up if so compelled.

I have an open mind about just about everything, and I've always had the philosophy that I will do anything to a woman, but I have to be able to take it first. Thus, I got a dildo as big as myself, and fucked my ass with it. Then I showed her. Then I fucked her ass. It was serendipitous, and I felt even closer to her in real human, empathetic terms.

If she is scared, trying to force it will make the experience so bad she will never want to try again. Her muscles will be involuntarily over tense and can cause pain. The best thing to do is research, communication, research, communication. Here is an amazing book I have given to several friends who were interested in trying anal, it's not super long or 'scary.'

http://www.amazon.com/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Guide-Women/dp/0940208202

Yes yes yes yes yes! With someone I love and trust it is a hot and intense feeling. And YES it can hurt a LOT if the receiver isn't relaxed and going at their own pace. There is definitely a learning curve. You also have to learn to not fear poop. It's not like you're gonna poop the bed, but sometimes poop happens.

I suggest starting small (a finger in the shower), or even just touching the outside to get used to the sensation. Sometimes pushing out actually helps relax the muscles and lets things go in easier.

I highly recommend the book Anal Pleasure & Health for anyone who wants to learn about how to do it the right way.

Always stay away from numbing creams and always go at your own pace. Any partner who puts their pleasure before your comfort is NOT a good lover.

Fiber!

But there are two types of fiber: soluble and insoluble. Soluble fiber acts as a binder, and will make your poops bulkier. Insoluble fiber pushes the poops through the intestine (too much of it can make shit go through too fast) and also helps clean as well (think ruffage).

Fiber powders contain both types of fiber, and are never a bad idea. Things like rice, potatoes, and bananas are good sources of soluble fiber for bulkier poo.

There are other things to help as well. Yogurts with active cultures can be great (but low sugar!) and some fermented foods like sauerkraut can be very beneficial. Eating less fat is also a good idea.

lastly, this is a good book to read.

Wrong book. "Anal Pleasure and Health - A Guide for Men and Women" by Dr. Jack Morin is the book to buy. Your boyfriend was doing it wrong. Trust me I am an expert.

Relax. Plenty of straight men like butt play and there are women who will oblige. If the idea of being entered by a guy is upsetting then don't be entered by a guy. You obviously aren't gay. Find an assertive girl to fuck you (toys, fingers, strap on). It seems you might also be interested in having your try at being the sexually submissive/receiving partner. There really is no problem here. People are into all kinds of things, seriously! It seems you are finding out something about yourself that has really caught you off guard. Remember- gay men don't have some kind of special asshole that makes penetration feel good. Its the same anatomy, with the same pleasure potential. Why deprive or upset yourself if its something you desire? Keep asking yourself what is so wrong with it. Keep breaking down your argument until you can go no further. Now challenge your own arguments.

Things to know:

-Ergonomic sex toys exist. If the visual of a penis is something you want to avoid, you can. http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&safe=off&client=safari&rls=en&um=1&sa=1&q=ergonomic+anal+toys&aq=f&oq=&aqi=&start=0

-Dan Savage is a great source for honest, sex positive advice. His podcasts are my Tuesday morning entertainment. http://podcasts.thestranger.com/savagelove/archives.php

-Educate yourself. This book (Anal Pleasure and Health) is an incredible source. It goes over, health, anatomy, safety, dispels common myths (like anal sex leads to adult diapers... because it is anal TRAUMA, not anal sex that can lead to adult diapers). I recommend this book because of its adult and research based tone. http://www.amazon.com/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Guide-Women/dp/0940208202

-This is healthy! Take your time discovering what you like. Our individual sexuality is a huge part of who we are. You are getting to know a new part of yourself you have only recently discovered. It might be scary, uncertain, and unexpected, but in the future this has the potential to be a surprisingly empowering and fulfilling part of your life.

tl;dr: You are aren't abnormal. You are scared. Take control and get to know this new part of yourself.

You should have this book on your shelf:
http://www.amazon.com/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Guide-Women/dp/0940208202