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| Release date | June 1905 |
I think the first thing is that there isn't a formula. If you talk to people every couple has a different story about how they met and what worked well for them.
I think focus on the family endorses providing teens with an agreed on mentor to give them advice when they don't want to discuss something with their parents.
I found this book very helpful. https://www.amazon.com/Dateable-Are-You-They-ebook/dp/B0033V4SEW/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Are+you+dateable&qid=1560307142&s=digital-text&sr=1-1 it's designed for teens and I remember one of the points was not to assume that you're going to marry someone even if they talk about wanting to marry you.
This book was published after I was married. https://www.amazon.com/Courtship-Crisis-Case-Traditional-Dating-ebook/dp/B00ZYWN7GS/ref=sr_1_1?crid=322U3YWQRSVMV&keywords=courtship+in+crisis&qid=1564145427&s=digital-text&sprefix=Courrtship+%2Cdigital-text%2C176&sr=1-1
I followed the author as he was working on publishing it. He wrote it in response to Joshua Harris's book. He looked at how his grandparents dated and what the differences were that allowed that generation to marrying young and to have lasting marriages. He said that they dating a lot of different people without having and sexual intimacy. There was no hand holding unless you were exclusive, otherwise it was expected that everyone (even as young as 12) would go on dates with multiple people. So Friday on a date with one person and Saturday on a date with someone else. After a few years you have a strong sense of what your looking for, you have the social skills to date well, and you're in the habit of dating and getting to know people. I have single friends in their mid 30s who struggle with at least one of these areas.
In practice when I was single I spent a lot of one on one time with at least 5 different guys. I got to know each of them and eventually I knew who I was interested in and who I wasn't interested in. And that was all without the word "dating" ever being used.
I'd say tell them not to be afraid to get to know people of the opposite sex. Treat them like friends and get to know a lot of different people.