Reddit mentions of Erotic Slavehood: A Miss Abernathy Omnibus

/u/fad_gadget89 is dead on, but there's also something really important here - there is no one true way to do this! A training program created by someone else is more than likely going to promote their ways of doing things, which may or may not be yours. Do you want your sub to be chatty or quiet? Bratty or obedient? A skilled cook or do you enjoy being in the kitchen? Should they know how to care for leather or do you not even own a pair of boots?

If you really want help with developing a training program, looking at books like Erotic Slavehood, Real Service or even some of the books by Bob Rubel which outline very specific protocols for a few different types of dynamics.

You could also investigate things like MTTA, which is a weekend intensive designed to explore this stuff. I've never done that program, but know folks who have. It tends to be as much learning about yourself as it is learning how to submit or particular skills.

I had no idea I liked BDSM until I hooked up with a kinky sub boy. At first I was feeling rather, "Well, shit, what the hell am I supposed to do now? You want me to do what to your who now?"

But the more I practiced, and the more I read, the more comfortable and exciting it became. It's not just about whips and chains and crazy underwear; it's also about comfort and safety, surrender and control, a deep and intimate kind of trust, a love for the body and for the creativity of exploring it in new and different ways, and an ability to confront the unknown with the assurance that we will be cared for.

When I dom, I cherish my sub. They are giving me a huge trust: the safety of their body and the assurance of their pleasure, and I take that very seriously. My main aim is to keep them safe, in every way, at all times, even if I am "using" them. Safe, sane and consensual! A good dom is not going to take you "too far," and your description of your partner makes her sound like a very caring dom who will ease you in comfortably.

When I sub, I give myself over to my partner completely--within the bounds of my comfort, of course. I know that I can use my "Yellow Light" words or "Red Light" words if I'm uncomfortable with what's happening or if something seems dangerous. I know that someone else is taking care of my whole person, and that can be incredibly freeing. Knowing that I'm being a perfect vessel to receive my partner's desires is also an incredible feeling.

The books that I read that really made things crystallize for me were Jack Rinella's work, specifically The Master's Manual and The Compleat Slave; and Christina Abernathy's compilation.