Reddit mentions of Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men

>Too many people don't understand how simple and non-radical the concept of feminism really is

It has scary sounding polysyllabic words that sound like they're saying something different than they are, it talks in a very intellectual place, and it's attacking ideas literally thousands of years old. It tells people to stop certain behaviors, without explaining why in the audience's vocabulary. Btw, these behaviors were literally beat into you as an 8-14 year old boy. "Fags" and "Homos" and "Sissys" get the shit kicked out of them. Conform or get threatened with physical violence.

If you asked most men "Would you like to get rid of the thing that makes it okay for your boss to shit down your throat and talk over you?" most of them would say yes. If you ask them "Would you like to renormalize workplace power relationships to a more consent based model inclusive of many communication styles, including those of women" they go 'huh' and dread having some sensitivity training and having to watch what they say on top of their 65 hour workweek that the patriarchy has imposed on them

I would love to see a new edition of Guyland with the shiny feminist terms toned down a bit, or a slightly more sex positive The Will To Change

Feminism is great. It's goals are typically admirable. But it's not setup to sell itself to men, so don't be surprised if the group that's most sold to doesn't get how to digest something that's not targeted at them.

Because feminists base all of their theory and activism on the assumption that women are unilaterally oppressed compared to men, and that by and large, the feminists that shape and control their movement despise men and masculinity.

Books like this drivel get pretty much unanimous praise from feminists:

http://www.amazon.com/Guyland-Perilous-World-Where-Become/dp/0060831359

With the caveat that I haven't read any of these yet, but when I found out I was having a boy I looked for similar recommendations and this is my reading list:

• Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men
  
• Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood
  
• Boys Adrift
  
• Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
  
• The Trouble with Boys: A Surprising Report Card on Our Sons, Their Problems at School, and What Parents and Educators Must Do
  
• It's a Boy!: Your Son's Development from Birth to Age 18
  
  (I got caught up in reading childbirth and infant care books, which seem more pressing. If anyone has actually read any of these, I'd love to hear your opinions, especially if it can help me prioritize them.)

An American Hook Up talks about promiscuity in college, specifically hook up culture. Guyland talks about it too. Neither found that those engaged in hook up culture in college had trouble with long term relationships later in life. I doubt you'd find any study that says they would.

Side note that didn't get addressed by Dr. Nerdlove- The LW's family was not a feminist family even though her mother was the breadwinner. An abusive relationship cannot be feminist in nature because abuse (from any party in a relationship) goes against the very heart of feminism.

There's some great research being done by academics in gender studies on toxic masculinity and if anyone is interested in some reading material, there are some great folks like R. W. Connell, Michael Kimmel, or Tony Porter that might be helpful.