Reddit mentions of Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender

I do not understand why you are downvoted. You are asking for perspective, no matter how offbeat the direction is.

>what's with all the scathing hate towards nice guys?

a lot of NGs show a simple display of unsuccessful sociopath behavior. The abuse attempt alone is enough to warrant plausibility of the personality of that person. On top of that, other factors like the big media and those mediums taken out of context by the NGs adds a flurry of social chaos. This disaster is solved by letting themselves understand the power of "thinking before speaking", and accepting their own emotions as their own, not blaming emotions on external forces.

>Most of them are genuine human beings who are lead in the wrong direction due to lies perpetuated in this hugz and feelz society through parents, schools, media and such ("masculinity is for chauvinist pigs", "instead of working out, girls like sensitive guys who buy them flowers and treat them like queens etc"). Most of them have grew up bullied or an outcast to the point of self-deprecation and low self-esteem. Instead of lashing out at them, maybe give them legit pointers on how to self-improve or pick up their game beyond banal polite conversations and random compliments.

This can go in many ways. Most of them ended up taking the pill, while others discover the negative power of who they are emotionally and mentally. Other ways fall between these two extremes, and usually people who take the pill fall out of their own accord and go completely out-of-society to the rest of the world. Anecdotally.

In my opinion I do not agree with the above because this furthers the narrative even harder than before (to the point of performing mental gymastics). I would suggest trying the filter method mentioned in a book like this or understand letting go of the things that you are hampered with like this.

>I feel most of it is due to society's underlying repulsion towards weak men who fit the betamale mold. I don't think society is quite ready (nor will ever be) for men showing emotion or vulnerability. You can't demonise those who reject you but we as humans are allowed to feel upset or dejected if one doesn't feel loved or worthy for intimacy or companionship. The whole "nobody owes you shit" may be true but it's completely nihilistic without offering some sort of solution to address the problem rather than sweeping it under the carpet.

There is a solution to this problem, and the solution does not involve setting people into boxes. the solution is looking at the differences between positive masculinity and toxic masculinity and gauge what your life is as a whole: personality, personal worth, and what you actually persevere in your hobbies.

A great subreddit that gives more discussion on this topic is /r/MensLib.

The reason you have "ultra low confidence" and are "so scared other people will think" you're stupid is because of your PRIDE and EGO. The solution to your problems is to LET GO of your pride

Letting go means being AWARE of your fears, LETTING it come up and run its course without RESISTING it. SURRENDER to it. For example, let's say you're terrified of public speaking. Just imagine you're actually giving a public speech and people laugh at you and say you're stupid and boring. Just LET them say that without resisting.

By letting go, the "real" you just WITNESSES the thoughts and feelings your ego wants you to feel. By letting go, you stop identifying with your EGO and you will free yourself from the need to "win" and outcompete others.

Prideful people are CONSTANTLY DEFENSIVE/scared and are DRAINED of energy. OTOH, humble people CAN'T be humiliated because they let go of pride. Having ego increases your fear. When you no longer need to PROTECT your ego, criticisms and insults will NOT hurt because there is nothing to PROTECT

People buy expensive clothes and cars, crave social status to protect their ego. It's sad and astonishing how most people in our society end up being manipulated into working jobs they hate just so they can earn enough money on stuff they don't need just because it improves their social status. The simple solution to their problems is to just LET GO OF PRIDE

The other way to overcome your fear is with self-acceptance. You need to acknowledge all the parts of yourself that you dislike and hate. By ACKNOWLEDGING Them, they no longer control you

I used to feel hopeless by you. Reading this book helped alot: https://www.amazon.com/Letting-Go-Surrender-David-Hawkins-ebook/dp/B00EY818TQ/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8#customerReviews

I'll just drop a book recommendation.

Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender

Bye