Reddit mentions of The Art of Seduction

The actual dancing aspect can be handled by learning to dance (i'm assuming you can handle that on your own). So i'll address some of the behind-the-scences sorts of things. [Text wall ahead?]

[Uh, yeah I sure hope it does.]

If they're legitimately close friends you may not have to worry about this, but in some places there is steep competition between dancers and it's not uncommon for some of them to be "ganged up on" and find themselves out of work because the others didn't like them... although the "official story" is usually something involving a crime, or customer complaints.

And some places are just the bestest places in the world where nobody fights and there's no drama... Well at least 1 place... maybe...


In places where you can drink, drink a little, but only casually/socially. Only enough to get slightly buzzed, if that. This is because people who don't drink in drinking establishments will seem out-of-place to those drinking. BUT as a dancer, you have a socially acceptable built-in excuse to stay stone-cold sober. It's not mandatory to drink, but drinking a little... may help. If people buy you shots, you'll want to keep track of that so that you don't overdrink yourself, and then have people pour you more on top of that, leaving you trashed (which is a safety hazard, and could get you fired).

Learn sales, learn some psych. You'll be selling yourself as something you're not (absolute perfection of the highest order, give or take).. and yes, perfectly imperfect/rebellious/badboy is a "perfect ideal". You'll be interacting with many different kinds of people, and you'd do well to be able to read people and the kinds of things you can do to make each type of person feel valued and respected (communicating in a way they understand best). Find your style of seduction and use that to create a consistent persona/theme, so that you can distinguish yourself from every other dancer, past, present, and even ones that will replace you after you're gone. Create a legend of yourself so that people will follow you if you change bars/clubs.

Everyone has a smartphone. Snapchat dominates the lives of almost everyone under the age of 30. You will be posted on some site somwhere, i guarantee it. You may even go viral. Probably not, because male dancers aren't manstream yet... but it's possible.

You might want to fight your own fights. You might be capable of doing so. Doesn't matter. Always call security. 1, you don't want to be held legally liable if shit goes south. 2, don't damage the merchanise. 3, You want to avoid being seen as hostile to any customer, even if you're justified, even if they openly support/encourage you to fight or escalate a given altercation.

At the places i've been to, most of the dancers were straight, most of them made sure it was known. Turnover is high (completely unrelated, i'm sure), yet competition always remains higher. Your friends and their club/bar may be different, but those are the outliers, not the norm. I don't know if you are straight. but if you're in a gay club, you should be there for the core clientele. Your personal life should be left at home. You can have 6 wives 9 kids and 3 girlfriends at home, but as soon as you drive into the parking lot, you're there for the boys. Girls are nice, but girls--on average--don't tip nearly as much, or nearly as often. The only way you can pull off the "im straight and i'm only doing this for the money" thing is if you don't neglect the men... who generally give you more money. People will start to notice that your dances are twice as long with girls, you only give your number out to girls, you let girls touch more and/or longer (or at all, if it's not supposed to be allowed)... If you're straight, I know it's tempting to get all the numbers as soon as you see your busty blond "hb8 brah". find a way to serve your own pleasures while you're not being seen by the people you're rejecting in an effort to slam girls after last-call...

You'll break the illusion. Don't break the illusion. The illusion is that you're DTF with guys. Actually, if you can find the balance of being straight, but keep the illusion of being "turnable"/hetero-flexible, you'll be a top earner in no time. Of course, that's only if you can pull of being "straight" (if you're gay), or if you can pull off "open-mindedness" (if you're straight, and not open-minded). If you're a masculine bi guy, just be yourself.

Otherwise... be as ambiguous as possible. If you must identify as straight/gay one night, identify as the other the next time. People are attracted to mystery. Confusion stokes curiosity, which invites engagement. And that's what you want. You don't want people to stare at you from across the room. You want them to talk to you, tip, buy a dance (or whatever your "big ticket" thing is). People like puzzles and trying to figure you out is a puzzle game with an admissions cost.

If your bar/club allows movement, move, don't just stand around wistfully. You may have nice abs, and/or a tight butt, but people want to see them move. Also, there shouldn' be a rule saying you can't initiate conversation. If you see someone looking but won't pry themselves off the back wall, go to them. Chat them up. Talk to them about anything other than you. Liking you is a given, so don't make it awkward by asking if they like you, or "why won't you tip me" or whatever else. They'll tip when they feel 1, noticed by you, senpai. 2, valued/wanted/desired there. 3, when they like you. 4. if they don't feel pressured/manipulated into it (don't be pushy)

These are just some of the things off the top of my head. Anyone's free to add/challenge anything here. I presume the guy wants to be good, so if you've got a correction, or a way to be better, let him have it.

As you may see now... being a dancer is a bit more involved than jiggling your but in a pair of andrew christians. Well... if you want to be any good at least. If you just want some extra money and attention on the side, then disregard everything and jiggle your butt in a pair of andrew christians for a few months until you wash out because that's all you offer.