Reddit mentions of The Flirting Bible

25 isn't old. Neither is 30. But as you already know, if what you want is a family, the younger you start the better. You can still have children in your 30s but it will be higher risk than in your 20s. Human Biology 101.

You're right about men not putting much importance on a woman's academic/career credentials (unless he's hiring her for a specific position). What matters most to us after youth and fertility is a woman's femininity. Can you be intellectually interesting without a PhD? Yes. Just read a lot. Is it a waste of time for a woman who goes for her B.S/B.A./Master's/PhD and prioritizes her career? Not if that's what she wants to do. But realize that doing so comes at a cost—your femininity. The world of work is hard, it makes anyone hard, men and women. Like everything else in life, there's no free lunch (unless you don't have to work for a living). Time is a finite resource; the doors you walk into close other doors; but that's life.

What turns men on isn't your book knowledge but how "soft" you are. We are the hard, you are the soft. Hard seeks soft, soft seeks hard. But that doesn't mean you necessarily have to give up your chosen path in academia/career. You'll just have to work extra hard on maintaining/cultivating your femininity.

Here's some of what I've said in related threads.

Keep yourself physically attractive:

• Make fitness your top daily priority. Make it a way of life, as natural and enjoyable as drinking a glass of water first thing in the morning.
  
  
• Exercise one hour daily. Lift weights for muscle tone, not muscle mass. Don't worry, you won't look like a man unless you have higher than normal levels of testosterone or eat tons of protein. Run for heart fitness. Do abs/core exercises daily.
  
  
• Wear a moisturizer with SPF EVERY DAY. Your face won't age as fast. When you're hitting the beach or doing any physical activity in the sun, don't forget the sunscreen, especially on your face.
  
  
• Wear sunglasses. They'll help you avoid squinting or furrowing your eyebrows (facial strain).
  
  
• Eat healthy. Avoid sugar. Drink orange juice and eat yogurt daily.
  
  
• Get plenty of sleep.
  
  
• Drink rarely or moderately. The more you drink, the faster you'll look older.
  
  
• Drink plenty of water.
  
  
• Avoid drugs.
  
  
• Dress your best every day. Get rid of all pieces of clothing that don't make you feel confident or sexy.
  
  
  Maintain/cultivate your femininity/softness:
  
  
• Have a positive, vibrant, cheerful demeanor. Banish bitchy resting face.
  
  
• Take dance classes, especially social dance where there's a leader and a follower.
  
  
• Learn to flirt http://www.amazon.com/Flirting-Bible-Ultimate-Reading-Language-ebook/dp/B004R1PVQG
  
  
• Dress in a way that shows/enhances your femininity but doesn't cheapen you. Show cleavage but beware the slut cleavage threshold. Find jeans that fit you well. Learn good timeless, classic fashion.
  
  
• Learn to love your body and feel sexy all/most of the time. Learn how to walk sexy in heels (not like you have a corn cob stuck up your ass). Wear sexy lingerie, for yourself, regularly.
  
  
• Enjoy sex freely and let your freak flag fly proudly within a strictly monogamous relationship. Learn the art and joy of the blow job.
  
  
• Learn to yield to a mature masculine man. Learn to let him lead and relax in his leadership.
  
  
  Keep your relationship "value" high:
  
  
• Don't sleep around. If you want to enjoy sex or experiment, do it within a strictly monogamous relationship.
  
  
• Don't get pregnant (while dating).
  
  
  Learn about yourself / Learn to love yourself:
  
  
• Discover awareness. Meditate.
  
  
• Learn to be happy alone. Spend plenty of time in solitude and reflect on what you can learn from what's already happened. But balance solitude with socializing. Stay connected with family and real friends.
  
  
• Practice yoga.
  
  
• Volunteer at a nursing home.
  
  
• Find and make friends with people of good character. Ruthlessly cut off those with bad character (don't look back).
  
  
• Dump a cheater on the spot.
  
  
• Walk away decisively from anything you don't want or don't want to be in. Don't look back, only reflect on what you can learn from it.
  
  
• Learn to think critically / think for yourself. Realize that the world always wants something from you and will do what it does to extract the most from you. Don't get into any religion; they'll only force you into groupthink.
  
  
• Travel. But don't sleep around on the road.
  
  
• When you hang out with women, keep your mouth shut and your ears open. Observe and decide what's right or wrong for YOU. When you hang out with men, remember that most want to sleep with you. Enjoy their friendship and masculine energy.
  
  
  "Market" yourself / "put yourself out there":
  
  
• Volunteer at an animal shelter, farmers market, or any social activity that puts you in touch with the kind of man you want.
  
  
• Go to speed dating.
  
  
• Network and attend all social events you're invited to. Ask good questions about the person you're talking to.