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Climaxing is as much mental as it is physical. If you're head isn't in the right spot, like you're nervous, not in the moment, uncomfortable, worried you're gonna fart, concerned you sound dumb or are making stupid faces, etc... you're not gonna climax.


My matronly advice is first, don't expect your BF to give you your first orgasm. Table that dude. Sex partners have all kinds of different approaches to sex. It's not that some are just better than others... some just may have techniques that flip your switches better. Fortunately for the ones that don't, they can be trained... but you can't train them until you learn your own sexual responses first.


So my first suggestion is going to be about masturbation.


You haven't said if you've been able to climax on your own, and from your language I'm gonna wager that's a no. You don't say if you masturbate either. What you do say though is you're kinda afraid of your own sexual response. Which is ok. We can get you through this!


Let's talk about toys. What I would recommend for solo play are ones that aren't necessarily penetrative that focus on the clitoris. With toys I have personally found price ~kinda~ matters. If you're going to the sex store and buying them cheapo 10 dollar vibrators that look like something that came out of a barbie playhouse, well those don't personally cut for me. I'd suggest something like The Magic Wand, or other similar types of personal massagers. Go for the one with the cord, they are more powerful. I was a late bloomer myself, a friend gifted me a wahl like this one which helped me learn how to orgasm. I put a wash cloth between me and it (because these aren't... designed for contact with moisture, plus it's intense), put it where it felt good and relaxed and... boom, the body kinda took over.


Let's talk about clitoral anatomy. Most of it is on the inside as you can see in the diagram, and it hugs the vagina walls. We have erectile tissue just like boys do, and just like boys we need to have blood flow to that area and have all of that stimulated for us to be able to arrive (there are some people that say they can orgasm while flaccid... those people are special snowflakes and aren't most people). This is why it can take some time to get to the point of climax, especially with another person. There's also a variation of anatomy from lady to lady. Just like men can have different sizes and shapes to their peni, women can have different positioning and interior anatomy layout. Speaking personally, some angles with some guys just don't work as well. This has nothing to do with size really, more about angle. The G-spot is really stimulation of the clitoral tissue from the inside (like when you finger a dude's butt and stimulate the prostate). This is why most women do not orgasm from penetrative sex. This is also why I'm suggesting you experiment more with toys that stimulate the clitoral area of your vulva. It's very common for inexperienced people to think women can get off being jackhammered with a penetrative object. It's not that the experience is necessarily unpleasant, it's just most women don't get off that way on it's own.


I would also suggest kegel exercises. When you are aroused you may feel a pulsing sensation in your nethers. Thems your kegels going 'oh GOODDY WES GONNA GET SOME DICK'. You can flex them on purpose, and when you're aroused it can be quite stimulating. So, try this. While using a vibrator toy on your clitoral region, or whatever toy feels good... there aren't any rules here... flex your kegels. If it helps, do it along with your breathing. Breathe in, hold, breathe out, release. Breathe slowly, a way to make sure you're doing that is as you breathe in, count from one to 3 (one one thousand... two one thousand, like that) Hold, then as you exhale count backwards. Breathing slowly will help you relax, and the counting will stop your brain from overthinking. Do that, and let your body feel whatever it feels.


And if you feel the need to cry out, cry out. Moaning and being loud helps with arousal. May be best to make sure nobody else is home. :)


Once you get comfortable by yourself, then you bring the boyfriend back in. If you find yourself freezing, then slow down. Try masturbating together, and don't worry about having an orgasm, just have a good time.


Our brains are the most powerful sex organ we have, and we can most definitely over-think to the point of preventing climax. Men have the same issue. If you ever have a boy who seems nervous or has erectile problems, take it easy, let him know it's ok, and take the pressure off of him. Tell him you two can just make out and have fun together, and if he wants to have sex that's fine but you just want to be with him and if you don't have penetrative sex that's ok too. When we put pressure on ourselves to perform it can cause real problems sexually, especially when we haven't had those experiences with them before. I hope your dude isn't putting pressure on you to have your first orgasm with him. If he is... well you can tell him to stop being an weenis, or you can just do your own thing and when you do arrive with him for the first time he can feel like a man or whatever and it'll be your own secret.


This is about you and your relationship to your body. One thing I have learned as I've gotten older (and read about from others) is the older you age, the easier it gets. So, don't worry. Relax, enjoy the experiences you have, and experiment with what feels good. I'm confident you'll be fine.


Good Luck

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Get a Hitachi magic wand and have some solo time til you figure out how to properly operate what the good lord gave ya.
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Or a womanizer.
https://www.amazon.com/Womanizer-Deluxe-W500-PleasureAir-Vibrator/dp/B01898X4WK


Sometimes it’s best to run through the game tutorial before you start the campaign mode if ya know what I mean.

Perhaps some electro-mechanical assistance?

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