Reddit mentions of The Prenatal Bombshell: Help and Hope When Continuing or Ending a Precious Pregnancy After an Abnormal Diagnosis

Oh! What an impossible diagnosis! It is tragic. My heart goes out to you.

My husband and I have been through a TFMR loss--for CHD and other issues. When I got my son's final diagnosis, I felt so devastated and so robbed. If you want the [many, many] details (and the kind responses from other TFMR moms) you can read my intro post here.

If you're deciding about induction vs. D&E, you might find this post from a few weeks ago, asking about induction experiences, helpful. The details of my experience and others are there. For other women, D&E is the better option, medically and mentally. Do what feels best for you.

After my loss, reading other people's stories helped me a lot. Ending a Wanted Pregnancy had a lot of helpful material (and they have a private Facebook support group).

Our hospital gave us A Time to Decide A Time to Heal, and our library had The Prenatal Bombshell. Both are helpful, non-judgmental guides for navigating this type of loss. The former is a short quick read that my husband and I did together. The latter is a more detailed book that covers everything including TFMR, perinatal hospice, having a child with disabilities, and what comes after these things.

Our hospital also connected us with a bereavement counselor who we/I have seen monthly (free). And we've also gone regularly to a parent support group for general perinatal loss. (The closest one specifically for TFMR is 2 hrs away from us, but you might live closer to one.)

I hope you and your husband take care of yourselves and each other this coming week. And remember, even if you're not sure about future children, this subreddit is still here to support you while you grieve...the Thursday thread was created explicitly for that.