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Reddit mentions of What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
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Release date | September 2012 |
On that note, I highly recommend this:
https://www.amazon.com/What-Makes-Love-Last-Betrayal-ebook/dp/B0061Q640C
I would read Sue Johnson's book first: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X/ref=pd_cp_14_2/138-8589847-3436922?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=031611300X&pd_rd_r=2f4ed5bd-840c-4bbb-adc6-652388f56e6f&pd_rd_w=4HmQ0&pd_rd_wg=DQa4X&pf_rd_p=0e5324e1-c848-4872-bbd5-5be6baedf80e&pf_rd_r=VG2QRAS06FAFVBRR5Z3M&psc=1&refRID=VG2QRAS06FAFVBRR5Z3M
Then Gottman: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797,
Then Gottman: https://www.amazon.com/What-Makes-Love-Last-Betrayal-ebook/dp/B0061Q640C.
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There is a huge gap in Gottman's teaching about how to avoid flooding and to attune to your partner that Johnson covers in great depth. When I read Hold Me Tight a bunch of the stuff in the Gottman books clicked for me.
You can find a very excellent description of this exact process in John Gottman's What Makes Love Last? (https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B0061Q640C/). Gottman is renowned for his scientific research on relationships. He does a wonderful job of describing exactly how those little moments build up to the breach of trust, and it's comforting to see how little we really could have done to prevent it. Yes, we both made mistakes, and it's great that we can recognize them! But it probably would have still ended how it did even if we were perfect. The process takes place entirely in your partner's mind as a result of their failure to really trust you.
If/when I ever find somebody else, one of the first things I'm doing is going through that book with them and making sure we both understand the importance of letting each other in.