Reddit mentions of What Women Want

It would seem he tweeted a link to a page that says "codes of conduct shouldn't apply to 'aspies' with ASDs" by a guy who wrote a book called "Mate: What Women Want", which, god help me, surprisingly doesn't seem to be the kind of redpill dogwhistle-filled sexist hate-tract I'd expected, despite the fact that the co-author is someone named "Tucker Max". (I mean, yes, it's about how to modify your behavior and acquire the sex, but it goes out of its way to say that the whole 'alpha male' thing isn't any kind of solution.) So, yeah, perhaps the article and the author fall on the "not a sexist jerk, but #1 with sexist jerks" side of the jerk-spectrum, but if it does, it's very very much in the realm of the fair center. But as with the Origin of Species, there are lots of scientific papers that end up getting used by dysfunctional assholes, and I'm not entirely convinced that Rod Vagg isn't a bullying dysfunctional asshole in private. Nor am I convinced that the Ayo.js folk are the kind of core technical folk that a project like Node needs at all.

If I have a point, it's that Rod might need to realize that just because you have a hard time being polite, that doesn't mean you have a right to impoliteness, and to the complainants, just because someone is impolite, it doesn't mean that their contribution is outweighed by the burden of dealing with them. The reason CoC's exist is so that everyone can point at a reference and say "I'm uncomfortable because I [had to hear|shouldn't have said] <the bad thing>." and then move on.

Well, this may be more niche, but drnerdlove.com helped me with a bunch of mental hurdles.

https://www.amazon.com/What-Women-Want-Tucker-Max/dp/0316375330?SubscriptionId=AKIAILSHYYTFIVPWUY6Q&tag=duckduckgo-d-20&linkCode=xm2&camp=2025&creative=165953&creativeASIN=0316375330

This guy was on the Joe Rogan podcast not too long ago, and he mentioned this book. The doctor definitely impressed me, and the premise for this book would be something I would have snapped up back in my formative years. There's plenty of books of a similar type as well.

Honestly, if you were to ask me your appearance is completely fine, but you are pretty young and inexperienced. Fortunately, it just means you have a lot to gain from resources like these.

One thing that does have me worried is your negative perspective towards your appearance. I've had similar issues, and I've reconciled it with a type of body dysmorphia. Is it possible you can have something similar?