Reddit mentions of The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature

Have fun raising her boss's kids.

That way she gets his alpha genetics, and your nice little beta male provider home life.

Read this - http://www.amazon.com/Red-Queen-Evolution-Human-Nature/dp/0140245480

A year dude? Jesus Christ are you a sucker.

Your only excuse for staying with her is that she's hot and you don't have a sufficiently diverse social life. That's not going to last, and she's still going to be a cheater, only the longer you stay, the less likely she is to be hot, and the more likely you are to be on the hook for child support.

Bail.

Biology grad here:

If you want to know a shit ton about this topic, read: The Red Queen


It's built on exactly this topic. But, if you want TL;DR of why Men seek sex and women "keep" it, it's simple: It's because sperm moves and eggs don't.

'The Red Queen' by Matt Ridley. It is a bit dense, but very interesting.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Red-Queen-Evolution-Nature/dp/0140245480

I'm sorry for your troubles. I don't have specifically stoic advice, other than general tenets that you know already. It sounds like you need to figure out how to get some distance from the situation, so you can let your rational self realize that your emotions are coming from your beliefs about the situation and not the situation itself. Easy to say, I know.

From a not specifically Stoic point of view, I have found that that Roissy's early writing especially helped me develop a realistic view of human nature and male-female relationships. It can be a little juvenile at times, but it may be the red pill you need.

From what I gather after reading Red Queen (surprisingly pro free market for a book on evolution), genetics can't guarantee brains or beauty, genetics are mostly concerned with survival by means of reproduction. However, it is possible for someone to inherit their social status; which could be political. This wouldn't mean that the 100 fathered children (only 50% of his genetic material) would have any of his economic intelligence (especially if he didn't rear them) or his lustrous bald scalp.

I was in electrical/computer engineering, so I think I can relate. Just graduated 2 months ago.

• The workload seems intimidating, but it's really not that bad. Professors and other students alike will tell you that you guys "are in for a ride" and that you're "sacrificing for the future" - you do have more work than others but that doesn't mean it has to be your life. This kind of notion spreads because 1) it makes the program seem challenging from the outside and inside, and 2) it makes students feel like academic juggernauts. Realize that it's not that bad - tons of people do it every year.
  
  
• Parkinson's Law: "Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion." IE - don't feel bad about procrastinating. Accept it, and spend your time having fun instead of worrying. You'll quickly learn the "bare minimum time needed" to get shit done.
  
  
• Talk to girls. Lots of them. Go to the dining hall, sit down, and just chat. Freshman year is one of the best times to experiment with your social skills; everyone's re-integrating.
  
  
• Don't buy books. I didn't buy any books my last two years in college; chances are you can find an old edition of the text online or just borrow from a friend that has rich parents.
  
  
• Make friends in your classes and learn to help each other. If you realize that university is more of a business than an education, you won't feel so bad about cooperating so that you can spend your time developing as a person, and not as a slave.
  
  
• Exams test you on the basics of the material. I'm not saying you should do this, but I didn't go to many classes at all during my last two years and I did just fine. I talked to the TAs, went to the review sessions, did the homeworks, and studied with friends. Sitting down and listening to someone drone on while you scramble to record everything does nothing for your education; reading books, studying independently, and engaging in one-on-one review is way more effective, for me anyways.
  
  
• Start a business now. Something small and unrelated to your discipline is fine. My current employer didn't even look at my GPA - they saw that I started a business, was involved with extracurriculars, and started a photography club. Extra-academic initiative says way more than following the lockstep of a cookie-cutter curriculum. Worst-case scenario, you spend time developing tons of skills (well, I suppose you could always die). Best-case, you don't need a job.
  
  
  
• Get a motorcycle. It's incredibly fun, not only for you, but for the girls that you meet that have never been on one before. Getting someone else's adrenaline pumping is almost as exhilarating as getting your own pumping :). Of course, take the MSF course before you put anyone on the back.
  
  
• Don't worry about having a super high GPA. I graduated with a 3.0/4.0 yet I had multiple job offers; it's more about the personality and initiative. GPA's a re a convenient way to filter through thousands of online applications; a smile and a solid handshake will pull ahead of a GPA in any personal engagement, at least in my experience.
  
  
• Go to career fairs. Even as a freshman. I noticed that anyone who got an internship freshman year had internships every year, and job offers lined up before everyone else.
  
  
• Work out regularly. Endorphins are a hell of a drug.
  
  
• These books had a HUGE impact on me. Wish I'd read them freshman year:
  
  Don't let school get in the way of your education.
  
  Learn about human sexuality.
  
  Learn how to outsource, but be very skeptical about some of the philosophy in this book.
  
  Travel.
  
  
  
• and finally, don't do any hard drugs
  
  My 2cents. Have fun :)
  

Do you know WHY women are mean, and dudes insult each other?

http://www.amazon.com/The-Red-Queen-Evolution-Nature/dp/0140245480

Why hate to admit it? Men and women aren't equal in everything (on the average) and why is that a bad thing? While some of his ideas may be wrong, Matt Ridley's book The Red Queen is very thought provoking on how and why men and women are different. Physical ability is just one of them.

> Why is it so difficult not to cheat?

Biological imperative.

You should check out Red Queen, I talks about some of this a bit more in depth. Basically it says we're wired for a mixture of polyamory and monogamous behavior.

Have you read The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature by Matt Ridley? He makes this argument as well. Good book, highly recommend it.