Reddit mentions of 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged

So as I'm reading this, it sounds to me like you are probably at a stage of life where marriage would definitely be okay (independent, maturely handling conflict, etc.). So there's a good book out there that helps directly answer this question: 101 Questions to ask before Getting Engaged.

Here's a copy-pasta of some similar questions to what's in the book. I would encourage you to read through these and critically think about each one to get a better assessment. If you're struggling to answer these questions, it might show you where some additional work may be needed:

• https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/questions-to-ask-when-preparing-for-marriage
  
• https://www.ibelieve.com/blogs/renee-fisher/34-christian-premarital-questions.html
  
• https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/preparing-for-marriage/red-flags-in-a-relationship/ask-the-tough-questions-about-your-relationship
  
• https://www.christianitytoday.com/iyf/advice/lovesexdating/10-questions-to-ask-before-getting-serious.html
  
  I think if you took maybe an hour going through these, you would have a really, really good assessment of where you stand in terms of marriage. (Also, I'd note - you don't have to have an answer to every single question...it just gives you an idea of where more growth may be needed).

101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged

Went through this solo as a sort of devotional (it’s not designed for that, but still useful when single) and again with my now wife.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0736913947/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_8dYnDbKBW68S1

You can go through a book like this one. https://www.amazon.ca/101-Questions-Ask-Before-Engaged/dp/0736913947/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1538347316&sr=1-1&keywords=101+questions+to+ask+before+you+get+engaged

I also recommend premarriage counselling. It can help make sure that you have a plan and that you are looking at your plans objectively. From the sounds of it neither of you have had to financially support yourselves. I would suggest agreeing on a budget and see how that impacts your relationship. Can you make a realistic budget? Can you make a financial plan? Practise living according to a budget as if you were living on your own. If your parents don't charge you rent then put rent money in savings. The savings can be used for a wedding, or down payment on a house.

https://www.amazon.com/101-Questions-Ask-Before-Engaged/dp/0736913947

Has a bunch

101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged

Lasting Love

Is This the One? - Date Ideas

All have great premarital suggestions

Yeah, the Church fails miserably here. Not only do we lack good 'meet up' opportunities, but we also lack any traditional or modern discernment aids for marriage. My gf and I are using a protestant book 101 questions to ask before you get engaged. Personally I'd love to be able to use a Catholic resource on this, but we couldn't find one.

This is a good book: 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged https://www.amazon.com/dp/0736913947/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ITewDb5PQ4HJX