Reddit mentions of Baby on Board

You're looking for an epistemology of parenting, eh?

Eenteresting. Good to do while you have the opportunity. No battle plan ever survives contact with the enemy, but it's good to go in with general principles.

There's three kinds of resources: facts (what's this rash), philosophy (what principles are best) and decision-making (given these facts, what's the best decision in line with these principles).

It's important to keep the three clearly separated.

Get your facts from people with relevant degrees from real universities, preferably with peer review, who aren't trying to sell their book and who haven't stuck out on their own against Big Dermatology, etc. Get them from a range of such sources, to average out anomalies.

Get your philosophy from people who give a shit about kids. First ask if they sound compassionate, then ask if they sound sensible. Ask whether you'd want to slap them if they tried to advise you at 3am while you were cleaning projectile diarrhoea out of the carpet. Ask whether they're actually promoting an end, or just their favourite means. Can you generalise their philosophy to arbitrary situations? Does it feel right, have they got their head screwed on and their feet on the ground?

Your decision-making... will mostly be your own, when the rubber hits the road. The life of a new (or even new-ish) parent is hectic and stressful, and you just have to deal with things as they happen. But for the stuff you have space to at least nominally decide on in advance (given that 80% of it will go to hell when actually put into practice), give it half a dozen different sanity checks. Is it the best thing for your child? Does it sound sane and reasonable? Is it realistic in your situation, or was it suggested by someone with unlimited space, time, rest and money? Will it hold up to extremely stressful situations with your kid being extremely fucking unreasonable? Does it involve being a dick to your kid? Would it make you feel like some kind of asshole? Is it going to be sustainable, or is it going to exhaust you into an early grave? Does it contribute to raising an adult, while still giving your kid a childhood? Does it help teach them to do dangerous things safely? Does it balance support and independence? Will your family be happier for it overall?

I don't have many specific resources to recommend; mine's just turning 11 after all.

Our paediatrician wrote an extremely good book: Baby On Board. It was absolutely fantastic and I can't recommend enough, especially in the first year. It's helpful, down to earth, extremely damn sensible, and backs up its recommendations with solid science.

The No-Cry Sleep Solution comes very highly recommended; please read up on cortisol levels and neural development if you're considering CIO techniques.

Other than that... ask me, because I know everything, and am the Best Person. :D