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Reddit mentions of Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak
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Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak by Leila Miller
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It sounds like you could stand to use some family counseling. You need it, your teen needs it, and it sounds like your wife could need it too.
You say nothing in regard to your wife here, really, but I know many Catholic couples who swear by Retrouvaille as having saved their marriage.
Also recommend he book [Primal Loss](Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak https://www.amazon.com/dp/0997989319/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_3QwrzbJZ3FE9Z) which is now adult children who speak out on the trauma that divorce was to them.
When you agreed to marriage, you agreed to good times and bad. Excluding abuse and enduring unfaithfulness, I think it's best to try and honor that vow, because the damage it does long term to your soul and those of your family isn't worth it. Marriage has seasons. It isn't always good. Sometimes for long stretches it isn't good. But continued prayer and efforts to make it work can help. And your child will be probably inspired by your commitment to your wife and family when you make an obvious and concerted effort to save this marriage. She will ultimately thank you.
Though many Catholics treat divorce as neutral and only remarriage as an issue, divorce is still sinful. When you take a vow before God or in God's name, breaking that vow is a mortal sin. That said, sometimes it's not the fault of one spouse, and sometimes situations necessitate divorce. As you haven't stated anything which indicates necessity (abuse or constant cheating) I would caution you against filing without at least attempting opening up better communication (via counseling, retreat, spiritual direction, etc.)
Thank you, u/Aragorns-Wifey!
u/wodemajia it sounds like you're in a really hard spot because he doesn't even want to try (I mean, threatening to abandon the kids just because you want him to say "I love you" more? Good lord.). And I presume he won't go to counseling because it "costs money", right? Maybe the only thing left is to suggest small easy improvements and (hopefully) build up over time. But keep trying.
Before you decide, though, take a look at this book so you'll at least be prepared to support your kids through the loss. Children of divorce are silenced to a terrible degree, thus the need for a book like this.