Reddit mentions of The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex: An Indispensable Guide to Pleasure & Seduction

Good Girl's Guide To Bad Girl sex: An Indispensable Guide to Seduction and Pleasure by Barbara Keesling is an awesome book that might be helpful to you. https://www.amazon.com/Good-Girls-Guide-Girl-Indispensable/dp/1590771281

Also, it might help you to schedule nights you're initiating to ease the transition until you've really got your groove. It will stop mixed or missed signals, etc.

Tell him to be patient and work with you on the learning curve too. Punishing you for trying won't help either of you.

I would strongly recommend this book: A Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex. It helped me become more comfortable with my sexuality, love my body more and celebrate my femininity.

And remember that you don't have to have sex on the first date, or second, or third, or whatever - only when you are comfortable. This is true for anyone, not just virgin exmos. Then, once you are at ease (at least somewhat) with your sexuality and your partner, you'll feel comfortable and will know when you are ready. Chances are, you'll still feel nervous, but that's normal for anyone. If the guy can't wait a bit till you are ready, he's not worth hanging out with in my opinion. Best of luck!!

The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl... https://www.amazon.com/dp/1590771281?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

This book may help you with question one. I don’t particularly like the title and how the author refers to sexually healthy women as “bad girls” but the content is really solid. It’s basically about how to let yourself feel sexy in day to day life.

Besides talking to her maybe buy her this book http://www.amazon.com/Good-Girls-Guide-Girl-Indispensible/dp/1590771281