Reddit mentions of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

This book tells you how self-esteem works. It's worth the read or the sample if you have a kindle.

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem ( https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007JK9BAY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_haPNBbFWQKDKK ) is a good place to start, if your issues opening up stem from feeling like you don't have anything interesting to contribute (my problem).

The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul ( https://www.amazon.com/dp/1622032519/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_0dPNBbDJSWP0N ) is a bit girly, but it's good for making sure you know what you actually want, so you can prioritize it more in your life. Enthusiasm about your day-to-day and long-term goals makes it easier to connect with people.

The thing that helped the most, though, was finding my (buzz-word alert!) "tribe". I've more or less curated a group of friends based on my interests - we may not all share the same world view but our shared hobbies time us together. It's taken time, but we're all comfortable enough with each other to open up about some things. I still have to pick my audience when I want to confide something, but knowing that we've got a solid foundation makes it easier to be authentic.

I think you need to get a reaity check as well.
Most people in the world are self interested.
If you don't want to talk to someone, don't pick up the phone.
Thats the regular behaviour of most people.
I hope that during the process of nofap you are able to recognise that you are not assertive enough. And you can work on it.

Remember you don't need a woman to complete you.
If you are suffering from any low self-esteem, and you want to do something about it. I highly recommend you taking a read of The Six Pillars of Self Esteem

I see, how interesting. I have this theory that low self-esteem is a physical thing, it's just very body-focused, and almost nothing else can make up for it. I feel like it's stored in the body, at least. In the gut or something. IDK, low self-esteem is just so hard to fix. There's arguably an entire personality disorder (narcissistic personality disorder) aimed at warding it off.

When I get it all figured out, I'll let you know, but in the meantime I highly recommend The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. You can find it here as well.

It changed my life forever.

Meditation and Sport, both are super important for my mental stability. Have at least one person you can open up to. For me it's a former Gf, we speak about everything. Make an active effort to connect with your emotions. When I was younger I couldn't even understand how I was feeling. I think that is the most common problem amongs men. They're plenty of books out there which are pretty beneficial for connecting with your emotions. A good start is this one.

You've to work on yourself constantly, at some point in your life it starts to click.

Work on your self esteem. The curse of the cuck is that they get their value from the attention and approval of others, but your intrinsic value (your self worth) is the only thing that matters. When you put people's opinions of you over your own, you're saying that they are more qualified to judge your value than you are.


The irony of this is that when you don't value yourself, no one else has any reason to think you're worth anything. So those approval seeking cucks are setting themselves up for failure, forever.


So I'd start with "The six pillars of self esteem."