Reddit mentions of Fruit of the Loom Men's Sport Brief, Assorted, Medium

I am currently living in my parents home where I'm not out and face a lot of the same issues. I'm going to try to compile things that I've done in the past couple years:

1. Straight cut men's jeans work really good for a more androgynous look. If you are worried about wearing them or other androgynous clothing at home feel free to change in the car or at the school when you get there. I've done both in the past and it has worked out fine (obviously change somewhere fairly discreet if doing so in the car).
   
   
2. Men's briefs look a lot like women's underwear and work well if you're worried about washing clothing that other people might find laying around. It helps with dysphoria a ton, it was a huge turn around for me with handling stuff while at home. The kind I get is Fruit of the Loom and doesn't have a hole in the front so you can pack with them too, I've never needed a seperate packing device to use with my xs Mr. Limpy when using these briefs, and you can get them at walmart in packs of like five or six I think.
   
   
3. I ship all my binders, packers, sex toys... really anything that I don't want my mom to see (band t-shirts even) to one of my friends who I'm out to. You can look into a post office box or amazon locker but remember that the best binders (GC2B and Underworks) are not shippable to an amazon locker. Both GC2B and Underworks ship in discreet, awesome packaging but my mom "accidentally" opens almost all my mail and has hidden medical bills from me before so I know that she intentionally reads and looks into things. Shipping to a friend is much safer. If you don't have a friend in the area look into your local trans or lgbt groups and find someone there. You probably don't have stores in your area that sell binders unless you're in a super lgbt positive area (there aren't many tbh).
   
   
4. I handle community college by emailing all my profs before the semester, explaining that my preferred name is Mat and my preferred pronouns are he/him. If they give me a hard time I usually end up dropping the class and starting it again with a better teacher. I gave up on powering through classes where the teacher misnames me after the first two weeks. Misgendering is different, but that's because I know I still present super fem and the rest of the class doesn't know I'm trans. A second part to this is that you have to have a thick skin if you want to handle community college as a trans individual who isn't out and isn't able to change their legal name yet. Online stuff is still going to have your name in it. Your school email might have your name in it. People are going to be confused at some point. There WILL be people who try though and make it so much more worth it--half my class is calling me she/her right now and there's one guy who sits right in front of me and always corrects himself to he/him when speaking out loud about my opinion on stuff in class. It makes my day every time.
   
   
5. See if your campus has counseling and if not look into getting some, even if it's not specifically gender related. Find someone who is LGBT friendly. Living in a place that does not accept you while you are out at other places is super exhausting, stressful, and anxiety-provoking. As a college student and young adult you already have a lot on your plate. Try to get as much outside support as possible, whether that's the online community, a counselor or therapist, or your local LGBT community.
   
   Good luck with it all. Stay safe! Let me know if you have any questions about anything specifically with coming out at school/hiding things/etc. I've lived at home for two years, had a few weird experiences with my mother, but overall still making it and have six more months to go.