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Color | Brown |
Height | 7.93 Inches |
Length | 5.27 Inches |
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Release date | September 1990 |
Weight | 0.43 Pounds |
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There's a book which describes an exploratory research project by a sociologist, involving a few hundred interviews of divorced couples, and it said that rebound relationships tended to be a feature of breakups. They helped the breakup-er to move on from their original relationship, and it gives an Identity theory-esque explanation for this, saying that the person breaking up needs to re-establish a post-relationship identity which deviates from things that reinforce the relationship-identity. So, a person who's unsatisfied with their relationship (she says that breakups ultimately tend to spring from a feeling of dissatisfaction), who enters a new work environment for example, might disassociate themselves from their relationship-identity by not saying to new co-workers that they're in a relationship. As their new non-relationship identity forms, they might enter a new relationship (the rebound), which disassociates them fully from the previous relationship. The rebound means that the person breaking up stops seeing themselves as part of the original relationship, family and friends stop seeing them as being part of the original relationship, which in turn means that family and friends may pressure them less to rekindle the original relationship...it basically has the effect of finalising the end of the original relationship.
She also said that these rebound relationships tended not to last, and I have a recollection of her saying (but don't quote me) that who a person rebounds with is more a matter of convenience than anything else. She also said that, although they tend not to last, people may stay in fond friendships with the person they rebound with.
It's an excellent book on the topic of breakups, if you're interested, and I can't remember enough from it to comment any more.
I have seen this book recommended a few times. Might help some time in the future once you're recovering a little.
http://www.amazon.com/Uncoupling-Turning-Points-Intimate-Relationships/dp/0679730028
Do you mean 'Uncoupling' by Diane Vaughan?
This?
https://www.amazon.com/Uncoupling-Turning-Points-Intimate-Relationships/dp/0679730028
Thank you for the recommendation
This book may help explain what happened.
http://www.amazon.com/Uncoupling-Turning-Points-Intimate-Relationships/dp/0679730028
Wow, so many things you have said of your story resonate with me. So I will give you my perspective. Sorry it’s so long.
Been divorced 5 years now from HS sweetheart, I was married 22 yrs, she is bipolar and didn’t work for 18 months before the split. Kids were 18, 10, and 8 when we split. I was in counseling for about 5 years which I see now helped to lead to the divorce especially when I learned what boundaries were and started having some, which she didn’t like at all.
Here are my other pieces of advice that I wish I knew about before the split: No affiliate links, just straight to the books.
Uncoupling
Splitting
My story now is that I met an amazing women and have been married for a year. She loves my kids and they love her. You will probably see once you get out there that you are a good catch and there are plenty of women who will treat you like a king because of all the jerks available on the market.
Sorry it was so long, but hopefully it helps.
Feel free to PM me if you need anything.