Reddit mentions of Anxiety as an Ally: How I Turned a Worried Mind into My Best Friend

It sounds like your biggest concern is less of an issue with discipline and more of an issue with with anxiety. When fear of a situation or an interaction starts to control your behaviors or causes a physical reaction such as shaking you could be experiencing a panic attack. Anxiety can prevent people from achieving a lot of their goals but it is something that can be worked through.

To help figure out if this is something affecting you I would recommend doing some research and same basic self assessment. Sites like anxieties.com and adaa.org are good place to start.

If you think you might have anxiety issues do not be afraid to seek professional help.

One great book is Anxiety as an Ally: How I Turned a Worried Mind into My Best Friend by Dan Ryckert. In it he details his history with anxiety including his first panic attack, seeking help, and eventually using it as a motivator to things he had never thought possible.

As far as finding work goes, you need to start showing people you are employable. You basically have almost no resume so you will need to start with jobs that require no previous experience such as fast food and retail. While these jobs may not seem appealing they are simply stepping stones to show other future employers you can hold a job. No one hiring at McDonalds is going to bat an eye when you tell them the truth about why you having no previous experience. They see it all the time. If you do any volunteering or charitable work be sure include it on your resume.

You won't be able to walk into a dream job but it won't take long before you have enough on your resume to start moving up to better jobs.

PM me if you have any questions and I wish you the best of luck.

No problem, my guy! Okay so book-wise. The two main recommendations are dependent on what it is you're going through, so choose your own adventure I guess...

So for a broad take on what Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (which is what I'm describing above) is with perhaps somewhat more of a focus on depression than anything else I'd go with this: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380810336

However if you want something from the same author that specialises more specifically in CBT for Anxiety it's this: https://www.amazon.co.uk/When-Panic-Attacks-drug-free-therapy/dp/0091929601

I personally read 2/3 the way through the first one wandering when it was going to go more into Anxiety until I found the second one and just went through all of that myself. But as I've mentioned, the first one introduces you to the concept of CBT overall better. But both books have a handful of techniques that help you untangle certain thought illusions (or 'Cognitive Distortions' as they are officially titled) which cause Depression, Anxiety, OCD, Anger, etc.

As for other recommendations; Maybe my second favourite book is 10% Happier by Dan Harris, which is quite a popular one you may have heard of. Basically about an NBC reporter's journey through the world of meditation, which is also a really worthwhile subject to anyone interested in the upkeep of their own mental health or indeed the mental health of others.

Then I guess the book I've gifted the most and my personal favourite is Anxiety As An Ally by Dan Ryckert which is an account of a game journalist's experience with Anxiety growing up. Honestly the easiest book I've ever read. It's just so unpretentious and candid, genuinely funny at points too. I've found it's been a really nice way to get family members to understand what Anxiety or even mental health in general is. A very encouraging and vindicating read for anyone who has dealt with it.

I can’t relate to what you are going through, but I can relate to opening up on issues as a means of help.
I’ve heard this book is fantastic and sounds like something you could benefit of.

Anxiety as an Ally: How I Turned a Worried Mind into My Best Friend https://www.amazon.com/dp/0692401512/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_cXydBbTWG54CB

Dan has been a game critic and pundit for years and has openly spoken on his anxiety.

Here’s an old GoG vid on the topic too.
https://youtu.be/h1l_SW0VWts

Anxiety as an Ally by Dan Ryckert. It's weird, because it's from a video game journalist and podcast personality. My wife has Generalized Anxiety Disorder. She also read this book and, even though she didn't know the author, found it very relatable. It also taught me a lot about the disorder and how to react when my wife has panic attacks.

I don't really have anxiety but I recently read "Anxiety as an Ally" by Dan Ryckert from Giantbomb. One of the key points he makes is that you don't really beat anxiety but just learn to tame it and control it through various methods. Some of the methods that worked for him included:

• Yoga/Meditation
  
• Exercise (Dan mentions how running helped him keep fit and his stress/anxiety levels down)
  
• Drinking less alcohol
  
  Obviously everyone is different but it can't hurt to try these methods if you can. Hope that helps and best of luck.
  

I know that no amount of suggestion helps this, but this book really friggin helped me. I love Dan Ryckert, but I have absolutely no affiliation.

https://www.amazon.ca/Anxiety-Ally-Turned-Worried-Friend/dp/0692401512

Check it out. Worst you can do is lose a couple hours to a good read.

Maybe not a friend, but it can be your ally.