Reddit mentions of Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone

You should check out this book. It digs right into these very same questions I had and I really think touches on points that are key for us to find true belonging:

https://www.amazon.com/Braving-Wilderness-Quest-Belonging-Courage-ebook/dp/B06XFLFSRY

Brene Brown. Her TED talks are excellent too.
Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XFLFSRY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_LrQMBb52CYQ68

CoDA has some meetings you can Skype into... but, that might be weird(?) I’ve never done it.

And yes! Exactly! So much happiness pent up in that one person. If I had to put money on it, I’d say your attachment style leans toward the anxious . But honestly, there’s plenty to be proud of with that attachment style: insecure-anxiously attached folks are usually fiercely loyal, ready and willing to work out problems, and love with their whole hearts (which is why when it gets broken it reeeeally gets broken). Anxiously attached folks are a kind of “mind reader” because they are super cued in to people’s emotions. Once you get some of that childhood trauma worked out you’ll be able to partner up with someone that complements those qualities a little better and you might learn to 1) give some compassion to yourself, 2) learn to regulate your emotions when that fear of rejection sneaks up, and 3) feel more secure and worry about your own emotions instead of constantly worrying about your partner’s.

Another book I recommend is by famous researcher Brenè Brown called Braving the Wilderness . Both Attached and Braving are available as audiobooks which can make for an easier “read” when you’re stressed out.

Hang in there!