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Reddit mentions of I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough"
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| Release date | February 2007 |
Perhaps because we usually feel we are the only one who's feeling "wrong". I thought it was just me
She has a couple but a great one to start with is I Thought It Was Just Me (But it isn't) -- Hey, kinda the theme of this post heh.
https://www.amazon.com/Thought-Was-Just-but-isnt-ebook/dp/B000SEHDGM
So he isn't working with an IC right now? Can I ask what he has done in order to facilitate his healing?
As I have said in my earlier post shame spirals become a substitute for healing. It becomes more of "Look how much I hurt because I suck so much" vs. "Look at what I am doing in order to make you feel safe"
As a wayward, I have found more strength in knowing that my actions show that I am remorseful rather than a show of remorse which in reality puts me center stage.
The problem with keeping it all inside is that he can't heal himself. He doesn't have the resources, in order to do that he has to get out of himself.
I believe that concrete action will help him move beyond shame:
How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair by Linda McDonald
https://www.amazon.com/dp/145055332X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_qagUybCZE9ZZT
Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0743225503/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_XagUybMQYXFG2
I would also point him to Brene Brown's videos on Shame:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0
And vulnerability:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
her book "I thought it was just me" which I will add was written more for women than men really helped me.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000SEHDGM/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Overcoming shame takes work, and from my experience I needed a professional to help me get started.
I’ve recently been reading Brene Brown’s I thought it was just me, which I think you might find helpful for your feelings on your situation.
It talks about things that we feel ashamed of and how these feelings cause disconnection to the people around us.
I haven’t finished it yet, so I don’t know exactly what her suggestions are for dealing with the shame (though I suspect it will be something about opening up). But already I have found the book very relatable about a variety of issues that people consider shameful and isolating.
She also briefly mentions infertility as an example.