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Every bit as essential as The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction is an indispensable primer of persuasion that reveals one of history's greatest weapons and the ultimate form of power.
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Color | Black |
Height | 1.06 Inches |
Length | 9.14 Inches |
Number of items | 1 |
Release date | October 2003 |
Weight | 1.62480687094 Pounds |
Width | 6.5 Inches |
I am obsessed. Here is my current collection:
Most of these you can find on thepiratebay / etc, but I own a hard copy of all of these except for The Mystery Method, which I read probably 5 times before I found Magic Bullets (actually don't own that either, just the pdf). I'll add to this list if I think of more.
Must Reads:
Magic Bullets - Savoy ==>> [Torrent] it's expensive!
Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion - Robert Cialdini
The Art of Seduction - Robert Greene
How to Win Friends & Influence People - Dale Carnegie
Should reads:
The Game - Neil Strauss
The Mystery Method : How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed - Mystery, Chris Odom, Neil Strauss
How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed - Ross Jeffries
Truth in Comedy: The Manual of Improvisation - Charna Halpern, Del Close, Kim Johnson
Meh, they're alright:
The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction - Mystery, Neil Strauss
Rules of the Game - Neil Strauss
Haven't read yet:
What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People - Joe Navarro, Marvin Karlins
NLP: The New Technology of Achievement - NLP Comprehensive
Easy Mind-Reading Tricks - Robert Mandelberg, Ferruccio Sardella
Palm Reading for Beginners: Find Your Future in the Palm of Your Hand (For Beginners (Llewellyn's)) - Richard Webster
There are also some good videos out there (links are to torrents. these are all several hundred $$):
Excellent Videos
The Annihilation Method - Neil Strauss
Mystery and Style
Decent Videos
Psychic Influence - Ross Jeffries
Another good one is The Art of Seduction
https://www.amazon.com/Art-Seduction-Robert-Greene/dp/0142001198
> TL;DR: I'm 22 and have only had one relationship. How do I meet new girls to date? Specifically, how do I approach them in a bar/club and during the day?
A couple of thoughts to help you out:
First, remind yourself of this "Guys are just really ugly girls." (It's a metaphor OK, don't go too far with it) and ask yourself if you're comfortable talking to strange (to you) males? If the answer is "no," then you need to work on the basics of conversing with others. So, start with the basics:
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes
How to Instantly Connect with Anyone by Leil Lowndes
How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends by Don Gabor
If you've got basic "conversation / small-talk with strangers" nailed, then there is a fair amount of good material out there on how to start conversations with girls; and how to interact with them in a positive way. See:
The big honking list of openers put out by TSB and the books The Game, The Mystery Method, and/or The Pickup Artist.
Robert Greene's The Art of Seduction is a valuable read as well.
FWIW, I think you'll get more useful answers to a question like this on /r/seduction. /r/relationship_advice seems geared more towards managing an existing relationship, whereas /r/seduction is heavily focused on the "initiation phase." There is a TON of material out there on how to overcome anxiety about approaching women, TONS of stuff on how to be a better conversationalist, stuff on how to amp her attraction for you, etc., etc.
Two links that might be of use to you:
New to Seddit?
Fast Seduction.com "You Are New"
Good luck!
> Intensity, ambition, sense of humor, creativity, charm? I got all of it, and I'm nice to look at to boot!
Maybe try mixing in some humbleness and subtly?
Also while you might think intensity is a positive quality, its definitely something that turns some (maybe even many) girls off. Have you read Art of Seduction?
I'll take spastic over douchey any old day of the week.
5 is pretty easy, and it relates pretty heavily to #6.... just don't put any investment in it at all. Part of getting it down is realizing it's just a numbers game and that applies for everyone. Swing the bat enough times, and eventually you're going to hit a home run (some of us just have better RBIs than others), but again... nobody starts out like that... it all goes back to #6: Practice. Just don't have any investment in it... when you want to stay and chat after you make her smile.... don't. Just walk. It's like... imagine if there was a lottery, and every time you laid down a dollar, you were guaranteed to win back your dollar, plus $0.01. That extra $0.01 is the win. While it might not be a huge win at first blush, do it enough, and eventually you're gonna be a rich SOB. So just do it today. Clean up a little bit... and go enjoy the day. Get some coffee at a nice little coffee house. Maybe go for a walk. Buy groceries. Whatever... and if you see a lady that catches your eye, apply #4.
Which, I guess brings us to #4. Doing it right. First of all, cut yourself some slack... none of us ever do it right every time all the time. Sometimes, you're gonna swing and miss.... just that simple. Don't let that stop you from playing the game though.
Think of what you're doing like any symbiotic relationship you see in the animal kingdom. Be the bee to her flower. You need honey, she needs to be pollinated. (not trying to make it a sexual reference here, I just figured it was prettier than the oxpecker and rhino comparative)...
The ONLY reason you're gonna be complimenting her, is so you can catch that smile... that's it. That smile in turn bolsters your confidence so you have it when you need it. Once you get it.... you can be on your way.
OK... I don't think you have a problem with the honesty part. Seems like you have a good handle and filter on what is and isn't ok to say....so, I'll skip to the elaborating part.
When it comes to elaborating... a few things to remember: Guys aren't nearly as language oriented as women typically. That is to say that most men starve women when it comes to a certain word quota they need to have met. Women are typically more detail oriented... so give them details. Most guys totally miss this one and it's a monster weapon in the arsenal since, again... most guys aren't using it. It gives you a major competitive advantage.
One word of caution about elaboration. It's easy to flub this sometimes if you don't keep the following in mind: The more you talk, the more likely you are to screw something up. Another numbers game really. So assess what you're going to say, and if something pops into your head that you're not really sure of it's potency or strength, just put it on the back burner... you can always use it later if you want. Just fall back to something more certain and a little less descriptive.
Example: Coffee shop, girl in corner wearing a rather striking black dress with a red and white stitch pattern embroidered up the left front side of it... on her laptop, or reading, or writing something... off in her own little world. Something about the dress was one of the first things to strike you.... ok, so there's the honesty part. You're going to comment on her dress. How to elaborate on that rather than just saying, "I like your dress"? Well, there are varying degrees... be like goldilocks and find the one that's just right for you. So while, "I like your dress... it makes me think you have a certain uniqueness about you that tends to rebel against convention, but at the same time you prefer to uphold certain conventional traditions... being something of a proper lady in the way you conduct yourself but having a degree of disdain for those elements of tradition which might treat you as second class...and you're not afraid to push back against those. I dig that." ... So instead of something that overboard and elaborate... you might go with a simple elaboration... "That's a nice dress, I like that... I've never seen one like that... it's rather striking."
In fact, in most cases the former is preferred to the latter when first meeting someone. If all goes well, they'll usually appreciate stronger degrees of honest and complimenting opinion later.
But for now... just drop something like the former: honest, casual, confident (even if it's feigned), a small degree of elaboration, and brief.
So you say the latter, she smiles back... you return the smile... and then excuse yourself... cause that's all you were going for.
As for #1... it's totally true. Women will forgive inept social skills, financial lacking, aesthetics, age... you name it really. Maybe it has something to do with that whole nurturing hard wiring thing, I have no idea... but believe me I've screwed up on so many things, so many times.... and all of them have given me more chances than I probably deserved...because... they're fucking awesome like that. Just don't take advantage of it.... otherwise they will rain down on you a shower of hurt.
As for #5... it's like... taking a swing at a bully that's bigger than you, or... going bungee jumping or something like that... it's scary as fuck sometimes... but... you just commit to it despite your fears about it. Courage and confidence aren't matters of not being scared... their just matters of being defiant of your fears. So yeah... you'll be nervous, you'll be a little scared... that's just gonna be there... so know that, and now focus on the action part... and just... act anyway.
Just like bungee jumping, you can be scared the cord might break or it might be too long or whatever... but despite it... you just... act....jump. Next thing you know, you've just had the time of your life and you're itching to do it again. :)
8 is pretty easy, especially since it sounds like you've been there already. Try focusing on those things which are emphasis journey over destination. Try something like volunteer work for a charity. Since there is a rather abstract destination there (i.e. you want to end animal cruelty or kill shelters or something...you know full well the work you put in for a few hours isn't going to accomplish it.... it won't get you to your destination... but it'll get you closer just by engaging in the journey)... volunteering time is really awesome for this since again, there's usually not a really strong "destination" in most cases. Most if it, you're just helping with part of the journey.
More directly as it applies to meeting and courting... just put the focus on the littlest things. Basically this
If you feel like you've got 7 & 9 & 10 down, then you do. That stuff is usually pretty intuitive.
Also, there's a lot of good stuff in here that you might find helpful:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Art-Seduction-Robert-Greene/dp/0142001198
I hope some of that stuff helps. :)
If you're looking for love, don't change yourself.
If you're looking to have fun etc. give this book a try: http://www.amazon.com/Art-Seduction-Robert-Greene/dp/0142001198
https://www.amazon.com/Art-Seduction-Robert-Greene/dp/0142001198
This book is incredible
Only ever give affection genuinely, The Art of Seduction is a good read. I don't like chick things, just do your shit next to her. Ex: Snuggle up & read yours books or do work on your laptop while she watches TV with headphones. A dinner or some other kind of date once or twice a month, with you making the effort to enjoy it, will go long enough of a way.