Reddit mentions of The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over (1) (The Like Switch Series)

The trick is recognising what is a "friend signal" and what is a "foe signal".

A chin up nod with a "what's up" after unwavering eye contact could definitely be seen as a foe signal. A better way to disarm people after making eye contact is with an "eyebrow flash".

Most humans instinctively do this when our gazes meet with someone we like or have no beef with. We do this half second raise of our eyebrows before we break eye contact. It's a universal signal which conveys: "I've got not quarrel with you, I'm your friend and am just acknowledging your existence." without having any submissive implications like bowing your head and gazing down.

Just start watching people as you make eye contact (especially male coworkers) you will notice that 9 times out of 10, you get this eyebrow flash. If you don't, it indicates that they probably don't like you or are nervous and see you as some kind of threat.

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Why not?

• http://www.amazon.com/The-Like-Switch-Influencing-Attracting/dp/1476754489
  
• http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671027034
  
• http://www.amazon.com/The-Charisma-Myth-Personal-Magnetism/dp/1591845947

I have a 10 year old brother who is learning to play piano and his teacher knows that it is more about what the kid wants vs what the teacher wants. The guy played a bunch of songs from classical, anime themes to reggeaton... it looks like my brother likes reggeaton so they are playing those kind of songs. Also another thing it could be that kids nowadays are more used to instant gratification (procrastination) rather than something that pays off in the long run... give him something that pays off every 10 minutes so he can feel like he is making a progress. In the same way you need to create the habit in him of playing the guitar... as in gym/fitness you dont go a cold turkey to exercise for 2 hours straight... you go first 20 minutes a day, the next day 30, next week the full hour and so on, it will happen with time...

This is a video that talks about procrastination: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhFQA998WiA&t
This is a book that will help you to deal with the mom and other people/clients/anyone in life:
https://www.amazon.com/Like-Switch-Influencing-Attracting-Winning/dp/1476754489/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1500678768&sr=8-1&keywords=like+switch+book

Some ideas from self-help books might resonate with certain people, so in that sense, they're not a scam. Personally, I've gotten more from books that aren't specifically "self-help," but focus more on a certain topic and help shine a light on why we think the way we do and some potential ways to change that way of thinking. A few examples:

The Power of Habit

Thinking Fast and Slow

The Like Switch

I also read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck and got nothing out of it, but I see lots of glowing reviews for it, so some people must have enjoyed it.

The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over by Jack Schafer.

Serious talk.

You said you ask questions, too. I guess, ask more questions? Specifically, ask questions not just about what goes on in their lives, but how do or did they feel about certain things. ''Was it hard for you to move from NY to LA for college? Are you still upset about you mother kicking you out of the house? You ust be excited for your new job?'' and stuff like that. It really gets people to open up.

Also, people like to hear that they have it hard - that their job is difficult and that not a lot of people can do it; that the school they went to is hard and only smart people finish it; that the family drama they lived through is really intense and traumatic...stuff like that.

If you are really serious about changing your aproach, I recommend this : https://www.amazon.com/Like-Switch-Influencing-Attracting-Winning/dp/1476754489

I really enjoyed the book Never Eat Alone which is a great guide to making meaningful and lasting connections.

Another one that really clicked with me is The Charisma Myth which argues that charisma isn't something you're either born with or not, it's something that can be practiced and focused in a way that is incredibly useful. Highly recommend this one.

And finally, I recommend The Like Switch which has some really useful guidance for communicating in a way that makes everyone involved in the conversation feel better, which makes people like you, which makes them more receptive to you.

I also have a 1 hour commute and don't have the attention span to follow along with fiction when I'm driving so I listen to a lot of non-fiction like this.

From what you're describing, I would recommend The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over over any other book.

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This is the best and most up-to-date book on body language. If given the decision, you should choose to read this before you read What Every Body Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People.

If you guys find this interesting, I recommend The Like Switch by Jack Schafer... ex-FBI agent delves into how he used to build rapport with bad dudes to get them to confess to him. Good stuff.

>The first statement is what psychologist and author Jack Schafer calls an empathic statement.

His book is amazing and a must read after Dale Carnegie's book.

One of the easiest things I've learned when it came to attraction is simply empathy. Make them feel like you care about them, or make them feel good about themselves.

Check out this book. Aside from being a good read with interesting anecdotes scattered throughout there is a section explaining your question.

This is a very practical book about how people perceive you and how you can build their trust: The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over

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I've read them all; they've helped a ton^1000

I actually dislike libraries because even as someone who grew up with an education on the Dewey Decimal System, lets face it, Amazon does it better.

Challenge: I just got done reading Verbal Judo, and I'd like some more books like it. Lets use the computer to find a new book.

Library: Here are 47 books on judo, 53 books on martial arts, 22 books on public speaking, and 13 books about ninjas. 23 of those books are in the Young Adult section, 15 of them are fiction, 22 of them are not at this library and 11 of them are audiobooks. Also, here's some Jackie Chan movies. All of them are checked out and you can reserve one that will be back in a month, but you have to drive to a different town to pick it up.

Amazon: Here's The Like Switch. It was written by an ex-FBI agent and a psychologist. It has a 4.5 star rating based on 67 reviews. I can have a paperbook delivered to your door tomorrow.

Google: Here's that book for free in a downloadable .pdf.