Reddit mentions: The best pet loss grief books

Hello! Thank you so much for sharing your story. It sounds a lot like mine. I love this community, and I have faith that I will be able to use these connections to help motivate me. I hope I can be a force for motivation as well!

I'm currently on Day 3 of being sober for the first time in at least 3 years. Discovering /leaves definitely helped me to get on the right track. It made me decide to quit, a step I think you are on right now. I can't believe how good I feel right now. It's like every moment feels like an epiphany if I choose to think about how far I've come.

I told myself "Tomorrow I will quit" a few times before it "stuck." The first day, I lasted til 5PM... a huge accomplishment for a regular wake-n-baker... The second day I made it til 11PM and then got overwhelmed by the feeling that I couldn't sleep.

The first day, I got through it by allowing myself to be incredibly honest about my feelings, and giving myself something productive to think about. I would recommend any book that has to do with improving our lives through understanding psychology. The point of quitting for me was to be able to be honest with myself and my feelings. That's paramount, because if I don't have that, I don't have self-esteem; and without self-esteem I can't have good relationships with other people. It's important for me to feel like I'm not avoiding my thoughts or damning my aggressive impulses. Using was a way of not acknowledging feelings of irritation, sadness, frustration, anger, etc. - all things that are legitimate to feel because they help motivate us to do good things. Depression/Anxiety/Frustration is a feeling of not doing anything beneficial with one's life.

It is a fact that we feel better when we help others.

It is a fact that we need to learn to love ourselves before we can be of any service to others. It's vital to see, "This shadow that exists in me, also exists in you. We react to it in different ways, but these negative feelings are a natural and valuable part of being human." We need to come to terms with our own shadow so that we can be compassionate to others.

Imagine a friend told you, "I feel worthless. I can't believe how sad I feel about my dog dying. I mean, it was two months ago and I still can't get it out of my head. I feel like I can't do anything worthwhile."

Would you be like, "Hm. Yeah, you probably shouldn't feel that way. Why don't you try forgetting about it with a big bowl?" Um, NO!!!

You wouldn't tell that to a dear friend, so you shouldn't say anything like that to yourself. That advice would only side-step the problem, making it worse by making the person suffering feel incapable of confronting negative feelings in a meaningful way.

Because of all of this, I would recommend spending time with a book that encourages you to take your failings with tolerance, love, and hope. I really feel like I pulled off my first day sober because I was actively dealing with problems I had always avoided. I read [this book] (http://www.amazon.com/Animals-Guides-Soul-Life-Changing-Encounters/dp/0345424042) nearly from cover to cover that first day. It helps to feel like your anxious or depressed feelings are legitimate, no matter how you approach that task. It was late in the day - getting to the point of incredibly hard to resist toking - when I got to the chapter on pet death. It felt so cathartic to cry about some pets I've had to put down in the last few years - things I never dealt with while sober because I haven't been remotely close to sober for a long time. The point of the chapter was to show how universal feelings of loss are. It was great to read all kinds of people's stories about how they coped or were still processing grief. I feel like potheads have a lot of unprocessed emotions that are perpetually covered up by the habit. It felt great to feel like there was a reason for me to feel sad and anxious - and that I'm not alone in those feelings.

Honestly, I would recommend going to a local used book store. Give a look around the Self Help/Psychology/New Age sections and see if anything appeals to you. The goal is getting in touch with our inner selves - trusting our feelings, accepting their value, and feeling responsible enough to act on insight gained. Even for "happy" people, or sober people, working to recognize the value of one's inner self is daily work. The only difference is that people who use a lot of drugs have given up on believing in themselves to be able to accomplish that work alone.

Trust me, that after daily use, you just need to get a few days under your belt. You have to keep telling yourself that you're doing the right thing, and before you know it you'll start to really feel it in your heart. After daily use, the MJ starts to control your rationality. We come up with all kinds of "reasons" why life is better high. But their just fear-reasons; evasion of reality because we don't trust ourselves to be able to handle the demands of daily living. For me, part of the struggle was letting go of things that kept dragging me into the past. I can't work on today's issues if I'm still fighting yesterday's battles. Try to give up on feelings of self-pity; take responsibility for what has happened in the past by telling yourself that once you figure out how to love yourself, it will be much easier to make the right decisions all the time. I can't go back and change the past, and there's no reason for me to wonder whether I've been doing the wrong thing all along. I think you recognize that we had some good times with MJ, but it's time to move on. In order to feel fulfilled our lives need to get fuller every day - as we learn to love new people and accept deeper facets of our own personality. Work toward acceptance. Know that you will be racked with anxiety, but it will be temporary if you can stay strong. Focus on the things that give you hope. Another big part of committing to this path was deciding on a Dream Career. Even if I don't end up in it, I made a picture in my mind of a life that would be worth being sober for. Reading that book I linked made me realize I wanted to train service/therapy animals. I know that I can't do this if I smoke daily; I would just be looking forward to the workday ending so I could blaze. I wouldn't be able to give my full attention to the nuances of others' behavior, which would mean I wouldn't be as good at communicating. Then there's the whole self-esteem issue, and how jonesin' makes one feel truly worthless in addition to mentally distracted. I just knew I couldn't shine my brightest light if I kept submerging myself in haze.

tl;dr: Read something that allows you to identify with your negative feelings and feel compassionate toward yourself. You will feel anxious anyway when you first go sober, so it's good to have something concrete to blame the anxiety on - and also feel like you're making progress in that recognition. Make an image in your head of the best-case scenario for your life, and then believe that you have the strength and time to achieve it. Also - allow yourself the right to rest and work in equal proportions.

Good luck!!! Keep us updated! We're here for you! It fucking sucks for a little bit, but it's totally doable and feels great. You can do it!!

Certainly! I would be happy to answer any questions you have, just send me a PM. I'm not an expert but I would be happy to give you perspective from the real world side of things.

Here is a study you can read that goes over a lot of what I just said. They included smooshy faces too so you can read about how they performed compared to their normal-nosed counterparts if you're interested!

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4859551/

This is by far the best book I have, but it's expensive but it's an actual textbook. It goes over so so much, including the anatomy of dog noses and scent theory and positive training (they even included some writings by Karen Pryor). Fair warning, there are some chapters in there about how humans decompose so if you're squeamish you may want to skip some chapters. It's all very honest but kind of gross if you find those things off-putting.

https://www.amazon.com/Cadaver-Dog-Handbook-Forensic-Training/dp/0849318866

These two books are honestly very much the same. It's not worth it to buy both, just whichever one happens to be cheaper for you. They are very good though! They don't focus so much on scent theory but they are crammed with lots of training instructions and scent games.

https://www.amazon.com/Ready-Training-Search-Rescue-Dog/dp/1621871045/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1484358751&sr=1-1&keywords=Ready%21+Training+the
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https://www.amazon.com/Search-Rescue-Dogs-Training-Hero/dp/0764567039/ref=pd_bxgy_14_img_2?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=FB2KGHQEPVR4BPM91YPQ

This one is more of just a fun read but I really love it. It is about the author and her cadaver sniffing german shepherd and all the cool things they have done. She is very good about sprinkling cool facts all throughout the book. If you ever want a good book to just read, this one is awesome.

https://www.amazon.com/What-Dog-Knows-Science-Perceive/dp/1451667329/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1484358909&sr=1-1&keywords=what+the+dog+knows

I used to think that a self-aware machine-intelligence was not going to be created by human beings, whether or not such a thing is even possible, but I have started to change my view for a couple of reasons.

One is the understanding that self-awareness, that is, a sense of discrete identity, may not be a necessary component of a high intelligence. An exponentially more intelligent entity than any human might be perfectly possible without that entity being in any way self-aware.

http://www.beinghuman.org/metzinger

https://www.amazon.com/Being-No-One-Self-Model-Subjectivity/dp/0262633086/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_0/142-1611769-0902728?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=HWRG615EE5F7GDRP2FMC

The other thing that may be that if machine AI continues to improve its ability to appear to be self-aware and human-like, it will pass Turing tests based on its sophistication and superior speed, even if it never actually becomes self-aware, and in this case, what's the difference?

Of course, it is useful to keep in mind that in attempting to create machine intelligence comparable to human intelligence, the human intelligence ha the advantage of three billion years of ruthless, make-or-break R & D....

In any case, I am fairly certain it's not such a hot idea.

I didn't find Theoretical Neuroscience particularly readable as others in the thread have said, but it is the go-to book for the classic topics in the field. I found Fundamentals of Computational Neuroscience to be a much much better book for introductions. From Computer to Brain : Foundations of Computational Neuroscience was fairly approachable. On the more cognitive side, From Neuron to Cognition via Computational Neuroscience was pretty good. If you like the nonlinear systems side, Dynamical Systems in Neuroscience: The Geometry of Excitability and Bursting was pretty tough to read but full of good content.

It really depends on what subsets of comp neuro you're most interested in. I worked mostly on the cognitive side, and I was never super satisfied with any books on comp neuro in that area. I think the field is just too young for a great summary to exist beyond the neuronal/small network level.

There is a ton of interesting mathematics that goes into other areas of neuro that wouldn't typically be included in Computational Neuroscience. Different imaging methods, for instance, have some pretty fun math involved and are very active areas of research.

As you said, definitely a good idea to wait until you have a more definitive prognosis, but there are some resources I can suggest for when that time comes. If you end up with a cancer diagnosis, or actually even if you don't, I highly recommend the picture book Let My Colors Out - it briefly mentions that the mom has cancer but mostly just refers to her being very sick, so you could skip the cancer sentence and it would work just as well. Most of the other cancer books focus on aspects of treatment that may or may not apply to you (hair loss from chemo, etc) but there also a few books that explain long-term parental illness more broadly which might be worth checking out, such as Mommy Has to Stay in Bed and Mommy Can't Dance. None of these touch on the idea of terminal illness, however. There are only a couple picture books I'm aware of that show both before and after the death - The Fix-It Man is a beautiful story of a little girl who thinks her dad can fix anything, until her mother dies of an unspecified long-term illness and the girl and her dad try to come to terms with the loss; and Ida, Always is a story about two polar bears who are best friends until one develops a terminal illness, gets increasingly sick, and eventually dies. Both are obviously pretty emotional stories, but manage to end on a note of hope and healing. There's also a very simple activity book called Help Me Say Goodbye to help children understand terminal illness and cope after their loved one dies; it's designed for slightly older kids but would definitely be something a 4yo could work through with you and your partner.

There are other picture books that take place immediately after the parent's death, such as The Garden of Hope which shows a father and young daughter coping with the loss of her mother; Missing Mommy which is told from the perspective of a very young child trying to understand where his deceased mother has gone; and The Scar, also from the perspective of a young boy whose mother has just died (the opening lines are, "Mom died this morning. It wasn't really this morning. Dad said she died during the night, but I was sleeping during the night. For me, she died this morning.") This last one may not be appropriate for a 4yo, as it's longer and more complex, and quite emotionally intense. There are also a few picture books that I feel are a bit more aimed at the parents than the children, but may be meaningful to you - A Bubble, which was written by a dying mother to her two-year-old daughter, and Only One of Me, which was written by a mother to her children upon receiving a diagnosis of terminal cancer.

And of course there books that help children understand and cope with death of a loved one more broadly - for a 4yo, I would recommend I Miss You: A First Look at Death as a good non-fiction explanation and The Goodbye Book for a very simple look at the feelings that come with saying goodbye when someone dies. I also really like the book Life is Like the Wind, which explains death as life leaving the body the way wind leaves a kite and causes it to no longer fly; it does a good job of concretely explaining what death means and how it feels to lose someone you love, and also briefly explores different beliefs about what happens after you die ("People have different ideas about where a life goes when it leaves the body. Some people believe the life enters another body to give life to a new creature. Others believe life goes to a happy place called heaven, where the life can enjoy its favorite things. Some think life goes deep into the ground, giving new life to trees and flowers, or that life goes way up into the stars, where it twinkles brightly and watches over us.") There are also some good books that focus on ways to remember lost loved ones, such as The Memory Box, Here in the Garden, and Always and Forever. There are also several other activity books to help children process grief, such as Muddles, Puddles, and Sunshine and Why Did You Die? Activities to Help Children Cope with Grief & Loss.

Lastly, I'd like to recommend two books that aren't about illness or death specifically but might be very reassuring to your daughter, and you could start reading them now in any case - The Invisible String and No Matter What. The latter has both a UK edition and a US edition with slightly different text, most notably the endings; the UK version includes a line about love continuing after death, which the US one sanitizes into just "when you're far away" - I recommend taking a look at both versions and deciding which you prefer (here are youtube videos showing the US version and UK version). There's also a workbook/activity book coming out in a couple months to go with the Invisible String book, so might be worth checking that out too when it's available.

I hope all this information isn't too overwhelming - feel free to save this post for a time when you feel up to dealing with it, or hand it off to your partner to sort through. Hopefully you'll find something in here helpful. There are also lots of good resources online to advise you on how to have these conversations with your daughter; I'd recommend checking out the comments in this recent post for some good links. Especially be sure to check out the Sesame Street resources on grief in young children, lots of useful stuff in there. I also definitely recommend both you and your partner speaking to a counselor (and your daughter too eventually). I can't imagine going through something like this, and while I completely understand the guilt you feel, I really hope you can find ways to let go of that and enjoy the time you have left with your family. Wishing you healing and peace.

Hobson is definitely the guy I would recommend, I would go with his popular press book (which has a fair bit of jargon) but is a really good and interesting read that should be understandable if you're willing to do a bit of googling (mostly just understanding neurotransmitters and the names of the brain regions). The book is "The Dream Drug Store". It goes into a lot of the neurobiology of it while also attempting to understand how that relates to normal cognition and ultimately attempting to link levels or degree's of consciousness and altered states of consciousness (from drug use) to dream states, it's actually really cool and pretty well written.

I can't advise on applying to PhD programs, but a book you should definitely look into is Dynamical Systems in Neuroscience by Izhikevich.

Slightly related, the intersection between neuroscience and topology will either by through ODEs (think phase plane analysis type stuff, which Izhikevich covers in detail) or analyzing neural networks via network analysis (so more graph theory type stuff) or algebraic topology (i.e. topological data analysis).

I think penn state has an active group doing neuroscience with topological tools. Specifically Carina Curto is someone to look into; if she doesn't do stuff you're particularly interested in, one of her collaborators likely will. She also wrote a survey article in the bulletin of the ams recently. I skimmed it and it looks like it will give a you a good flavour of how topology is used in neuroscience nowadays. Good luck!

Going to jump in and take a stab at responding, if nobody minds...

Neuropsychology uses mathematics very rarely. Neuropsych is more about brain injury and rehabilitating the person around whatever neural issue they have. Neuropsychologists typically operate as part of a clinical treatment team, working alongside a neurologist, maybe a neurosurgeon if there was some intracranial or CNS trauma involved, and some sort of physical, behavioral, or cognitive therapist. In this team, neuropsychologists usually run the tests to diagnose disabilities or track symptoms over time. If you're interested in the neuroscience of psychology/cognition, you may be more interested in cognitive or behavioral neuroscience. These fields rely on mathematics but in a different way because the observations at that level are so hard to quantify. Mathematics in cognitive neuroscience (and even neuropsychology) is more about measurement theory: quantifying abstract or immeasurable phenomena and then attempting to explain how high-level function is tied to low-level events. Stuff that comes to mind includes the neurobiology of autism, visual attention, information processing in sensory networks, etc. This will lead into Bayesian decision theory, information theory, psychophysics, probability models, and from a very theoretical side, graph theory and looking at the mathematics of network topology and multi-sensory integration.

Mathematics is used in neurochemistry (or, more precisely, in fields like biochemistry, neuroendocrinology, neuropharmacology, biophysics, etc). In those fields, math is often used to describe the dynamics of whatever system you are studying, whether it's some kinetic process like diffusion or changes in protein conformation or receptor/chemical binding dynamics or even chemical metabolism. For this, you'll really want to know your differential equations and dynamical systems. The Dayan and Abbott textbook is great for this, but also look at http://www.amazon.com/Dynamical-Systems-Neuroscience-Excitability-Computational/dp/0262514206/ and even check out the journal Biological Cybernetics. Bertil Hille's book is also really good for things happening in and around the neuron.

My heart goes out to you on this one. No matter the dogs age its never long enough that we get to share our lives with them. I firmly believe that in this life there are those special dogs the ones you are going to carry with you forever in your heart and I think that Bee is one of those dogs for you! I 100% Recommend getting this book http://www.amazon.com/Every-Dog-Angel-Christine-Davis/dp/0965922529/ref=sr_1_16?ie=UTF8&qid=1321646255&sr=8-16 I personally give a copy of it to my friends when they lose a "forever" dog. Spoil the pants off that dog my angel Skye when we lost her we made a day of just moments for her. We went to the beach and got Mcdonalds on the way. We sat in the sand with her and fed her a 20 piece chicken nugget. We then went to the vets and thank goodness it was the one I worked at because the doctor let us go outside under the stars and do it (the office made Skye nervous). I would also ask if they can make a paw print of Bee most vets offices will do that for you. If you need an ear or a shoulder please let me know.

Not to be weird, but there's a really interesting book I read a few months ago about animals and heaven, and whatnot. Now, I'm an agnostic and pretty skeptical, but the author of the book was a profound lover of rats and I think it would make you feel better.

http://www.amazon.com/Animals-Afterlife-Stories-Friends-Journey/dp/0972061304

>I feel like you don't understand what is being asked.

Actually, I do understand what's being asked. It simply seems you don't understand my answer.

>You wouldn't care if someone took you girl/boyfriend, house, all your money, and your job? Really?

What do you mean "someone"? It's me taking my stuff.

>If that's your position I honestly don't think you're being honest with yourself.

I understand my position quite perfectly but it seems you haven't thought about your existence very thoroughly.

Like I already suggested to someone else: If you are actually interested in further discussion on this topic I suggest reading the book Being No One by famous German cognitive scientist Thomas Metzinger, which has become essential reading for anyone interested in cognitive psychology by now or the less scientific description of the book's basic ideas in the more popular book The Ego Tunnel.

You're not alone. I've been through this several times, although perhaps not as dramatically. It's a huge, devastating loss. Part of what's so isolating about it is that not everyone is an animal lover or understands the bond, so you don't know whom to trust or confide in about this.

There are some pet loss support groups, both online and IRL. They can be very comforting. I recommend contacting your vet's office or the local shelters to inquire.

Also, the book Goodbye, Friend: Healing Wisdom for Anyone Who Has Ever Lost a Pet is very helpful.

Take care.

Reefcentral is the reddit of marine fish world, the mods in new to hobby are as good as it gets. Never go to your local fish store for advice!!! When you are ready, go to reefcentral and ask question after question. Give a couple hours at the most for them to be answered. Its overwhelming at first. I also started with this book and read and posted to reefcentral non stop. Took me a couple months to figure out the basics + more but now its super simple and if I dont know an answer I hit up reefcentral with a pic. Oh yea, Patience. Go into the hobby with a 3-5 month window before you plan on being up and running (maybe even more depending on your $$ situation). Know the larger the tank the easier it is to keep the water parameters. I have a 75 gallon and man am I glad thats what I started with.

http://www.reefcentral.com/forums/index.php

Robert Sapolsky's A Primate's Memoir is excellent. I had been working with primates as an undergrad and was thinking about doing field work but wasn't sure if I had just romanticized the whole thing. The lab director heard about this and lent me this book and inspired me to go out and do it! After spending 9 months in Africa, I applied for a post-grad program in primatology and will be going out again next spring! It basically changed my life.

Another great one is Jon Krakauer's Into the Wild. Taught me there's nothing to fear in nature. Helped me adjust to field life and now I'm absolutely addicted to the outside.

Circle Round is an excellent book on this topic: https://www.amazon.com/Circle-Round-Raising-Children-Traditions/dp/0553378058 it gives really useful, kid friendly and meaningful ways kids can participate in ritual.

I feel especially qualified to answer since I am a lady, a metal fan, and today is my birthday. I got Metal Cats which is perhaps the best present I've ever received. Concert tickets would be a good bet too. I always appreciate gifts that are more experiences rather than things.

Try this book:

Dog Obsessed: The Honest Kitchen's Complete Guide to a Happier, Healthier Life for the Pup You Love https://www.amazon.com/dp/1623367484/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_s9KLzbC6ZAAG4

Yo, every pre-T trans guy from the UK that I've heard has had a voice that (to me) passes with flying colors, haha. Also, I love that poem--Whitman is seriously incredible. If you're interested in other queer authors, you should totally read Mark Doty; I consider him today's Whitman (in terms of his focus on natural themes, his being gay, and the caliber of his work--stylistically, it might be a stretch, haha). While reading one of his memoirs (called Dog Years ) I was crying ugly tears in the first chapter, haha. There are very few authors who can do that to me. Anyway, congrats on being so close to T, man! That's so exciting.

Aww. What a sweetie. You can tell by the look in her eyes that she loves you, and she was tired.


I know it was hard, but you did good.

If you go over to... I believe it's /r/freeebooks, they have one on there you can download today from Amazon for free. It's all about coping with the loss of a pet.

Edit: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01GBQW9W8

Highly recommend reading Cat Warren's book What The Dog Knows. It's about her training her first cadaver dog, and she does a great job weaving in some history and general info.


I finished it two months ago and immediately got my dogs enrolled in scent work classes lol.

This book might be of interest to you. It's honestly just pictures, but some of them are really awesome.

In the book The Dreaming Brain by Dr. J. Allan Hobson, it's explained that the parts of your brain that are active during REM sleep along with the change in levels of certain chemicals in your brain contribute to some common characteristics of dreams.

Thee characteristics are that dreams often feature intense emotions (especially fear, anxiety and surprise), dreams are disorganized, illogical and can contain really bizarre sensory experiences (they begin randomly and you have feelings like falling/flying/running in slow motion), and dream content is very difficult to remember due to the fact that long term memory functions are not active during REM sleep and short term memory functions are not ideal due to low levels of serotonin and high levels of acetylcholine during REM sleep cycles.

Your emotions during dreaming are affected by the chemicals in your brain during the REM cycle and certain regions of your brain being the most active, like the limbic system.

I recommend Dreaming: An Introduction to the Science of Sleep or The Dream Drugstore to learn more about Hobson's activation synthesis theory. His books are hard to read because they're very technical, but they were extremely interesting.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/0099285770

A great book by this man, and a very enjoyable read

Daniel Wolpert sums it up pretty nicely. If you prefer to read, I of the Vortex has answers as well.

This book got really good reviews! Dog Heaven

Other well reviewed books that you might want to look into are: The Forever Dog

and For Every Dog and Angel

Though not domesticated, this man did live with and travel the world with his wolf Brenin. Basically he just understood he needed to be faster, stronger and smarter than the wolf at all times.

Here you go: "Metal Cats" - Metal musicians and their cats.

Today in the news, I found the link on the homepage of Germany's (by far) largest online magazine.

This is the best photo!

The book "Metal Cats" (Amazon)

What a BEAUTIFUL ANGEL!!! I am SO incredibly sorry for your loss!😢😢😢 Highly recommend the very short pocket-sized book “Weep Not for Me: In Memory of a Beloved Cat” by Constance Jenkins. It definitely helps (once you’re ready). Here’s the amazon link:
Weep Not for Me: In Memory of a Beloved Cat https://www.amazon.com/dp/0285634925/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_VvW6Bb68W42G7

Jack Wintz has a book on this subject that is actually really good, called "I Will See You In Heaven": http://www.amazon.com/I-Will-See-You-Heaven/dp/1557257329

I say actually because I have read others that fell flat for me, but this one helped.

I'm so sorry for your loss. For what it's worth, I firmly believe your dog is in Heaven, and that you will see each other again. I don't believe God creates only to destroy. I don't see anything less than a concern for all of creation throughout the whole Bible.

My dog was my best friend, she kept me going through college and a lot of difficult things. I have no doubt that I will see her again, and that she still is, somewhere. I don't say this to make you feel as if you shouldn't doubt it, but just to say I deeply, deeply believe this. She was real and she is real and she mattered, and that can't be undone.

Izhikevich has a great book for mathematical descriptions of neurons and circuits, some cartoons and interpretable descriptions
https://www.amazon.com/Dynamical-Systems-Neuroscience-Excitability-Computational/dp/0262514206/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1543300294&sr=8-1&keywords=dynamical+systems+in+neuroscience
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I saw this right below your post on my front page, so i thought i'd just let you know that this book on dealing with lost pets is free until the 7th.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01GBQW9W8

I love dogs, man. Losing them just feels so bad.

Cool! Here are some links:

A book - Circle Round:
https://www.amazon.com/Circle-Round-Raising-Children-Traditions/dp/0553378058

Some sites - http://www.brigidshearth.org/paganparenting.html

http://www.witchvox.com/va/dt_va.html?a=ustx&c=parent&id=2400

Considering this is on top of my wishlist, and this is one of my favourite tumblrs...I'm going with "appealing". My SO was not hugely fond of my 2 cats at first (generally likes dogs more) but he loves them and spoils them rotten now.

Well there is a list of the bands here for the paperback: http://amzn.com/1576876772

Shirt?

Punk kitty?

Hair metal kitty?

A book?

Check out the Metal Cats photo book.

http://www.amazon.com/Being-No-One-Self-Model-Subjectivity/dp/0262633086

Super fucking relevant

I came across this book Metal Cats at the library that shows the other size of some these metalheads. Hmmmmm cats, foxes......

http://www.amazon.com/dp/1576876772/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

Link to a copy of the book on amazon

Metal Cats

Have you read Being No One by German cognitive scientist Thomas Metzinger?

If not, then you haven't read enough, yet.

Here it is on Amazon.

I'm in the middle of reading Metzinger's Being No One; one of the things he's big on is identifying which constructs within a transparent self model survive being popped out and consciously examined, and which elements are inextricable (hence transparent) building blocks of the model itself. I suppose any functional theory of mind includes the limitations of what is not mind, or what can be removed and keep the mind intact? It's a great book so far, but very difficult going. It's amazing how much of symbolic/epistemic language is dependent upon an unreconstructed dualistic view of mind. Makes talking about it/thinking about it very, very difficult.

Being No One: The Self-Model Theory of Subjectivity. A bit hefty read, as it is very detailed and scientific despite being written by a philosopher (of neuroscience). Sinks very deep into the subject, speaking of which she or he who is reading is supposedly going to lose.