(Part 2) Reddit mentions: The best tops, tees & blouses for women

Also paging /u/melfinastarwind as well :D A lot of the things I save are a little more goth ninja or cyber-y at best, but there are also lots of ruffles and lace in these stores!

1. PattyBoutik! Their stuff seems to be pretty well reviewed, adequatley priced, and really cute. I love their simple black tops as they feature a lot of different cuts. For example, I've been coveting this for ages.
   
   
2. Ellazhu! Lots of pants (harem pants hnnnnng) but lots of tops sprinkled in there as well.
   
   
3. WearAll!
   
   
4. AllegraK! Tops, tops everywhere.
   
   So that should get you started in that area of amazon shops. The real magic comes in when you're recommended products from other stores, which is a great way to branch out and explore more of them.
   
   Some disclaimers I'd say about those Amazon shops though is that you really have to be picky with what you buy or accept that your stuff might not be very high quality, considering a lot of them come from Asia. However I've never really had a problem ordering from them, you just have to be sure to check the individual reviews of the products you want.

Thank you so, so much. This is all SO helpful.

I found this in my online research, written by a woman who apparently lived there for a while. Putting what she says together with your insights really helped me finally grasp what I think I need to be wearing (please let me know if you think I’ve misinterpreted anything here):

• not only does my bottom need to be covered, but my crotch in the front as well. We should be pretending that part of my body doesn’t exist.
  
  
• the scarf is for hiding any evidence of boobs
  
  
• covering arms and legs is for the purpose of desexualizing me as much as possible. Same with neckline. I am an object of temptation to men and the more invisible I am in that regard, the happier I’ll be.
  
  
• leggings are fine as long as they cover my calves and my crotch/butt is covered
  
  I forgot to mention: the family were staying with is considered part of the socioeconomic “1%”. I will DEFINITELY bring a gift - I’m glad you said that because it wasn’t on my radar. I’ll ask my friend (lives here, from there) what’s appropriate. I know I will be fitted for wedding attire upon arrival. Is there any significant difference in dress that you know of that might be applicable if I am going to be with a family of high stature there?
  
  I looked around amazon and found some very plain, simple linen/cotton kurtis that I think I could wear over leggings and reuse at home as beach cover-ups and such. Does that sound like a good plan? Something like this or this ? Then I’ll follow the hosts’ lead on what I should buy there.
  
  Same with the kiddo: I’m having trouble finding kids’ kurtis, but I’m sure I can at least find a couple of maxi dresses she can wear with leggings until we shop for something local for her.
  
  Sturdy sandals, nothing expensive, preferably with a bit of platform: do I need to avoid leather?
  
  I can’t thank you enough for all your help and guidance. You’re a godsend. My friend here whose family were staying with there is an amazing friend and man, but he’s a MAN and also he has ADD (not hating, everyone in my family, myself included, does, too, so I’m just highly aware of the potential communication breakdowns), so I don’t trust his awareness of these issues and his recall of what he has and hasn’t told me about.

I do. The drape cardigan was one of the most comfortable, softest things I owned - until i washed it. (Easy cycle, cold water, hang dry.) Now it is just the tiniest bit stiff but I don't think it's anything fabric softener won't fix. It's a nice, heavy jersey. I wore it as a top layer yesterday in 60-degree weather and was very comfortable.

I also own this cowlneck top in light grey - it's a nice, soft, light jersey that washes well. (Cold, easy care, then dry on low/medium.) my only issue is that it doesn't drape quite as well as my other tops, so I have to spend a couple of seconds messing with it to get it to sit right. But the color and sleeve length is great.

The last top I ordered was this one with the strappy sleeves. I thought it would be a fun going out top. But the material was a little stiffer than I liked, and the strap detail on the sleeves both didn't 1) sit on my shoulders or 2) stand up above them. They just kind of flopped around. I went down a size, but they did the same thing. I guess they figure when you need a XL top you're just kind of fat all over. I have the same problem with jeans - when they fit in the hips, they are HUGE in the calf area.

And that's all I've tried so far, hope it helps.

TL;DR Anything but dresses.

I have had great success with...

-Lolita Charm socks: BUY THOSE for real they are amazing.

-Hugme Skirts: Get one size up from what you think you need. DON'T buy the suspender skirts they are cute but too short! They say you can message them and tell them a custom length but I have not tried that.

-M4U Skirt: I love my Ice Cream print skirt I got from them, it is long enough and the bow detaches. The fabric is kinda odd, not shiny but it almost feels water proof/smooth like a synthetic fabric.

-These tights in the pastel pack! Get those when they come back into stock they are very comfortable and fit well.

-Purses: I got a great one from the U Like store but I also had one purse never show up from them due to customs. They gave me a refund.

-Shirts: This one Is really meh, I would avoid it unless you can sew details on the cuff sleeves. This one I like but I bought for my size and its too big so maybe order one size down.

Since you are started out with 36FF, one reasonable prediction is that you will probably end up in UK H-K territory after birth.

Of course, every pregnancy is different and breasts do their own thing.

>For both of these situations, I see clothing with zero boob support built in, and especially with the gown--no way to hide a bra. HOW DO PEOPLE DO THIS, I wasn't even able to wear strapless stuff before these things turned into gallon milk jugs, but I see these fantastic ultra preggo strapless/braless gorgeous fashion statements and want a piece of that. How do?

Well, aesthetics change, and unfortunate for us busty girls the "twiggy" silhoutte is in right now. Slim, small breasts, able to wear oversized tops without looking ridiculous, legs in leggings or skinny pants sticking out said oversized tops, ...

These preggo strapless/braless fashion statements are part of the same. With the type of dress you linked most women with smaller breasts will look flat-chested in it. They can only pull it off because their breasts are larger due to their pregnancy and the dress is meant to highlight that.

If you are going to buy something similar, you want a dress that is shirred in the bust. Like this:

https://www.amazon.com/HDE-Womens-Strapless-Dress-Sundress/dp/B00ZAIWN0C/

It is the only way you will be able to get your knockers into a dress like this. (Guess how I know!)

Regarding summer clothes in general there are two approaches: Buy a strapless bra (Elomi Maria is available up to HH cup) and pray your breast size does not change too much. Or get flowy summer tops where you can easily hide thicker straps.

I am talking stuff like this:

https://www.amazon.com/Sweet-Pea-Sleeveless-Maternity-X-Large/dp/B00WK394VQ/

https://www.amazon.com/Seraphine-Liza-Front-Sleeveless-Maternity/dp/B001P5FRQQ/

https://www.amazon.com/Sleeveless-Tunic-Asymmetrical-Shirt-U6255-COR-10-1/dp/B00LUSXNLE/

You want tank tops, but not strappy tops.

EDIT For many floor-length shirred strapless dresses it is easy to cut of 1-2 inches off the length and make straps out of that. A good seamstress will place these straps on top of your bra, hiding your brastraps and sew a small loop with a snap so that the straps of the dress stay on top of the bra straps.

A. I'd be finishing off paying my credit cards, maybe pay off a chunk of school loans, spend $500 on buying some decorations for the house and chuck the rest into savings in the bank.

B. Shelves. I need more space to set things besides the bar top in the kitchen, which I can't do that anymore because my cat is likes to destroy everything she can find lol maybe some faux ivy to hang up around the house as well.

C. I'm not sure whether you wanted exterior fur or interior fur sooo

Exterior

Interior

D. I'd suggest reading Good Omens by Neil Gaiman. It's a little less sci-fi, but still a bit fantasy in that it's an angel and demon trying to stop the apocalypse. Hilarious book and brilliant writing. Gaiman also wrote a graphic novel for Marvel for 1602 that I haven't had the chance to read, but hear it's great. But I'm guessing you probably already know who the author is since one of his books are already on your list. I'd also suggest Prey by Michael Crichton. It's about a loose swarm of nanobots escaped from a laboratory.

E. This floral shirt is really cute!

F.  Maybe given your interest in animals and Norse mythology, you might like this?

G. I'd pick u/SpecialJNess because she's new here, but she's quickly become an active part of the community, goes out of her way to make people feel welcome and has an absolutely radiant positive attitude.

Sorry to hear about your fibromyalgia, I have a family member with it and it sounds no fun.

Unfortunately what I'm about to list includes mostly discontinued basics, but hopefully it gives you some ideas.

While I'm not in chronic pain on the level you have been, I have been dealing with some things off and on the last few years which led me towards living in comfy clothes. So as not to perpetually look like I'm just on my way to/from yoga class, I try to dress in layers of nicely-textured fabrics along with my nice-looking yoga pants from Eddie Bauer (now discontinued.)

For example, I will layer a sateen tank (Macy's Charter Club, discontinued) under a light wrap in the summer or nice cardigan in winter. I got the tanks in store from Macy's, and the sweaters from TJ Maxx, Macy's, or Amazon, but here's an example of the wrap from Amazon: [light wrap] (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GJ2NVOK/ref=wl_it_dp_o_pC_nS_ttl?_encoding=UTF8&colid=1PYOTTYDQQ43P&coliid=IRL3B97V59UYR&psc=1) and this is similar to the sweaters: [sweater] (https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Front-Draped-Shawl-Cardigan/dp/B014LTL5UY/ref=pd_sim_193_28?_encoding=UTF8&refRID=66YX7SM8V3VS14W94G5K )

The other thing I love to do is layer a criss-cross cardigan like [this] (https://www.amazon.com/Popana-Criss-Cross-Cardigan-Medium/dp/B00PKV5MEI/ref=sr_1_4?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1478560877&sr=1-4&nodeID=7141123011&keywords=criss%2Bcross%2Bcardigan&th=1)
over a [tank top] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B006Z8HJ82/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o09_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) or [long-sleeved shirt] (https://www.amazon.com/LEVEL-6731-Tri-Blend-Long-Sleeve-Scoop/dp/B007S0YY0W/ref=pd_sim_193_38?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=88Q2GRKDBDHQ016JKA3T) depending on the weather.

And of course, there is always the option for cute scarves over comfortable shirts. None of what I wear is high fashion or top-of-the-line stylish, but it is all cute, comfortable, and I always feel like I look good which is really the main point for me.

crossing my fingers the links work

Item: Wood Wood Abril Tee

• Price paid: $96, including shipping
  
• Construction: Great
  
• Etcetera: I really wanted a breton stripe top, and shopped around for a suitable option. I was tempted by St. James (the originals!) but ended up going for this shorter-sleeved version. It's a cool shirt, but it definitely feels a bit different than what I originall wanted. It's a little stiffer & shorter than I was planning for.
  
• Worth it? Y/N Overall I really like it, but it fills a different role for me than a breton stripe shirt. As a result I'm still considering buying a more traditional version.
  
  Item: Frye Otis Penny Loafer, Sapphire
  
  
• Price paid: $82.61, off Amazon (now sold out there)
  
• Construction: Not bad, they're welted and leather throughout and such. Not the greatest leather ever, but doesn't feel like 'genuine leather,' either. Probably top grain.
  
• Etcetera: I dunno what exactly happened here. I missed some flash sale tassel loafers, and then kind of went mad searching for blue loafers until I found these. Definitely a weird impulse buy. That said, I like loafers and these are super comfy, if a bit large. (I bought my normal size)
  
• Worth it? Y/N/kindof? I like wearing these, but I'm really not sold on the color and distressing in-person. I may try some navy shoe cream to darken them up and even out the distressing. I wear these a lot, though, and use them as house slippers, so they've made up their cost.
  
  Item: Women's 1000 Mile Boot
  
  
• Price paid: $355
  
• Construction: Amazing.
  
• Etcetera: I had wanted these boots for ~6 months, and when I got the chance to try them on, I couldn't leave the store without purchasing. I love these boots.
  
• Worth it? YES/N
  
  Item: Cheap Monday Colleen Shirt, Light Washed Denim
  
  
• Price paid: ~$64
  
• Construction: Good
  
• Etcetera: I wanted a sleeveless button up shirt and this one wasn't a perfect match for my goals, but I kept coming back to it. Decided to buy partly on impulse, partly because I couldn't get it out of my head. I plan to make some alterations on it this summer, as it's slightly large, but I'm liking it so far.
  
• Worth it? Y/N
  
  Item: Crewcuts boys' short-sleeve henley
  
  
• Price paid: ~$26
  
• Construction: Seems good, but I have not worn/washed yet.
  
• Etcetera: I just received this, but including in the interest of honesty. It's really soft and fits like I wanted (very slightly oversized) so I hope to get a lot of use out of it in the future.
  
• Worth it? Y/N/We'll see
  
  I've bought a few not-fashion clothing items, like athletic socks and tights, but I don't really consider those here.
  
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  I bought tops and shoes, lol. I hadn't even realized this... The shoes were both totally unnecessary, but I love* shoes so much that I tend to overlook necessity when purchasing. I consider all the tops sensible purchases, as they fill a hole in my wardrobe and all three bring significant diversity to my normal uniform of plain tees. I think I need to stop buying shoes, though... but my boyf just got me a pair of espadrilles... they are really clearly my weak point.

I'd say that going for a (mostly) black outfit maybe your best shot at looking professional while also being able to mix in your personal style.

Regarding shirts,this black floaty top will certainly look smart when paired with something like a simple pencil skirt (which is petite too! and elasticated so it'll be comfortable to move around in)

I'd pair these with a pair of simple black or sheer pantyhose, a blazer in any style really, you can't go wrong with an all black outfit and some simple brogues. You can add further personal touches with your hair and jewellery.

If it was something a little more covered up this shirt is pretty good for that.

And to make it a little more casual a cardigan (1) (2) would be a good way to go.

And, lastly, for trousers, these look pretty good and as they are juniors they should fall a little shorter.

Obligatory, Working in my birthday suit and good luck! I hope you find something :)

Pretty Skirt!

Your style reminds me of Lucky Brand Jeans :) I think you would love their accessories! Super "70s Hippie" ;)

Bracelet

Bracelet 2

Necklace

ring

T-Shirt,
T-shirt 2

and check out any of their jeans. I just linked them all because there's different styles and sizes ;)

and actually here is all of their jewelry just because I could spend hours linking to all the cute ones!

This boot isn't on amazon and it's a little pricey but I thought it was adorable! Roxy has some other nice boots on amazon too and they seem to hold up to wear pretty well :)

Anyways, hope you find some cute stuff! I love shopping!

for me just this used if that's ok. I don't have an e-reader :(

edit Sorry! geez I'm dumb they have the whole Lucky Brand Store on amazon

This top

With these pants

And this blazer

and to top it off...

get these pumps

It doesn't even break the bank and with all the colors you can mix and match and accessorize with jewelry and look different every day.

This outfit goes from the board room to the dance floor with ease. Also, they are durable as hell, for instance, the white one of the tank top I spilled an entire glass of red wine on while I was dancing the night away after work. Threw it in the wash after throwing some shout on it - like brand new.

I also try to stick to chiffon for shirts for two reasons. First, they lay nicely on everyone, and second, if you spill something on it, you can run to the bathroom, shout pen it, rinse, and then stick it under the hand dryer and it's like you never spilled your coffee on you for the millionth time this year. (This will also work for pit stains if it gets too hot, have your friend hold the door, take off the shirt, run it under the hand dryer, LIKE NEW.)

These items go on sale ALL the time at Amazon. I only buy the tank tops when they are $7.99 for instance. Install camel camel on your browser and set a price watch for them.

Bonus, if you're in a colder room and the tank isn't your thing, you can substitute this blouse, which also looks amazing on everyone and professional AF

Another bonus, if the boot cut pants are too "professional", you can dress the tops down with jeans or these leggings which manage to hold you in all day long without riding down.

I am obsessed with Amazon style in general. Almost everything has free returns if you have prime, so I order a ton of stuff, see what fits, and then send back what I don't like. It's great. People compliment me on my outfits all the time and I am like muahahhahahhaha, I didn't even pay a ton of money for this. <3

UCer, here! I love skirts and dresses. A line dresses work great and are really flattering on me no matter the day. I like ones where I can take a belt to adjust the waist for skinny or big days. Wrap dresses that are more flowy work great, too, but you can find some knit ones you'd think would be a disaster, but work amazingly! I have a collection of skirts (lots with elastic bands) that I can wear with different tops to work on skinny or big days... I usually have a more flowy top for the big days, but big boobs + flowy top = appearance of pregnancy, so I'll typically tuck in a little corner [like the top left] (http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-UiIzeUY-FeY/T7mNJ2CyFoI/AAAAAAAAJ_E/ycvZVPUzqrc/s1600/HalfTuckJCrew2.jpg) so you can tell I'm not, in fact, with child... but still gives me room to be comfortable that a fitted or completely tucked in shirt would not. I do the same thing with jeans/pants. Obviously a sweater isn't going to work in the summer, so I do a flowy shirt/tuck in a corner.

I know this is odd, but get a ton of comfort in wearing a cami under all of my tops. I got a million plain camis (I really like this brand, but I get ones without the built in bra (or cut them out... those things are a joke)). They stretch with any weight changes, and they're long so they're easy to tuck in and not have to worry about them creeping up. Something about having the clothing tight against my skin makes me feel comfortable no matter the day. It also helps camouflage weird boob lines that my bra can make on bigger boob days. I got a pair of Spanx in [this style] (http://www.spanx.com/shop/spanx/shapewear/focused-firmers-high-waist-mid-thigh-zid38-MS1834/cat-38-catid-tn_spx_sw?CategoryDomainName=SPXNA-38&_t=pfm%3Dapr) that I can wear under tighter dresses to give me that same comfort... I got that style so it covers my belly on the big days... It's like getting a hug all day ;)

I don't personally wear a lot of button ups, so I'm less sure about those, but I do have two great ones from Jones New York for interviews and such. Still pretty reasonably priced, and they have darts at the waist that create a nice shape. If you look at this image you will see the seams down the bodice on each side - that will create a bit of a curve to your waist. Also, you'll notice it doesn't button straight up to the top of the collar, but leaves a nice trim v-neck. I think details like that really feminize a classic piece - imagine that in white rather than the bright magenta in the image. At first look, it's just a white button down, but it has some thoughtful details to make it "dainty" for lack of better word.

skirt ($26)

ribbon

shirt

Honestly, you could and probably should find the shirt and ribbon in person to make sure the red matches, but to be safe I linked them.

Looks like a fun outfit and I hope you found this helpful!

If I may add, I think going with a shoulder free top would look great as well!

top

Sounds like fun.

• I've always been interested in women's clothes, especially shoes. I only put 1+1 together and identified as a crossdresser around 11 or 12. I'm now 18.
  
  
• One person, my cousin who is the cloest thing I have to a brother, but he lives states away. He's the only one I can talk to about it and he's accepting. My mom stumbled across my crossdressing and had some freaky breakdown, purged my shit, and assumed it was done and over. That is why I have not told her that it's not done and over.
  
  
• I feel pretty, oh so pretty. Idk, I like the idea of being beautiful. I see cool technology, I want it. I see a beautiful woman, I kind of want to be that too. Doesn't mean I dislike my life, but there's nothing like a dress and a pair of heels. Unfortunately, whenever I do dress, 99% of the time it becomes sexual.
  
  
• I try to dress with some amount of class. That means classy heels, untorn jeans, beautiful blouses over a white cami, cute red summer dresses, etc. I get everything from Amazon.
  
  
• I feel like I don't pass because I haven't really tried in public yet, or gone all the way at home with makeup and hair. I have a positive outlook though because people are already mistaking me for a woman when in the presence of other women due to my long hair. I'll be in public in total guy-mode and people will refer to me as ma'am or say "I'll be right with you ladies" at restaurants.
  
  
• I... don't know? I love to wear the clothes but I'm still me, but I'm definitely a more feminine version of me so...?
  
  
• I have not crossdressed in public officially. I've worn flats out once but it was half-assed under some jeans and at night and nobody stared, but I hardly consider that crossdressing in public.
  
  
• I'm straight. I'd never want to fuck another guy, however some role reversal with a woman sounds... kinky fun.