Reddit mentions: The best books about hearing problems

Thank you - I do appreciate it. I 'm surprised no one with reddit-fu has outed my other account yet.

Q1: There's really no difference although I always tell people go to a brick and mortar, physical book shop in your neighborhood. Need to support bookshops. Amazon doesn't have bathrooms. I know Barnes & Noble carries it - I don't know who else. But if you want to buy it online, I usually send people to Amazon just because they have the best tracking information for authors so I get some idea of how sales are going (http://www.amazon.com/Universal-Sense-Hearing-Shapes-Mind/dp/1608190900/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1327890122&sr=8-1). Helps keep my publisher honest (although frankly Bloomsbury's been pretty cool - my editors have been great and had to put up with a lot from a first time popular science writer)

Q2: I think that would be amazing. I always wanted to do a TED talk, but the invitations for the basic 'real" TEDs are few and far between, and as I understand it, all the other ones you pay to enter and I'm not really okay with that idea. But if you try and set something like that up, let me know if I can help.

MOST IMPORTANT: Definitely 100 bat sized horses. First, I love bats and have only run into 2 mean ones in all the time I worked with them. Worst one was Vlad. Big brown bat. Serious asshole. But he was a damn good bat for behavior so we tolerated his constant attempts to shred us. The other was Delilah, a hipposideros constant frequency bat. BIG. Beautiful. Mean as a junkyard bat. But for the most part they are pretty calm, well behaved, interested in eating, flying and napping and once they've been handled for a bit and learn to eat from your hand and then a dish, they are easier to work with than mice.

On the other hand horses. I have been kicked, bitten, thrown and dragged by almost every horse I encountered. Particularly remember Scuba, a horse in NYC's Claremont stables who would get spooked by loud noises and run full force towards the nearest thing he could use to scrape me off. Nothing like a noise-sensitive horse in New York City's central park. I would train the horse sized bat to echolocate and eat the tiny horses (after I figured out how to let him move around - square cube law and all that).

Every time she takes the hearing aids out you have to put them back in. It’s difficult, but there’s really no easy answer. It sounds like she’s doing well when she’s distracted, but there’s really no easy way to get through this stage than to consistently and without making it a “thing” put the hearing aids back on. Also, it never hurts to check in with the audiologist to make sure the aids are properly programmed and that the ear molds are a good, comfortable fit. Ill fitting ear molds, excessive feedback, or not getting a discernible benefit are all reasons a kid could give you a hard time about wearing the hearing aids. Most likely she’s just testing limits. Our strategy was just to make the hearing aids a fact of life like wearing shoes when it’s cold outside or holding hands crossing the street. It was non-negotiable.

For even more advice, I wrote a book about my daughter’s hearing loss (https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Ear-Kids-Stories-Parenting/dp/1978442521). She was diagnosed just before age three.

Good luck! A friend told me when I was pregnant to remember the mantra, “this too shall pass.” I found that really helpful and true for the good stuff and the bad. You’ll make it through this phase!

What is your life? Well, right now on the internet you’re providing a lesson to a complete stranger on the internet. To be fully honest, I’m assuming you’re not a pulmonologist or an SLP but it seems you know what you’re talking about, I’m still taking your advice, respectfully but with a few grains of salt.

I had thought about going to a speech language pathologist (SLP) so I went to two different SLPs that specifically offer trans voice training. After my initial evaluations, one said “I sounded fine” and didn’t think I would be “a good candidate.” WTAF?! The other didn’t take insurance or offer a sliding scale. Instead, she said that to “people in my financial situation,” she had suggested The Voice Book for Trans and Non-Binary People: A Practical Guide to Creating and Sustaining Authentic Voice and Communication by Matthew Mills and Gillie Stoneham. How honest!!

I tried doing your speaking exercises over the last several days and I realized that I am already having my belly expand a little when inhaling during meditation as well as when I’m breathing normally.

Before writing this comment, I spent the last couple days trying to do this while talking but old habits die hard! I don’t know if this is a factor but I live in a part of America that is well known for the stereotype as the fastest talkers in the Union and I’m also a chatterbox. That being said, I’m doing a little better with my speech patterns sounding more male, like having my speech a little more monotonous, less bouncy, more direct, among other “traditionally” Western masculine traits.

Have you tried signing with her?

Mine had only a handful of words at 18 months, but he had almost 30 signs. I think signing helped him get a feel for the utility of communication before he was prepared to speak. I also think he had a few difficulties with auditory processing (which is not the same as hearing) which signing helped bridge. A few months later his speech exploded and he rapidly racked up at least 100 words. By 2 he was speaking in full sentences more often than not.

Here is a great, evidence-based list of best practices for language development. Worth making sure you know about them.

If you're interested in signing with her this book is pretty good for explaining how signing can fit into broader efforts to develop language.

I understand the feeling. After 18 years in academia, I've been doing some seriuos questioning as well which is why I took time off to write a general audience book (and have a proopsal in for a second one on the vestibular system, the sense that no one seems to know we have.

Not advertising, but if you're interested, my book is available for pre-order here or you can wait until it comes out...http://www.amazon.com/Universal-Sense-Hearing-Shapes-Mind/dp/1608190900/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1327890122&sr=8-1

Feel free to ping me whenever you like. Science is awesome - trying to figure out how to keep it a calling and a love rather than just a job is hard.

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I'm in my early thirties. My misophonia is the defining factor in my relationship with my Dad and has been since I was a young teenager. I definitely get how awful it can be.

I can offer a few suggestions. Try to always have background music at mealtimes. Just put on a CD or something. I can say for myself it buffers the intensity of my misophonia reactions a bit because at least I have something else to focus on. I just tell my parents I like to have music on at mealtimes and kept putting some on, so now they just accept it as a habit when I am around.

make friends with earplugs and earbuds and always have both with you. Invest in some good noise cancelling earbuds. Get into wearing hoodies as well. I will often put in at least one earplug to dull the sound and wear my hood up so people can't tell I'm wearing an earplug. I know that probably sounds super weird and anti-social but if it's that or deal with misophonia noises I'll put my hood up.

When you have to eat around them rest your head on the hand you aren't using to eat with and subtly plug one hear. At least you only hear half the noise that way. It requires having that elbow on the table so you can elevate that hand next to your ear without it looking totally awkward, but your in your early twenties now so the time for parents being able to tell you how to eat has passed.

best thing is probably to try and get her to take misophonia seriously as a condition. I found a documentary about misophonia at http://www.quietpleasefilm.com/ , I haven't watched it yet so I can't speak to it's quality but just the fact that someone produced a documentary gives a little weight and legitimacy to misophonia as a condition I think. I'm going to try watching it with my family as see if they will take me more seriously.

There are a couple books about misophonia

• https://www.amazon.com/Full-Sound-Fury-Suffering-Misophonia/dp/1517018706/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1493267760&sr=8-1&keywords=full+of+sound+and+fury
  
• https://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Overcoming-Misophonia-Conditioned-Aversive/dp/0692494820/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1493267792&sr=8-2&keywords=understanding+and+overcoming+misophonia
  
  In my opinion they both had useful things in them.
  
  
  
  

I know I'm late to the party but for anyone else in a similar boat:

1. IF he's willing to learn and not obstinate, you might try giving him a copy of When the Brain Can't Hear by Terri James Bell. Good rundown of what APD is and there's sections for relatives on how to help family members/partners with APD.
   
2. Check out this link, collection of resources for adults with APD. Everything from finding doctors to resources for understanding it.
   
3. If he refuses to listen, best thing you can do is say sayonara and find someone better. Life's too short for shitty people.

My book is (https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Ear-Kids-Stories-Parenting-ebook/dp/B077ZB7XG2).

Check out Bill Vicars’ website lifeprint.com for ASL resources. His free lessons and top 100 signs are very helpful. I’m on lesson 6 with his program now and my family can already communicate simple sentences in ASL.

Best of luck to you with your little one!

It amounts to spending most of a student's day coaching them on lipreading and speaking, and denying them room for genuine academic freedom. It's called oralism and it is, in my biased opinion, very close to a human rights violation. A handful of successful students are held up as examples of its efficacy. Meanwhile people like my wife get to teach the "oral failures," as they're called, how to sign in High School, then play academic catch-up so that they can have something resembling an education. Usually this is all because of the medical influence over parents of deaf children, who are told from the moment it's discovered "Don't worry, this is just a medical deficit that we can correct with SCIENCE." $10,000-150,000 later, the kid still can't hear, what a shocker. But that doesn't stop Mom and Dad from insisting on an English-only education, because they want their snowflake to lipread and talk like a "normal" person.

http://www.amazon.com/Mask-Benevolence-Disabling-Deaf-Community/dp/1581210094

TL;DR: Hearing parents want their kid to use the same language they do, rather than learn the language their kid has access to. They are encouraged by school and medical officials who have a vested interest in misrepresenting oral and manual Deaf education.

Purchase your own ISBN through Bowker Identifier Services so you'll always have ultimate control, and get a preassigned control number through the Library of Congress. When you get your book proof, LOC will want a copy for their records. http://www.loc.gov/publish/cip/

I self-published Living With Tinnitus, and it's done all right in its category, but the income from it is nothing to write home about, despite excellent reviews. The ratio of books sold to reviews written is small, but that's typical for a lot of authors. However, people who are savvy in social media marketing can more easily get people to read and review their book. For introverts like me, marketing is a huge stumbling block.

Prolific Works, formerly Indiefeed, and BookFunnel are platforms for getting freebies to beta readers. A professionally designed book cover is worth its weight in gold. I'll use Damonza to design the cover for my next book instead of doing it myself, which frankly drove me crazy trying to get it right.

I'll follow my own advice when it's time to publish my WIP, a time travel romance.

Thank you!! So the resources I’ve found most helpful are:

This YouTube video, and this whole channel really: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iTViDd0QPEI

This book:
https://www.amazon.com/Voice-Book-Trans-Non-Binary-People/dp/1785921282

And I have a voice therapist I’m working with, which has really given me some of the guidance I was missing when I was working on this stuff solo. I’d highly recommend working with a voice therapist if you have the means, and can find one in your area or online.

Hope that helps some!

I see a speech therapist currently, and almost everything we do is covered in this book! You can get it on Amazon (UK or US) "The Voice Book for Trans and Non-Binary People: A Practical Guide to Creating and Sustaining Authentic Voice and Communication" if the links don't work.

It is HELLA helpful. I struggled with youtube guides (The comparative nature of them made me feel poo), but this book was incredible, I could just sit quietly by myself and work through it.

When I went to my first speech therapy session, she said I made several months worth of progress in a sentence (jumping from in-toning to full on sentences with female mannerisms), so it really showed!

The biggest thing to realize is that sign language is not lesser than any other language. There is syntax, grammar, and metaphor, but these things all make use of space. Having a full formed and featured language has an enormous impact on deaf culture. For example, the deaf community refused to let deafness be labeled as a disability, thus all the laws in the US related to the Americans With Disabilities Act do not apply. This is why you see wheel chair ramps, braille on ATMs, and chirpers on traffic lights, but no services to help the deaf.

If you are interested in more science and stories about this, I would highly recommend checking out "Seeing Voices" by Oliver Sacks. He also produced an hour long TV special called The Mind Traveler - "The Ragin Cajun" about deaf culture, but I can't find it anywhere on the internet.

I'm currently reading Seeing Voices by Oliver Sacks, which is an incredibly interesting read for anyone interested in questions like this.

From what I understand, some deaf people think in pictures, others think in Sign. What really interests me are the people who never learn ASL or any other form of language until later in life. It's wildly difficult for someone to learn to think abstractly, even using Sign, if they don't learn some type of language (ASL or otherwise) when they're very young. Direct quote from the book (because I literally read it this afternoon on the train):

> "Joseph (an eleven year-old learning Sign for the first time) was unable, for example, to communicate how he spent the weekend- one could not really ask him, even in Sign: he could not even grasp the idea of a question, much less formulate an answer... There was a strange lack of historical sense... the feeling of a life that only existed in the moment, in the present.

The emphasis is mine. But I don't know how I could even begin to explain what a question was to someone who could only understand the relation between physical objects. The author goes on to say that Joseph was NOT unintelligent (quite the opposite), but because he never had a language, he was never taught how to use his mind fully.

Many people who go deaf after being exposed to language (say, after age 4) actually "hear" phantasmal voices when they see a person's lips moving. They're really lip-reading, but it's like they can hear what the person's saying in their head because they understand what words sound like.

Awesome, we’ll get there :)

I also had some granulation but overall I expect it to work out. Not going to worry about it until I’m approaching 6 months - so May.

Check out this book - might be a worthwhile read!

Ha. Wow. I didn't expect there would be more than one or two such books.

I'm quite sure this is the one:

https://www.amazon.ca/Voice-Book-Trans-Non-Binary-People-ebook/dp/B01N2VQZGD/ref=mp_s_a_1_7?ie=UTF8&qid=1536873796&sr=8-7&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=transgender+voice&dpPl=1&dpID=51ZmyayceTL&ref=plSrch

XS mr limpy is generally what’s recommended, it’s about the size of a flaccid cis penis, it should be fine!

Here is the book, I found it pretty hard to find effective resources for transmasc people beyond just “speak from your chest”. (understandable, T drops your voice considerably, voice training isn’t a necessity for many transmasc people.) Speaking from your chest is the goal, but it’s hard to figure out how to do that in an effective way that doesn’t make you sound really nasal, so the exercises really helped me.

Can recommend the book "Seeing Voices" by Oliver Sacks to anyone curious about ASL and what it does to a human mind. Reading it makes me wish I was deaf at times so I could experienced the world in this way.

Obviously I am glad I can hear and don't have to face some of those struggles, but being both fluid in a spoken language and a sign language makes your brain a better brain than those who are fluid in just one of the two.

http://www.amazon.com/Seeing-Voices-Oliver-Sacks/dp/0375704078

>I have no idea how to masculinize and can't find resources. Help?

The best self help book I can recommend is here. It's written by speech pathologists. It has exercises and techniques for masculinization: https://www.amazon.com/Voice-Book-Trans-Non-Binary-People/dp/1785921282/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1536189271&sr=8-1&keywords=the+voice+book+for+non+binary+trans

Anyone interested in this topic would enjoy Oliver Sacks' book, Seeing Voices.

Buy The Voice Book for Trans and Nonbinary People and do the relevant exercises in it. That's by and large what I did to feminize/neutralize my voice, I was recommended it by a speech therapist I went to. The two key aspects IMO are raising your fundamental tone up into the correct range (gradually) while keeping a good amount of pitch variation and learning to bring the place where your voice feels like it resonates more into your head than your throat. This takes time and practice, and I had an easier time than most because my standard "phone voice" already was mistaken for female on occasion (plus I'd taken singing lessons, so I had some knowledge of how to manipulate my voice), but keep at it, the results are SO worth it. It's one of the most important aspects of getting read as female I think, and too many trans women neglect it to their detriment.

Feeling the Adams Apple is basically just a short cut to figure out where your larynx, the sound producing voice box, sits at the moment. Have you come across the Big Dog Small Dog exercise? That exercise can be used to get a feel for moving the larynx around. What you do is repeatedly exhale like a panting dog and than modulate the sound of your breath, pant like a big, heavy dog and your larynx goes down, pant like a tiny dog and your larynx goes up.

Once you got use to how it feels to have your larynx up you can introduce sound, then words, then speech and build up the necessary stamina and muscle memory.

There is also the quick and dirty method of swallowing and trying to keep the larynx at the peek of its movement, but it's not recommend because it can introduce unwanted tension into the whole process, which could be damaging in the long run.


If you haven't checked it out yet, there is a sub for voice training /r/transvoice, though its mainly used to get feedback

Zhea from Trans Voice Lessons on Youtube does a good job on explaining the mechanics of voices and sex in voices, which is good to know because high pitch might only be a part of the puzzle for the voice you are trying to achieve.

The Voice Book for Trans and Non-Binary People can give you a good starting point for tackling voice training on your own. It's not all exercises though, a large part of the book is about steps to apply the trained voice in everyday life.

Your right, there is a difference. The BS's are too: Sylvan Learning. I was speaking with a math teacher the other day; she teaches high school algebra. She had never herd of Dyscalculia, but when I said the words "MATH Dyslexia" bells went off. In my opinion, this is 90% of the issue with having a learning disability. I recently read a Kindle book, and it went over the different types of dyslexia: deep. Then everything clicked, why one group of people never knew until college and how people like me knew before they were 7.
https://www.amazon.com/Dyslexia-Beginners-Solutions-Advantage-Treatment-ebook/dp/B00ZR4X3NA/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_3?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1472849708&sr=1-3-fkmr0&keywords=overcoming+dyslexia+101#nav-subnav

Yes, as other posters have already said, you can do exercises to lower your voice w/o T. Here is a book on the subject you can check out if you're interested.

This book will explain far better than I can right now

Will this book be a good alternative to the course? http://www.amazon.co.uk/Beyond-Stuttering-McGuire-Programme-Speaking/dp/0285642847/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1419097820&sr=8-1&keywords=beyond+stuttering

Sadly, McGuire does not run a course where I live.

Learn about speechreading a bit

I read a couple of methods. A lot weren't that good.

I liked the Harriet Kaplan, Scott J. Bally, Carol Garretson one. I think it was like $15 on amazon. It's not some amazing magical solution, but it was mildly helpful, at least to me.

Fair warning, people with foreign accents and men with unkempt facial hair are basically kryptonite

https://www.amazon.com/Speechreading-Improve-Understanding-Harriet-Kaplan/dp/0930323327

Restaurants are awful though, I can't hear anything in them. Do they have menus?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N2VQZGD/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_o8pRBbJZK5WQ0

Looking for testbanks for
https://www.amazon.com/Fundamentals-Hearing-Introduction-William-Yost/dp/0123704731

Welcome.

I actually started self-study voice training about the same time I started HRT, which was about a year before this became my life 24/7/365.

I hate to say it, but I haven't been able to keep at voice training consistently. The first time, I gave it up because I wasn't seeing/hearing results. I could raise my pitch and give my voice more of a lilt, but I couldn't really feminize it. After a while, my voice started bothering me less and less.

However, for various reasons, my voice started bothering me again. At this point, unfortunately all the other transition costs make it difficult for me to afford regular voice lessons. However, after the GCS I should be able to afford voice lessons.

In the meantime, I'm reading up on vocal feminization (I just bought this book), and I'm trying to figure out what will be the most cost-effective way to feminize my voice one training is again affordable for me. Hahaha, any suggestions are more than welcome.

I tend to have issues coming up with a specific word in a loud environment. It feels like the word is completely missing, even though I just learned the word. It is frustrating.

I was really young diagnosed with ADP. As I got older, I found that I was living my life making sure that everyone knew I was different and I wasn't reliable. After high school, I even went through a process to get disability, however, they told me I was able. I had to seek out advice so I can own my ADP. That is when I found this book that really helped me, "When the Brain can't hear" by Teri James Bellis, PH.D. . It was interesting and easy book to read.

What was interesting about this book was the author, Teri. She was already getting a PHD when she got into an automobile accident and damaged part of her brain. She was a different case of APD, that it has variables and different kinds of APD. The accident lead her to a different field of study to further understand APDs mysteries and she was able to explain it to us.

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If you feel that you need to be tested, there were others community posts on this thread that had listed sites that locate places where you can go to get diagnosed.