Reddit mentions: The best breast feeding pillows & stools

I accidentally hit save, here are some more items you might want to register for:

Corner bumpers more of a concern when baby starts moving, but if you get it out of the way now you don't have to worry about it later. Same goes for plug covers and cabinet locks! Furniture anchors are a must-have, too. I haven't registered for those yet, need to figure out how many we need.


Pack'n'Play portable playpen, changing station, play mat, and bassinet. Even if you don't travel much, I think it will be handy for taking baby around the house while I do chores. They come in all kinds of designs, this one just stood out because of my nursery theme.

A glider or rocking chair, dresser/changing station, and crib. I don't have recommendations for these because I got mine as hand-downs.

Baby monitor I'm going with middle of the line video, because the audio only ones aren't much cheaper, so why not? I'd like to be able to peek in on baby and make sure he's okay without constantly disturbing him by entering the room. These come in all ranges with all kinds of features, so look at a few to figure out what you want.

Bibs. I love these because they have food-catchers. Mess will still happen, but it looks like these will at least lower the amount.

Infant soothie pacifiers

Breastfeeding pillow for sitting up Probably superfluous with the other one, but I like that it straps around your waist, cushions your back, and has pockets for drinks/snack/phone.

Pacifier clips, so you aren't knee deep in pacifiers that keep falling on the floor

Butt paste. I've heard a lot about this from other moms, apparently it's the best diaper cream.

Butt spatula admittedly I felt silly with this one, but the reviews are raving. Butt paste gets everywhere, and it's water resistant so an utter pain to clean - especially under your nails. On top of that, this makes sure you get a nice, even layer for baby's comfort.


Breastfeeding scarf! I think this thing is so neat, especially with a winter baby. You can wear it like an infinity scarf, but it'd big enough that when baby is ready to eat it will cover both of you comfortably! There are a lot of different styles, I picked a black one and a grey one just so they will go with any outfit.

Graco glider soother I picked this because I thought it was neat, then I saw a bumper with post partum advice list it on her must-have rundown.

Diaper bag! I went for the backpack style so DH and I could both comfortably use it, and honestly I don't want to deal with baby in one arm and an over-the-shoulder bag on the other.

First aid and grooming kit

Bottle sterilizer, because screw trying to hand wash them

Bottle warmer, no microwave/boiling water and guess


Bottles!

High chair. I picked this one because it is a 4-in-1, it adjusts from infant all the way up to toddler booster, so I know I'll get my use out of it.

Puj tub - it folds into your sink to be a warm, soft bathing surface for baby, and then when you're done you hang it flat in the shower, bo fuss, no mold!

I also registered at Target and BRU for some variety, some things that I don't have amazon links for:

Travel system.... I absolutely want one that is a carrier, clicks into a car base or a stroller. Getting two bases, one for each car, and the stroller base, would probably still be cheaper than buying two car seats, a carrier, and a stroller, and with these systems you don't have to wake baby up with every transistion.

Various cloth products, swaddlers, burp blankets, bath towels, bibs, etc. These are everywhere so just pick whatever suits you! I'm not registering for any clothes just because I know everyone is going to see "the cutest little onesie" and get it regardless.

Diapers! You can never have enough. I'd get a couple of packs from each size range. Don't open them until you know how big baby is, so you can exchange any that start too small.

Toys galore. Again, people will give you these registered or not, but if you see something that really strikes you, throw it in there! Jumpers and playpads are good to pick out.

Nursery decor - if you haven't gotten it all yet, black-out curtains, crib set, sheets, matress protectors, diaper genie, changing pad, laundry hamper, mobile, etc etc.

Books! Instead of cards, I'm going to ask people to bring inexpensive books with their personal note to baby, that way he can keep their messages as he grows. I put a good amount of books between $3-$6 on my registry for this, so hopefully we won't get a million copies of the same book.

This turned into an epic novel, but I hope it helps you with some starting places! Check out the reviews and similar products on things I linked, hopefully it will lead you to some things you like!

I'm almost four months out and here's how our experience has been with the baby stuff:
-The Boppy newborn lounger is probably our most used baby item. It's been great.
-If you'll be breastfeeding, definitely have some sort of pillow for LO. It'll save your back and just make the whole thing easier while you're both figuring it out. We used my brest friend pillow and it was great, but lots of people really like their Boppy.
-Some veteran moms told me to stock up on breast milk freezer bags, but I've only used 2 because I decided by week 3 to start supplementing with formula. I intended on EBFing the whole time, but that just wasn't for us. It's still a good idea to buy a box of them, in case you do end up EBFing the whole time, but just one box and then buy more as needed.
-I was like insane paranoid about SIDS at first, so I couldn't handle the thought of him sleeping in a separate space. So, for our baby's first 3 months he slept in a snuggle nest and we loved it. He outgrew it around 3 months, but by then I was comfortable letting him sleep in the pack n play. The downside is always having to make sure that you and your partner's pillows aren't crossing over and covering LO's face. This wasn't ever an actual issue with us, but I always worried about it. I think a bedside bassinet would also be a great way to go to keep LO nearby.
-Pack n play! He sleeps in this in our room and I love that later we can take the insert out and it'll become his little play pen. However, we bought the Ingenuity brand because of Amazon prime deals, and I regret it. They don't make sheets for it so we have to buy other brand sheets and they don't fit quite right. The little mattress starts to fold up when I put sheets on. I'm not sure if it's because of the off-brand sheets, or if that's also a problem with other brands of pack n play.
-Pacifiers! Of course, like everything else, that's something that will vary by baby. Some babies won't take one (I was one of those), but mine almost always calms down when he has one in and it also helps him drift off when he's sleepy. But he won't take just any paci; he has definite preferences. So maybe ask for a few different brands/shapes on your registry.
-And that idea goes for diapers, too. We're using disposables. I've tried Huggies, Pampers, and Luvs, and so far I've been happiest with Huggies because they don't feel as plasticy and they have a little strip down the middle that changes color when the diaper is wet. That's pretty helpful.
I think there must be a lot I'm leaving out, but those are the things that first come to mind. I hope it was helpful. Best of luck figuring it all out with your LO!

Warning - lots of text below! My baby is about 6 weeks now and I'm exclusively breastfeeding. My Medela Harmony manual pump has been fine for building a stash - I pump 1-2 times a day for the freezer and occasional bottle feedings from Dad. I think it's pretty convenient, but I'll be using a double electric pump when I go back to work (waiting to see what Tricare will cover in 2015!).

Whatever you decide to use for diapering, I'd strongly recommend getting some prefolds (I got Osocozy unbleached). They're great for burp cloths, catching milk from your other boob during letdown, etc and they're also way cheaper and more absorbent than fancy burp cloths. Personally I love prefolds and covers for diapering, but don't buy too much into any one system or brand until you know what works for you. My husband hates prefolds so now I'm having to add pockets and AIOs to appease him.

I'd get some swaddlers (at least 2; my favorite is from Nuroo but that was a gift and they're pricey, the summer infant SwaddleMe wraps are good now that she's bigger but didn't fit well until about 10 lbs). My girl lives in footed pajamas and I love the Gerber zipped ones, we found tons at goodwill for $1.50 each but if you can't find them used, they're on Amazon for $10 for a 2 pack. You're right that other people will buy clothes, but they'll pick cutesy stuff and you need some practical choices too.

Nursing pillow - I had an unexpected C section and this has been so necessary. I love the Luna Lullaby since it's big and I had a big baby.

Some kind of baby carrier, I got a Moby wrap while she's small and it's amazing for running errands (I put it on before getting in the car and pop her in before going in the store, WAY easier than a carseat and stroller).

We were gifted a used swing and it is a freaking godsend. It's the only way I get chores done since I can pop her in there and cook, do laundry, clean, etc without her crying. YMMV, some babies hate them, but buy used and you won't be out too much cash.

Wubbanub pacifier is easy to keep track of and super cute.

Pack n Play with a mattress for cosleeping (recommended to reduce SIDS risk for the first 6 months). At least 2 mini crib sheets.

Earth Mama Angel Baby nipple butter is amazing for the first couple weeks.

QuickZip crib sheets will be amazing once you use the crib.

Simba baby safety nail cutter - no bleeding!

Finally, the Itzbeen pocket nanny timer is so helpful for keeping track of feedings and diaper changes, especially in the first few weeks.

Hope this wasn't too overwhelming. Good luck!

*Edited to add links to products.

I'm currently nursing my twin daughters - they're 7.5 weeks. During the first couple weeks, I fed them individually... but, I felt like I had no time to do anything but feed them, so I started tandem feeding to cut down the time. At this point, we tandem feed 95% of the time. There are times during the day when I'll feed one of my daughters individually because the other is sleeping... but, if it's close to feeding time, I'll wake them both up to eat. I always tandem feed at night - I find that I get more sleep that way!!

I use the My Brest Friend Twins Plus Deluxe Nursing Pillow and I love it! I found this video really helpful as well... I use a similar approach except I have one twin up against the arm of the couch (so they can't fall off) with one boppy on the other side. I also wedge receiving blankets on either side of them to give them more stability and make it harder for them to roll off - this makes it easier to tandem feed when I'm by myself (since it's a lot easier to have my husband around to hand them to me!).

There are times when my breasts are pretty squishy and I've never felt that my daughters have a hard time breathing... particularly with the double nursing pillow.

The only other advice I have is that it gets easier! The first two weeks were really hard for me... I'm a FTM, so that may have played a role as well. At times I wanted to give up breastfeeding all together, but I am so glad I pushed through! When I was feeling particularly overwhelmed, we supplemented with formula and bottle fed pumped breast milk a few times. At first, it made me feel like a failure, but I believe giving myself a few breaks in the beginning is what helped me be so successful at 2 months in...

If you have any other questions, please ask! And good luck with everything!! :o)

If you're going for a breastfeeding pillow go for the My Brest Friend pillow. It has a ridiculous name, I know, but it was so much easier to breastfeed with versus the boppy. The pocket really came in handy for keeping my cell phone, lanolin, and snacks. I got mine from amazon's 'open box' deal. http://www.amazon.com/baby/dp/B000HZI1R2

See if your local hospital offers free parenting classes. I took a breastfeeding basics class; it was pretty informative. The postpartum nurses were also incredibly helpful after my baby was born.

I would recommend getting a pump. I had trouble breastfeeding in the beginning and pumping helped me establish and maintain my supply, as well as gave me some peace of mind. I bought the Ameda Purely Yours based mostly on reviews and the price. It worked pretty well. I bought it from amazon too...if you join their amazon mom program you get a few free months of prime (free 2 day shipping). We did our registry through them and still get our diapers through their subscribe and save deal.

I hope this was helpful. Good luck!

:( That does sound hectic. My registry is kinda all over the place because I've already bought a ton of stuff, but just some suggestions of some things (FTM so no idea really if these are good or not, some were recommendations from friends, some were recommendations from various online resources).

• car seat, extra base if you have more than one car, and stroller
  
• baby carrier - I got the ergobaby 360 with infant insert but the Lillebaby 360 is also super popular.
  
• swaddles - aden & anais seem to be hugely popular.
  
• bathing supplies - washcloths, bathtub
  
• first aid kit supplies - NoseFrida, nail clipper, thermometer
  
• feeding - bottles, sterilizer (some people told me I had to have it, some said it was totally unnecessary), bottle cleaner brush, drying rack (seems like everyone else loves the Boon grass, but I don't have the counter space!) You can get a pump through your insurance if you plan to breastfeed, I ordered mine through Aeroflow. I ultimately chose the Spectra S2 over the Medela PISA because it's a closed system, which apparently means less chances of bacteria getting into the system and thus easier cleaning.
  
• burp clothes - I was told to just get a ton of cloth diapers to use as burp clothes, and to have them everywhere.
  
• diaper pail - I have two friends who say this is good enough, so I went with it. They also said to use doggie poop bags to contain the smelly diapers.
  
• humidifier
  
• Boppy for nursing
  
• Backpack style diaper bag
  
• baby may need a more convenient place to be set down other than the crib, something you can have near you in the kitchen, shower, whatever. Popular options are the rock n play, Boppy lounger, or a pack 'n play. I plan on getting the Chicco FastAsleep pack 'n play because the crib/dresser/changing station is on our 2nd floor, so I figured this could double as a changing station/napper on the first floor.
  
  Lucie's List is probably the best resource I found online.

It's possible they don't know what they want quite yet and sounds like she's not doing much shopping being on bed rest and all. Or maybe they feel weird registering for a ton of stuff since they probably already had baby showers for at least one other kid. My oldest was 11 when I had my LO and I got rid of his baby stuff years ago lol so I can definitely tell you from personal experience that even if I did have stuff from my oldest it probably would not have been in the best shape not to mention dated. I had another baby shower and registered for everything lol.

So with that in mind, I recommend getting them something off register for baby. I don't think Boppys were a thing when I had my oldest but I literally got one on the way home from the hospital (I had him 4 weeks early so we totally weren't ready). Even though we ended up formula feeding I use it all the time still (LO is 7 months old). I got the one with the extra cute cover so I think it was like $40-50 and I love it!

Also, my MIL bought us a 4 pack of Aden and Anais muslin blankets (also not a thing 10 years ago) and they were $50 which seemed like a lot at the time and I don't think we would have bought them on our own because of that but we used them every night and every nap for MONTHS. Pretty much until my little guy started busting out of the swaddle lol. Plus they come in a ton of cute prints.

Decided at the last minute to post some links for you:

aden + anais Classic Swaddle Baby Blanket, 100% Cotton Muslin, Large 47 X 47 inch, 4 Pack, Lovestruck https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01JFSPT6W/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_Ax3ZAbNTTMNY6
*One quick note about this print though is that the metallic print came off in the wash after like 3 washes 😒 so I probably wouldn't get one with metallic.

Boppy Nursing Pillow and Positioner, Luxe Chevron Whales/Gray https://www.amazon.com/dp/B017ORW0WM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_xz3ZAb6PHFWYH

Hope this helps!!!

ETA: Ditto gift receipts

• Diapers Sensitive skin runs in our family and the regular brands made her break out something awful but cloth, babyganics and [up & ups] (http://www.target.com/p/diapers-bulk-plus-pack-select-size-up/-/A-15121671 ) worked great. Pull Ups for older ones.
  
  
• Potty Training We have [This one] (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01C431NRE/ref=twister_B01E930B16?_encoding=UTF8&th=1) and [This one] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00F667QS2/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&th=1)
  
  
• High Chair like this
  
  
• [Stroller] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00H8MQBFQ/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&th=1) its well padded and is comfy for even the older kids.
  
  
• Carrier We have [This one] (https://www.amazon.com/Carrying-Positions-Carrier-Detachable-Included/dp/B01IUS08FK/ref=sr_1_4_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1478452855&sr=8-4&keywords=mei+tai) and a ring sling that I still use but I wish we had bought one like [This] (https://www.amazon.com/Infantino-Cuddle-Ergonomic-Hoodie-Carrier/dp/B01B45KW0C/ref=sr_1_6_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1478453079&sr=1-6&keywords=carrier) It would be easier to put on.
  
  
• [Nursing pillows] (https://www.amazon.com/Boppy-Nursing-Pillow-Positioner-Peaceful/dp/B00HMGBJCS/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1478458541&sr=1-4&keywords=nursing+pillow) my husband used it all the time and this is her favorite spot to cuddle up still
  
  
• Pack n Play
  
  
  
• Bouncer chair I believe ours was the previous model.
  
  
• [Swing] (https://www.amazon.com/4moms-rockaRoo-Baby-Swing-Classic/dp/B00I0BVQFO/ref=sr_1_27_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1478452147&sr=1-27&keywords=swing&th=1) We have one similar to it the other ones tend to be a pain to move around.
  
  
• Some sort of walker This or [This] (https://www.amazon.com/Bright-Starts-Around-Activity-Zippity/dp/B00OC8B1IQ/ref=sr_1_6?s=toys-and-games&ie=UTF8&qid=1478454444&sr=1-6&keywords=activity+jumper) or [This] (https://www.amazon.com/Evenflo-ExerSaucer-Learn-Jumper-Jungle/dp/B006PB2H4A/ref=sr_1_7?s=toys-and-games&ie=UTF8&qid=1478454444&sr=1-7&keywords=activity%2Bjumper&th=1)
  
  
• Some sort of activity toys like This, This,
  
  Comfy rocking chair
  
  When it comes to cribs, pack n plays, rock n plays, bouncers and swings its upto the childs taste. Out of my nieces and nephews 1 always napped in a rock n play, 1 in the swing, 1 would sleeps anywhere, 1 would sleep on mommy or a boppy, 1 in the crib and my daughter would only sleep in the carrier or being held. She never used the rock n play, crib or pack n play but loved the bouncer and occasionally accepted sitting in the boppy or swing. They are all so different. With our little girl her reflux was so bad that if she was laid flat she would immediately throw up.
  
  
  (I will edit to add more when I get a minute)

Hi! I’m back!!
Although I thoroughly intend to write my birth story when I’m ready, I just finished my first piece since the baby arrived so in celebration, I’ll pair it with something useful.

I really appreciated posts like this while I was pregnant so here goes:

Things I didn’t know I needed:
(AKA things I have frantically ordered on amazon at or around 2am)

•Bottle Drying Rack This probably seems obvious, but when we didn’t get this from our showers we were like... idk why we can’t just use a towel??

•Safe way to cosleep My husband built a BEAUTIFUL Sidecar Crib, but it was attached on my side of the bed and it took 2.5 weeks for me to have healed enough to climb in bed around it safely with the baby. This way, I didn’t have to bend over to pick up baby or even spit up to check on/soothe him.

•Lactation Suppliment My lactation consultant approved. This one worked well in my breakfast tea.

•Better flanges My poor nipples were so sore and the flames that come with the Medela... well I’m not sure who they’re supposed to fit but not me. My doula practically ordered these for me. GAME CHANGER.

•Pumping bra I was cutting holes in sports bras. This is better.

•Nipple Shells Another kind reddittor sent me in the direction of this AMAZING INVENTION after I posted a photo of ice packs tied to my nipples with a burp cloth because I refused to wear a shirt my nipples hurt so bad. I will be purchasing these for EVERY PREGNANT WOMAN FOREVER. They keep your nipples dry, collect drips, apply counter pressure to keep your nipples shaped correctly for latching, and most importantly omg nothing touches the precious nips and you can wear a shirt!!

•Car mirror

Me: that seems extra, he’s in a car seat and safe why would I need a mirror??

Hormones; HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAH YOU FOOL

•Car adapter for my breast pump Cheaper than batteries

•Shade for his side of the car because anything that wakes up my sleeping baby is the devil. This one has a bonus that allowed me to roll the window down and it was HOT in the south

•Better suction for the breast pump Again- just better than whatever they send you

•My Breast Friend we got the boppy but this one saved my back

•Heating pad Turns out I’ll do ANYTHING to keep the baby asleep when I transfer him to his crib including preheat the darn thing (on low!) before I lay home down

•Stroller Caddy You’ll want somewhere to put your keys, phone, and coffee

•Baby K’tan An easier way for my husband to wear the baby.

•Leggings I had a pair of these before, and they are SO COMFORTABLE on my postpartum body that I bought 5 more in different colors!

•Extra pump parts for whichever pump you have

•A hands-up swaddle I found at Target

•Wine.

Anyway, hope this helps! Best of luck to all of you!

I had created a list for friends after we had our first kid:

>Bottles:
Breast Flow was what we started with since it was said to mimic the breast the
best and help avoid nipple confusion.
http://www.amazon.com/The-First-Years-Breastflow-Bottle/dp/B0031PXV7K/ref=sr_1_16?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1269959457&sr=8-16



>We also tried Drop-ins to help reduce gas. It works but the problem is if the
baby unlatches then air gets in. So we didn't use it for long. Since it is
disposable you only have to wash the nipple.
http://www.amazon.com/Playtex-Drop-Ins-Original-Free-Nurser/dp/B001F0RAC0/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1269959562&sr=1-7



>What we mainly use now are Dr Brown's wide nipple. It seems to work well enough
for preventing too much gas. We feed adn then burb and he's usually ok with gas.

>Also give him gripe water once a day and Mylcon 3-4 times.
http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-Polypropylene-Natural-Bottle/dp/B001LENCUE/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1269959656&sr=1-3




>Bundle-me - for the car seat. This is great for keeping the kid warm and cozy in the car seat during the winter months. It was also handy since the seat was big
for him when he was a newborn and this added some cushion.
http://www.amazon.com/JJ-Cole-Original-Infant-Bundle/dp/B00009VE5O/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1269959771&sr=1-1



>Feeding pillow my wife liked the best was Brest friend, it was better than the Boppy since it warped around. My wife was starting to wrist pains from holding the baby up until she started using this.
http://www.amazon.com/My-Brest-Friend-Pillow-Sunburst/dp/B000HZEQSU/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1269959826&sr=1-1



>For swaddling we tried Swaddleme but he would fight his way out. Then we found one that you can place the hands in flap that tucks under him and he couldn't fight out of that one. Only trouble was that he would get too hot in it. I don't see it on Amazon though. We picked it up from a birth store in Denville.

>The sleeping sacks he also liked, similar to one below.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002PWMOVE/ref=s9_simh_gw_p75_t4?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=center-2&pf_rd_r=13QY9WR287WSHFWD1C8V&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_p=470938631&pf_rd_i=507846



>This CD seems to work well for him. It's not magic but if he's tired it helps
him fall asleep faster.
http://www.amazon.com/Stops-Crying-Heartbeat-Lullabies-Vols/dp/B00003TFYP/ref=pd_sim_m_1



>A flask of hot water is good to keep around if you guys are going to bottle feed. Maybe not as big as the one I got but it was more geared to travel, we have a smaller one for home use.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000U8D0H2/ref=oss_product

>This Sony Baby monitor was good since it has voice activated mode. It turns on when it hears crying.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0017T2RYU/ref=oss_product

>the baby clothes that open the front and much easier to put on. greber makes some.
http://www.amazon.com/Gerber-Long-Sleeve-Onesies-Newborn/dp/B002VMLUXG/ref=sr_1_9?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1270821920&sr=1-9



>Don't buy diaper systems that seal. When you open it later you'll be hit hard.

>Better off letting wet diapers air out and place the other in the garage or outside. We usually place poopy diapers in a diaper bag. It's also handy for disposing them while on travel.
http://www.amazon.com/Sassy-Disposable-Counts-Diaper-Sacks/dp/B0007V644S/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1270821626&sr=8-1


Keep in mind this is from 4 years ago.

Just flew with my 4.5mo! He was a dream. I stuck him on the boob during takeoff so his little ears would pop. He ate for a while and then passed out for the duration of the flight. We had a pacifier for him but he didn't end up needing it.

Other random advice:

• I got a little arm-nursing pillow that was really great, both for nursing him and for letting him fall asleep on me afterward! I highly recommend it. https://smile.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastfeeding-Washable-C-Sections-Portable/dp/B079VV7521/ref=sr_1_3?crid=M7I7KA05XAKI&keywords=arm+nursing+pillow&qid=1563205706&s=gateway&sprefix=arm+nu%2Caps%2C142&sr=8-3
  
  
• We got TSA precheck so that I could just wear the baby in his Ergobaby through the metal detector. It was great.
  
  
• We gatechecked the stroller and carseat since he was a lap child. Then I wore him onboard in the Ergobaby. But the flight attendants told me that since the flight wasn't full, we could've asked to use the carseat free of charge in the seat next to us.
  
  
• Make sure you take out everything you need BEFORE you sit down. Trying to reach down to the diaper bag to get a burp cloth without waking up the sleeping boy was tough.
  
  
• Bring a little pack of wipes that are safe for the baby's mouth! I used the Munchkin Arm and Hammer wipes. It's good for if a teether/pacifier falls on the floor of the plane.
  
  Good luck!
  
  Also, IF the baby had cried, I was just going to buy drinks for the folks in the rows in front and behind us. I also brought a baggie of ear plugs that I was going to offer around.

Best:

• Rock N Play - we have this on the main floor of our house and its where my son takes his naps during the day (when he's not sleeping on me)
  
  
• Pack N Play (with bassinet and changing table) - we have this Chicco Pack N Play set up in our master bedroom, where my son sleeps at night. The organizing caddies that attach to the side are super handy for storing diapers, swaddles, and a change of clothes for the middle of the night.
  
  
• Diaper Pail - We have two of the Diaper Dekor Classics, one upstairs and one downstairs. Our house is pretty small, so I love the small footprint of these bins.
  
  
• Boppy - Now that my son is a little over 3 weeks old and can quickly and easily latch in a number of different holds this is less important, but it was super helpful for the first few weeks.
  
  
• Burp cloths - we keep one in every room of the house! I love the Burt's Bees burp cloths. I'd recommend having at least 10-15.
  
  
• Muslin swaddle blankets - I'm obsessed with the Little Unicorn swaddles because they're big, breathable and have such cool designs (but also very expensive at $16/each). I'd recommend having at least 3-4 blankets.
  
  
• Hooded bath towels and small washcloths - Perfect for keeping baby warm and dry after a bath.
  
  Worst:
  
  
• Ergo Natural Curve Nursing Pillow - This pillow is way too stiff/hard. I hate it and never use it.
  
  
• Socks - My son has worn socks exactly 2 times in the last 3 weeks. Since he's almost always covered in a blanket, they're super unnecessary for newborns.
  
  

This list is awesome! I was not nearly that organized for my registry! Just a few comments from the other side (my baby is 3 months currently).


Baby nails are sharp and scary, some friends bought us this Electric Nail File and it is absolutely amazing, not painful for baby at all and much more efficient than the little files.

This butt spatula thing has been great for when we apply diaper cream! Saves us from getting it on our hands.

For me personally, I found the Boppy rather ineffective for nursing at first while we were trying to figure out nursing. Baby would kind of slide down between the Boppy and my stomach. Now at 3 months old, the Boppy is super useful for propping baby and sometimes as a nursing pillow if I decide to use one. My first few weeks of nursing I'd use the Brest Friend Nursing Pillow it was great when Baby really needed a little extra support for getting into the best position for nursing.

Breastfeeding was very painful for me the first few weeks. Our LO ended up having a bad latch due to tongue and lip ties we had to get lasered (anterior tongue tie had been clipped by Pediatrician in the hospital, she still had a posterior tie that was diagnosed later by a lactation consultant - just something to keep in mind), by the time we had the procedure done the damage was done to my nipples. These nipple shields are one of the things that really helped my nipples heal in between feedings to keep my bra/clothes off of them. I hope you don't have to use them, but something you may want to make a note of in case you have a similar experience. If you do end up having nipple pain, ask your OB (or Google how to make it yourself) for a script for "Newman's Nipple Cream", that stuff helped save our breastfeeding relationship!


Good luck, looks like you're off to a great start!

I have exclusively breastfed my twins since day one, and it's been six months. They're growing well.

I will say that it's stupidly time consuming, especially in the beginning. If I were pumping, I couldn't do it: my body just doesn't respond to pumps (same issue with my singleton). Fortunately that's not an issue since I stay at home with them for now. You also will want to do everything you can to boost production and not skimp on calories. There is a useful reference book called Mothering Multiples which has some nice info on caring for twins, in addition to its useful info on breastfeeding. http://www.amazon.com/Mothering-Multiples-Breastfeeding-Caring-International/dp/0976896931/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1453763391&sr=1-1&keywords=mothering+multiples

Other recipes for success will be learning to tandem feed, if only for one of the feedings, and finding a nursing pillow you like (I use the blessed nest pillow, like a big beanbag http://www.amazon.com/Nesting-Pillow-Organic-Nursing-Washable/dp/B001TFNPWA/ref=sr_1_1?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1453763636&sr=1-1&keywords=blessed+nest+organic+nesting+pillow).

Good luck. You can do it, if you want to. And if you can't, that's okay too.

I was/am in the exact same boat - first kid, limited funds, starting from scratch, going through reviews and prices drove me insane. It took me probably three months to get my registry together, and, even then, I am still switching things up, lol.

lucieslist.com was invaluable while picking everything out. I highly recommend you check it out.

What we have bought ourselves that fit our tight budget:

Graco Comfy Cruiser Travel System. We had already decided to go with that car seat, given that it seems to be the top-rated budget option, and the stroller ended up being a much-needed bonus. We go on walks a lot, so it works for us. If you don't need the stroller, the seat itself is, I think, only ~$100.

The Pack N Play, which I've heard from literally everyone and their mother is almost a necessity.

Because we don't have an IKEA near us to get our hands on a swanky $99 crib, we bought this DaVinci crib. We still only ended up paying $100 for it, as we found it on sale, however, we would have paid the $200 for it, given that the reviews are good, and, when compared to some other cribs that cost $400 and up, the price isn't bad at all.

As for the rest of the registry, we have on there a Moby wrap (affordable baby wearing, yay!), nail clippers, outlet plugs, nursing pads, a wipes case, a baby tub, baby wash, assorted crib sheets, waterproof crib sheets, Pack N Play mattress, and sheets to go with, crib mattress (we actually bought this one when we found it on sale for $20, and it's just fine), receiving blankets, dirty diaper bags (because we aren't getting a diaper pail, just a small can with a seal-able lid), changing pad, and a cover to go with, pacifiers, Dr. Brown's Gia Nursing Pillow, a bottle brush, bottle warmer, thermometer, booger sucker, camera to monitor the baby, and a few other assorted things that I couldn't really find a definitive "best in class" for, so pick at your own discretion: diaper bag, swaddles (although I've read good things about the Summer Infant brand), bottles (we're going with Phillips Avent), a bouncer (we got this one), and a swing.

I agonized over this stuff for what felt like forever, lol, so I hope it helps you and saves you some hair-pulling. It's all so overwhelming!

I would actually get the onsie in a 3-6 month size. Most people get new moms clothes in 0-3 months so I go up at least one size when I buy a gift. Also check out the comments on the onsie if they have it as some infant clothes sizes are crazy wrong.

I have a lot of friends who are pregnant or just a baby in the last couple of years and was a Nanny for over 10 years and I buy one traditional gift for the baby and the rest are gifts that are not the 'norm. Depending on how much money you want to spend here are some ideas: mani/pedi or massage for mom (Groupon is great!), restaurant gift cards that deliver, house cleaning services, baby massage class, box of healthy snacks especially for breastfeeding moms,

Here are some more traditional but still very useful gifts parents might not know about that I posted somewhere else.

Hands free bottle holder
http://www.amazon.com/Bottle-Feeding-Bebe-Sling-LLC/dp/B003Z66X5W/ref=pd_cp_ba_3

Plush pacifier: I get this for almost everyone because you loose so many pacifiers and it keeps it in the baby's mouth.
http://www.amazon.com/WubbaNub-22352-Giraffe/dp/B003CK3LDI/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1398892663&sr=8-5&keywords=pacifier

Non-electric travel bottle warmer
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004I110D8/?tag=buzz0f-20

Swaddle Pod
http://www.amazon.com/Summer-Infant-SwaddlePod-Caterpillar-Newborn/dp/B006K6DF9Q/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1398893796&sr=8-8&keywords=swaddle

Cuddle-U Nursing Pillow- looks like a boppy but it does so much more. I really like to give this to parents because you're not supposed to lay infants straight on there backs after feeding so you prop them up with this. It helps with spit ups, gas, and colic.

http://www.amazon.com/Leachco-Cuddle-U-Nursing-Pillow-More/dp/B000RHYPS4/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1398894056&sr=8-3&keywords=baby+lounger

Baby Shusher - actually works and just saw they have a app but only for iphones for now
http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Shusher-Soothing-Miracle-Babies/dp/B00D2JN87I/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1398894587&sr=8-1&keywords=baby+shusher

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/baby-shusher/id419606496?mt=8

Hope this helps!

I also have a bunch of stuff on my registry that is inexpensive ($10-$25) for friends and if my coworkers decide to do a shower here which they have done for other new moms in the past. Here are some of the things I have on mine
Sleeping gowns so you don't have to unsnap the onesie for midnight changes

A baby tub

Tub Thermometer

Baby thermometer

Nose Frieda which others have mentioned

preferred bath/care products

Cloth diaps which make fantastic burp cloths/cleanup

Nursing pillow also good for tummy time


Plus some other odds and ends. People will also buy stuff that they like, so you'll probably get stuff that was not on your list and that is ok. You can also request to have a "diapers n wipes" shower which a friend did since she was on her 4th child, and she probably got 2 months worth of diapers and wipes out of it if not more. Also, make sure you get multiple covers for your changing pad, it'll be nice to have more than 1 when it needs washing! Congratulations!

I love my boppy, my LO is 11 weeks and I’ve used it for breastfeeding every day. He also does tummy time on it because he hates laying on a flat surface and hangs out lounging on it. I get so much use out of this thing. It’s one of my favorite purchases. Boppy Nursing Pillow and Positioner, Sketch Slate Gray https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075GLC4RK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ow2VCb8AT517E

If you’re gonna BF, instead of getting disposable pads I got these washable ones which are velour on the inside so they’re soft on your nipples, and they are good at absorption. They have different shapes for different amounts of protection, I wouldn’t get any of them except the blue rounds “overnight” ones because they are the most absorbable. Bamboobies Nursing Pads for Breastfeeding | Reusable Breast Pads | Perfect Baby Shower Gifts | 4 Overnight Pairs https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007X5HU9O/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ox2VCbAYQK1D4

This baby tub is awesome because it folds flat (i live in a NYC apt and space is very dear!) and it also has a little hammock so you don’t have to hold the baby the whole time he’s bathing. Kidsmile Baby Bathtub Portable Collapsible Bathing Tub with Non-Slip Mat, Foldable Shower Basin with Infant Sling, Comfort Folding Baby Bathtub, Deluxe Newborn to Toddler Tub, Blue https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0711KT2RQ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_-y2VCbBKWC6SM

My baby loves this mobile. It’s super engaging. Tiny Love Classic Mobile, Into The Forest https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0771N1BZW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_kB2VCbHCM9BJE

Baby is OBSESSED with this toy. We have it hanging over his changing table and he lays there and stares at it forever. It’s his absolute favorite thing. I’m serious. The only thing is I read that the ink on the eyes smear off if they put it in their mouth so I don’t plan on giving it to him to hold/play with but just as a distraction while he’s getting his diaper changed. But seriously he never gets tired of looking at it and it was the first thing that made him happy when he started being aware and I really recommend it. Baby Einstein Star Bright Symphony Toy https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00TFAOIY0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_PC2VCbP0SHY29

What weight limit does your swing go up to? Our older son took naps in the swing for a long time, and he would usually sleep in the swing all night. We transitioned him to the crib full-time around 6 months. That was also around the time he started on solids and didn't spit up as much (he did have reflux).

You might think this is unsafe, but we put one of these pillows in the crib as well as pack and play to transition him:

http://www.amazon.com/Leachco-Cuddle-U-Nursing-Pillow-More/dp/B000RHYPS4

It kept his head elevated and gave the snuggle feeling, and he couldn't slide down because of the insert, and we also had his feet against the edge of the crib or pack and play. If it makes you feel more comfortable, do it supervised for nap time first. There's a customer image here:

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51hgkiK9QNL.jpg

You want to create sleep associations with the crib or pack and play, and eventually you can take away the incline. After our son got proficient at rolling over, he happily slept on his tummy in the crib.

Looks great.... I have 16 mo old twins. The beginning is really rough, but there's some amazing payoff as they get older.

A few suggestions:

• We had our girls crib together for the first 3 months or so. We kept one crib in our room and one in the nursery. During the day they would sleep in the nursery; at night they would sleep in our room so we could get to them faster and easier in the middle of the night.
  
  

• Glad to see you have Boudreaux -- when you need that stuff, you REALLY need it.
  
• You may want to get rid of that baby powder. They do not recommend using it anymore because all the dust it throws in the air can be bad for the babies' lungs.
  
• You may want to replace the basket next to the glider with a table so mom can have a drink or some food. Also good place to put the pump (if she decides to pump).
  
• My wife chose to feed in the living room, so we quickly moved the glider there. It gets lonely pretty quickly to sit there and feed all day without people or TV to keep you company.
  
  
  Also, you may want to get one of these nursing pillows: http://www.amazon.com/My-Brest-Friend-Deluxe-Nursing/dp/B0032Z81M4/ref=sr_1_4?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1426256362&sr=1-4
  
  Good luck!!!

Amazon as well! There is also a matching blanket we put on our registry- Kids N' Such Minky Baby Blanket 30" x 40" - White Floral - Soft Swaddle Blanket for Newborns and Toddlers - Best for Girl Crib Bedding, Nursery, and Security - Plush Double Layer Fleece Fabric https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0743JHB4B/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_7vKXCbBXJFC8Q

And here is the boppy cover link:
Minky Nursing Pillow Cover | White Floral Pattern Slipcover | Best for Breastfeeding Moms | Soft Fabric Fits Snug On Infant Nursing Pillows to Aid Mothers While Breast Feeding | Great Baby Shower Gift https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0743LV22L/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ExKXCb27VYS80

https://www.upspringbaby.com/collections/c-panty
It has a silicone panel that pushes against the incision to minimize scarring.

https://www.amazon.com/BlenderBottle-SportMixer-Tritan-Bottle-28-Ounce/dp/B01M021YK8/ref=sr_1_17
I liked using the my Blender Bottle for water while breastfeeding, because it had a wide opening, and I'd chug the whole thing down as fast as I could, because I'd be so thirsty. (just take the blender ball out)

https://www.amazon.com/My-Brest-Friend-Nursing-Comfortable/dp/B00PC3K7OE/ref=sr_1_1
A good nursing pillow. Mom's Breast Friend was the gold standard when my babies were born, but there are a lot of other choices now.

https://www.amazon.com/Priva-Waterproof-Protector-Absorbency-Guaranteed/dp/B000FOA7BS/ref=sr_1_7
Absorbant mats like what they use on hospital beds for all the spills and leaks and everything else. These are great for so much: leaky boobs, changing babies anywhere and everywhere, etc etc. I still use them, and my kids are 7 and 9. They're handy to put on the bed when someone has a tummy bug.

Dry Shampoo

A toilet bidet attachment. Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Tibbers-Self-Cleaning-Retractable-Non-Electric-Mechanical/dp/B07VRQHMJF/ref=sr_1_12?crid=28MRK9BCKEGPL There are a ton of options.

We love his cuddle-u pillow. We weren't able to breast feed, so I don't know how it stands up to other nursing pillows, but my boy loves to just hang out in it. He's a very hands-off baby, doesn't like being cuddled that much (he gets hot too easy) but he loves lounging in this pillow on the floor across from me sitting on the couch. It has a handy little strap to keep him in place so he doesn't roll out of the thing. It's also is awesome when he is a grump and won't sleep unless he's being held. It's big enough that if I sit him in while he's sleeping he won't wake up cause he thinks he's still being coddled. I don't thing I would get any housework done with out it since he can only take so much swing time and is just now old enough for his exersaucer and bumbo type seat.

I bought this one with my first, and I absolutely love it! Its filled with buckwheat hulls, so it's heavy, but I enjoyed that! It held my daughter securely when she was tiny, cause I could mould the pillow around her.

And we used it for so many other things besides breastfeeding! I used it behind her when she was learning to sit up by herself, I used it to keep my heat pad still for my postpartum periods, and we use it everytime to brush her teeth at almost two!

My favorite thing to do with it now is put it under my knees while I'm laying down in bed. 10/10 recommend!
The Nesting Pillow- Organic Nursing Pillow with Washable Slipcover (Blue Truffles) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B019X1A4XE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_tx0mDbT34GBAM

If your friend is nursing as well (and doesn't already have a pillow), the breast friend nursing pillow was a huge help with protecting my incision site and core. It was way more supportive than the boppy!

A friend also got me a little storage caddy to keep daily supplies (such as diapers, cream, wipes, onesies, snacks, boob pads, etc) in next to me on the couch. It was great having things in arms reach during those early days when it hurt to move.

• The Brest Friend pillow I adored last time was useless to me after my c-section this time. Instead I use a Gia which is also great because it puts them at an angle which helps with reflux.
  
  
• The bassinet for the stroller... we live in the hills so half the time she'd be tipped down toward her head and wasn't happy about it. Plus it's black and gets very warm. If I'd been able to start going for walks right away (as opposed to waiting six weeks) I probably would have gotten more use out of it. Now she just rides in the regular stroller seat and is happy as a clam.
  
  
• The Hakaa pump... I just don't seem to be able to get it to do anything.

My Brest Friend for twins - my friends with twins love these. http://www.amazon.com/My-Brest-Friend-Deluxe-Nursing/dp/B0032Z81M4

They also like the Snap n Go double stroller frame. Fits 2 of almost any car seat.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B008U4MKU6/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?qid=1418814066&sr=8-3&pi=AC_SY200_QL40

Also I second the swing(s). It's a life saver!
Check with r/beyondthebump for current twin momma advice.

I use my Brest friend pillow I really like it because it has a bit of lower back support. I bought it for breastfeeding but still use it when bottle feeding. I have a Boppy but it is the newborn lounger. It was super nice for holding the baby when I needed a break. But at 2mo he’s nearly too big for it.

Try going to a thrift store, and searching through all the camisoles with a built-in elastic "bra". If you find a large enough one, they can support your breasts just enough to sleep comfortably without being too tight. This works for me, though mine are G/H so I'm not sure it'll work for you, but it's worth a shot! They also make things like this, which can help keep them separated while on your side.

I didn't think I'd like the Boppy or Brest Friend much, as I have a bit of a belly anyway and they looked too "tight".

I ended up with this one, and it's working out very well so far (it's only day 4).

It also made a pretty good pregnancy pillow before baby was born.

6 months in: we got a ton of crap. Here's what we actually used:


Baby car seat and base: Make sure the one you get is a rear facing one. Find a model/make that has the detachable base and fits into a stroller. example: graco If you have two cars, get two bases. It will save you from having to install the seat each time you need it. Just install the base once and you are done. If you are unsure of the install, check with your local police or fire department, they might have someone that is "certified" to install them. If you do find a deal on used ones, check the expiration date. They are required to have one. AND NEVER USE ONE THATS BEEN IN AN ACCIDENT.


Furniture:

Crib, sheets, mattress pad covers(3-4) bouncy chair, Boppy pillow, nursing pillow(if mom is nursing)


Diaper bag with changing station: Is a diaper bag that can unfold to a portable changing station anywhere. example <- dont get this one too expensive. Shop around.



Consumables

Diapers; if you plan on using disposables. Avoid getting newborns as they're usually only good for a week or two at the most. Stock up on 1,2,3 sizes. Wait for the sales and coupons at the local stores then buy, buy buy. You can never have too many. If you switch sizes, you can either save them for the next or donate them. No shelter will turn away free diapers. When you think you have enough, buy two more cases.

Same with wipes. Generally the wipes and diapers go on sale at the same time. Buy buy buy. You can never have too many. Keep an eye on coupons. we were able to get boxes for 2$ each with a combo sale/coupon.

Diaper Geni: Trust me. Get one. FYI, you can get generic refills online for 1/2 price.(amazon)

Spit up rags, there are as many out there as you can think of. Wanna save money? kitchen towels. Cheap, buy in bulk, they do the same job as the "baby spit up rags" but without the added "Baby" price tag.



Wearables

Swaddles: newborns love the swaddle(most of them). there are two kind, the wrap and the cheat. The wrap is just basically a small towel that any nurse can show you how to use. The cheat uses velcro. Halo sacks are a good name brand.

A regular pillow could definitely work. I personally used the boppy with both my girls and loved it.

my sister swears by a breast pillow like this one She puts it on under her pjs and it prevents the between-the-boobies wrinkles like the ones you're describing.

Work out childcare backups -- people you can call if you have an emergency, need a date night, need a daycare.

Work out a pediatrician -- ask friends, your girlfriend's OB-GYN.

What I'm glad I had:

• car seat that doesn't turn into a baby carrier
  
• boppy pillow
  
• wearable baby carrier
  
• swaddle blanket
  
• a rock-n-play
  
  What I could have waited on:
  
  
• stroller until 6 months
  
• finishing his nursery until 6 months
  
• toys until 3-4 months
  

We feed ours in this:
https://www.amazon.com/PILLOW-Twin-Breastfeeding-Bottlefeeding-Support/dp/B007VF57C8
I did all night feedings by myself when my husband went back to work. Feed them at the same time in the pillow, in the bed, on the floor, wherever. That pillow is the best thing we own.

A double nursing pillow. If she plans to nursing it is essential and even if she doesn't intend to nurse it's great for feedings and cuddling with the babes. I bought one on my pediatrician's advice on the day I brought my twins home from the hospital and used it continuously until they were a year old.

We had this one which has pockets for your water bottle, phone, snacks, etc. and also a back strap to keep it from getting away from you.
http://www.amazon.com/My-Brest-Friend-Deluxe-Nursing/dp/B0032Z81M4/

Dr. Brown's Gia pillow is superb. It's big and angled. http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-Gia-Nursing-Pillow/dp/B0048BP5RU

Consingment sale went well I got a twin nursing pillow and 11 4 oz avent bottles for $26!

Today I have a charity walk and then I will be spending the rest of the day chilling on my couch.

Intimia Pillow

This works wonders. The Intimia Pillow is on Amazon. It stops the lines as long as you wear it snuggly to the chest (but not too tight). It’s comfortable to sleep in. May take a night or two to get used to it. Has adjustable straps!

This is not answering your question, but if you are looking for an inexpensive but sturdy crib, IKEA has really great options. We got ours for $100 (not including the mattress). My daughter didn't sleep in until she was 5 months old though. She slept in a rock n play or her swing or when being held up until then - hated any flat surfaces the minute we got home from the hospital.

Regarding necessities at first - the boppy was completely necessary. I had one for the upstairs and one for downstairs so I didn't have to carry it around all the time.

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This is the one I use, FYI.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B007VF57C8/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1451835322&sr=8-1&pi=SX200_QL40&keywords=twin+z+nursing+pillow&dpPl=1&dpID=51dpEC0c9nL&ref=plSrch


This is how they fit just sitting on it now:

http://imgur.com/d4HNweG

I bought this breast separating pillow from Amazon and it made a huge difference to my comfort sleeping on my side. Also helped with morning chest wrinkles. Not sexy, but then neither is pregnancy 🙄

https://www.amazon.com/Intimia-Breast-Wrinkles-Prevention-Support/dp/B005EUH1A8

I started getting those too, because I'm a side sleeper, and my boobs would smoosh together. If you're a side sleeper too, you might want to look into a boob pillow.

Works for me: http://www.amazon.com/Intimia-Breast-Pillow-Wrinkles-Prevention/dp/B005EUH1A8

This term is apparently already taken. It belongs to this nursing pillow.

One poster linked this: https://www.amazon.com/Intimia-Breast-Wrinkles-Prevention-Support/dp/B005EUH1A8

A type of nursing pillow

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00HMGBJCS/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1482674005&sr=8-3&keywords=boppy&pi=SY200_QL40

Here is the mobile version of your link

It sounds crazy but when I'm tossing and turning at night, I sometimes wonder.

[This one makes wrinkle-fighting claims.] (http://www.amazon.com/Intimia-Breast-Wrinkles-Prevention-Support/dp/B005EUH1A8) [This is more basic.] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00DZFUXPE/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_a_it?qid=1457919197&sr=8-2&keywords=breast+pillow)

Also if you have medium to large breasts and are a side sleeper the weight of your boobs actually folds/pulls that skin down while you sleep!! I tried so hard to sleep on my back but just couldn’t swing it.

So I got a chest pillow for sleeping that holds the girls apart and keeps the skin from folding! It felt kind of ridiculous at first but now I actually feel uncomfortable sleeping without it.

Here’s what I use:

Intimia Breast Pillow Chest Wrinkles Prevention and Breast Support https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005EUH1A8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ILMDDbSZG3MXZ

Again it looks silly but an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure!!

Oh it's hard. But once you're past this "fourth trimester" you're getting skills down (and relearning and altering as the new person changes) and your new person is more ready to interact with people and the world.

What helped my wife and I with sleep: cosleeping. We set up a room that was dark, mattress on the floor, quiet. We could take him in there when he was having a tough night and he did much better sleeping next to his mom. Check out the The Baby Book by Dr Sears and the chapter on sleep.

My wife found this to be a lifesaver with nursing: My Brest Friend Original Nursing Posture Pillow, Grey & Yellow Fireworks https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003TSDMH8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_jmE6CbZJD7TSF

There are also lactation consultants.

The first two weeks, neither of us slept together. Our baby would only sleep on a person but we tag teamed. You're not in it alone, neither is your SO. Ask her what she needs and talk about what you need. Communication and support is always going to be important but it'll make you a stronger team too.

It'll always be hard and it gets hard in different ways. Fresh in, though, it's a form of torture. It's sleep deprivation mixed with what feels like anger, rejection, and humiliation. That's not what your baby's meaning to communicate. Hungry, gassy, dirty, sleepy, sleepy fighting sleep, bored, overstimulated, cold, hot. That's the check lost my wife and I read somewhere and go through whenever there's crying that can't be solved by a change in position. That's most of what a new born will complain about (outside being sick, if nothing else works you might need the rectal thermometer).

Good for you for reaching out. Community helps. Communication helps. Perspective helps. The tortured feeling of a new parent passes and, on balance, it's a hard but great time.

I don't have fibro - but I do have something called Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. I understand the frustration (and sometimes desperation) of chronic pain.

What I have is a connective tissue disorder that is multi-systemic. The main pain cause is the fact that my ligaments are like crappy rubber bands - once stretched, they don't heal (unlike most normal people). This results in subluxations, dislocations, and lots of muscle spasms (where they are trying to hold my joints together). But EDS affects lots of different things in my body (GI, Skin, Nervous System, Blood Pressure issues, etc.)

I've always had issues - but the last two years have been the worst. During that time I spent a lot of time with doctors trying to figure out what the hell was going on - and eventually I ended up with an EDS diagnosis.

It came right as my husband had finally convinced me that having a child was something I could be excited about. In addition to my own genetic disorder (which has a higher risk of membrane rupture, premature birth, and/or rapid birth) - my brother also has a Mitochondrial disorder - so add all of that up (coupled with an assload of pain and self loathing) and it was a rough couple of months while I tried to decide if I was even HEALTHY enough to have a child (not to mention I have a chance of passing these disorders down).

After a lot of testing, talking to my doctors, and soul searching - here I am. 17+4. AND I had to stop taking all of the medications that gave me a "normal" quality of life.

It has not been the easiest of pregnancies and by the end it will likely be very hard and painful. (Though, sometimes I am thankful I already have an insane pain threshold from a chronic disorder - I feel like it has given me perspective and prepped me for what is to come).

I genuinely expect to be unable to walk (unassisted) by the end of my pregnancy (it happens about once a year anyhow due to SI Joint dysfunction).

I also cannot exercise (or do yoga, or get massage) like a normal person - as it causes further injury. Even traditional physical therapy can injure me (I use a specific protocol that is catered just to my disorder).

I am concerned about holding baby as well. My arms, shoulder, and neck are prohibitive - but I have done a lot of reading and research and discussing with mothers who have EDS (shoutout to /r/ehlersdanlos) - and they have recommended some lovely products to help with some of this.

I won't be able to carry the baby - but a lot of the slings aren't quite right for me either (can't be lopsided).. so the community recommended this carrier very specifically ErgoBaby 360 4 way


And this for breast feeding: My BrestFriend - it latches around you and has lumbar support so you don't have to manage the baby AND the pillow.


I got my initial clinical diagnosis last year in October - and had some dark days while I processed the information.
I just got my actual genetic diagnosis (specific type of EDS - there are several) last month.

In between those diagnosis - I had to really settle into myself and acknowledge that my life wasn't going to be a "normal" life.

In a way - you have to mourn and grieve the life you "anticipated" and then accept it.

I also had to "come out" as disabled. It took me many months to even tell some of my closest friends, but a big part of it is advocating for yourself.

If you suffer from chronic pain - you don't lead a similar life to people who don't have that as part of their lives.

You will need help - and you need to accept it (internally) that it's totally okay to not be able to do 100% of the things you thought you could.

Once you accept it and realize your new reality - then you'll find a better world and mentality.

Also - have you ever heard of the "Spoon Theory" - might be a great way to wrap your head around what you feel and how to find a way to advocate for yourself.

Honestly - for me, the biggest thing I have had to "emotionally" deal with is watching other pregnant women bitch and moan about things people do or say to them. Once you live with pain and find that sometimes your body is your own worst enemy - you start to find it silly to be so angry at the world - you're busy fighting other battles that feel so much more important.

I say it is a struggle for me "emotionally" - just because I know deep down that just because my experience is difficult doesn't invalidate another experience (even if it seems less difficult than my own).

Woo- this turned into a long one. :)

Anyhow - if you need to talk. Let me know. You aren't going through this alone in the world.

You may also want to check out /r/ChronicIllness or /r/Invisible for more support and people who suffer as well.

EDIT: I also wanted to add that I am extremely happy (despite being disabled, in pain, and somewhat apprehensive about the future) - so it is possible! Don't give up! You've got this!