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Welcome to parenting with porn :D And uhh... you want to share that link with us? For science? Aherm... KIDDING....kinda... LOL

I've had four kids hit that point, two boys and two girls, and several more coming that way soon. Here's my recommendations...and feel free to take/leave what does or doesn't work for you:

• Normalize this. It's normal. I promise. That it is an educational video is AWESOME. I mean, none of us are delighted when our kids get interested in becoming sexually active (or at least start considering it), but this is SO much better than "hardcore face fucking gang bang". I swear.
  
  
• In line with this being normal, check out this book: It's Perfectly Normal (NOT a paid referral link).
  
  
• Also the book: What's Happening to My Body: A Book for Boys (Also not a paid referral link)
  
  
• Editing to add another great book I just thought of: Boy's Guide to Becoming a Teen (also not a paid referral link)
  
  
• Editing because I remembered another one! Talk to Me First It's a book for parents about how to have these conversations. Highly recommend :) Also not an affiliate link :)
  
  
• Give your kiddo a lot of kudos for looking at education videos! That's a pretty appropriate way to find things like this out. Then gently explain that some videos online aren't as educational, but are more just adult entertainment. Explain the laws about porn - that no one under 18 is allowed to see it, and that the police take that very seriously. Explain that these movies are like any other entertainment - Ask him, when he watches Avengers, does he actually think he is going to see explosions like that at the airport, or car chases like that driving down the road? Does any part of him REALLY think that when HE starts driving that sort of behavior is ok? Of course he doesn't. Same applies here - sex entertainment is like a Michael Bey flick - it's not intended to be realistic, but since people forget that because it's sex, it's easy to get caught up in the "glitz" of it all.
  
  
• Pay close attention to any of your own hangups about sex, and work REALLY hard not to give them to your kiddo, or at least acknowledge that they're YOUR hangups and not his. Where things are awkward of uncomfortable for you, SAY that and explain there's no reason to be, it's just from how things were explained to you when you were young. Explain you want to keep these conversations as comfortable as you can.
  
  
• Consider having a few different conversations about all of this, instead of a big heavy (cue music of dread and woe) SEX TALK. The goal isn't to micromanage his blossoming sexuality, it's to create a climate of trust and communication, so when he's 16 and fucking everything in sight, you guys can talk about how to be safe and keep priorities and boundaries clear.
  
  
• Keep it calm and light hearted. The last thing either of you want to do is teach him that "getting caught" with ANYTHING related to his sexuality is something to be ashamed of or that he'll "get in trouble" for doing. It's a biological and hormonal explosion in his brain right now, you can either work with it, or he'll hide it, but it is NOT going away.
  
  
• Make decisions that support his changing self. I get the urge to lock down websites that are inappropriate. I really do. But again, be careful to find the balance between protecting from inappropriate/illegal material and outright censoring. I use this: K9 Web Protection on my kids' electronics because it is SO customizable. Anything sex-ed related, abortion related, educationally related, is 100% unlocked at all times at my home. For my teens, Nina Hartley is unlocked as well - she's an avid sex educator and REALLY good at communicating the "how to" of sex clearly and without shame or being trashy. However...out and out porn? That's locked. I realize they'll likely find it SOMEWHERE, and parts of Youtube have plenty of softcore stuff, but my goal isn't to shield them from seeing sex. Sex is natural and normal and healthy and fun - I WANT my kids to know that! But I also want to make sure they aren't overexposed to things more graphic than they can process right now.
  
  It's about finding a balance. You got this mama. I promise.

This might be a completely crazy idea, but...since he's clearly smart and enjoys learning, maybe teach him some basic neuroscience? Explain that there are parts of his brain that make him feel his feelings (limbic system), and other parts of his brain that help him stay in control (prefrontal cortex). Explain that as kids grow up, their prefontal cortex gets bigger and stronger so they get better at managing big feelings. Explain that he can help his prefrontal cortex get bigger and stronger by practicing calming himself down when he feels big feelings. He's actually growing his brain every time he practices! (This is more or less true, though it's more about neural connections than brain volume, and obviously there are some developmental limits on what a 4-year-old brain is capable of). Anyway, just thinking this might help motivate him to try a bit more self-regulation, and help him feel less out of control if he understands a bit better what's going on in his own brain. There are some great neuroscience books for kids out there (aimed at slightly older kids, but shouldn't be a problem for your kiddo) such as The Adventures of Your Brain and Your Fantastic Elastic Brain. My First Book about the Brain is another good one in coloring book form.

Helping him become more in tune with his body so he can recognize when he's starting to ramp up might also be helpful. Listening to My Body or Visiting Feelings might help with this. He might also really relate to the story Sometimes I'm Bombaloo. Once he's able to recognize when he's getting wound up, help him redirect that energy/emotion into more appropriate outlets. Maybe encourage him to run around outside, or do jumping jacks, or stomp his feet. You might look into sensory-based activities; this book looks like it might be helpful. Ask him what his body feels like it wants to do, and help him find a way to do that safety/appropriately (e.g. if he wants to destroy something, have him knock down block towers or rip up paper). You could also try calming strategies like deep breathing, yoga, or other mindfulness activities - there are some great apps for that such as Stop Breathe & Think Kids and Super Stretch Yoga, or books such as Breathe Like a Bear and My Magic Breath. He might especially relate to The Lemonade Hurricane. The Mindful Kids activity cards are great too.

Hope something in there is helpful - best of luck to you and your son!

Honestly, maybe just talk to him about it being natural to want to look at porn (as you have) but also explain that it's very rude to do it on other people's devices and explain the issues of viruses/pop-ups. Then I'd have a quick talk about how porn portrays sex being unrealistic/respecting women and partners etc., and just tell him if he wants to look at porn it's fine but he should keep that all in mind and do it in private and only go to trusted websites (maybe show him a few, explain that he should never actively download anything, that he should use adblockers, that he should never give out a phone number or credit card numbers to access porn as that will charge money).

I think that it would be okay to change your phone password (and tell him you are doing that so he is not tempted to use someone elses' phone again) but adding locks on your doors and cameras seems really extreme and to me sends the message that you don't trust him to modify his behavior or control himself. It also seems like an invasion of his privacy and not the right way to send a message about respecting others' privacy. Would you have liked to know that your parents used cameras to watch you? A white noise machine seems ideal if you want to keep your sex quieter, though. Honestly, I grew up in a small house and had to hear my parents have sex, so he might be hearing it whether he wants to or not.

A few mags might be okay, but maybe he should just have the chance to have some private internet time now and again on a device that has good anti-virus software. You can teach him how to clear his browser history or use incognito mode as well to protect his own privacy. Also, maybe he is into men and doesn't want to look at female models, and if that's the case, giving him those mags will alienate him further. If he has some free reign to find his own porn then you avoid that.

The author Robie Harris has some GREAT books that vary by developmental stage that address sexual health and reproduction issues; I believe "It's Perfectly Normal" is the one that addresses masturbation in a really healthy way.

First off - don't be quiet around your baby when she's sleeping!! Let her get used to the noise, then she'll sleep through anything!!. That's one of the best pieces of advice I got. :-)
Think back to the stuff you loved doing as a child and remember to try that when she's old enough. I've had great success with my son doing that. One of my favourite memories is buying a big bag of those plastic army toys, you know the cheap plastic ones? you get a couple of tanks and jeeps and a load of soldiers. Started playing with those with my son when he was 3 or 4 ish, man that was so, so much fun. Usually some teddy godzilla would come in in the end and destroy both sides. Then we modernised it a bit by filming little stories on my phone and using special effects apps to blow things up. He loved that!!

Ask her questions, I get a great kick out of that. Specifically, when she asks you about something, ask her what she thinks, it's a great way to connect with your kid and get an insight to how her mind works, it'll also help her develop a questioning/reasoning mindset, for example: "Pappa, why is the sky blue?", "I'm not sure, why do you think it's blue?" - You won't believe the answers you'll get, it's so great. Then explain how it actually works, and if you don't know, get her to a computer and start googling that shit.
While she's small, let your kid get dirty. I mean seriously, playing in mud, jumping in puddles, eating dinner or ice-cream with her hands - the bigger the mess the better.

Minecraft - Play Minecraft!!
On a more serious note, start teaching your kid the very basics of sex education when she's about 7 or 8, seriously, any later than that is getting old. My son is 10 now and I got him this book. But you don't want her growing up not knowing, I hear people saying 12 or 13 is the time to talk about that stuff, but that's way, way too late. if you start with the basics at 7 or 8 then by the time she's 10 she'll be comfortable enough with the topic to be able to come to you and her mother with questions. You can get a book like that and read it with her.


Outdoor stuff - do outdoor stuff. Forests, beaches, join clubs together, scouting, fishing, things like that. We joined an orienteering club together, man that's so much fun.

Man, kids are awesome, have fun!

Edit: Hugs - never ending hugs!
Edit 2: Cooking, don't forget to cook with her.

Since the boys are roughly the same age and evidently having a good time, I think you're right that you don't have to worry about coercion or abuse.

However, your son is clearly ready to learn about more than just "where babies come from" and "some families have two daddies". He's started puberty. You need to teach him about the feelings he's having, and the changes his body is going through. And you need to talk to him about sex and its place in society. The way we view male and female roles. Concepts of consent. Privacy. Respect. Legal issues. STIs. How we feel about children and sex. Sexting. Why masturbation is usually a better choice when you're very young, versus involving other people in your sexual explorations and discoveries. Sexual orientation and the assumptions different elements of our society makes about it. (By the way, just because he was experimenting with his same-gender friend, that doesn't mean he's gay. He may be, he may not be. It may be still too early to know.)

Eleven year olds are pretty darn smart. He's more than capable of understanding this stuff. And it's not going to cost him his innocence... innocence is not the same as ignorance. Innocence is merely a lack of jadedness about the world.

So educate him!

This book is a great place to start:

http://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729/

Edit: Discuss it with his father first, but I do think you could tactfully mention what you saw to your son. And use that as a jumping off point for further discussion. It's perfectly okay to say, "I don't want you doing anything sexual with M. Let's think of some other fun things you can do with your best friend instead..." And it's also okay to put an end to the whole, "sleeping together in bed/same room unsupervised thing". Same as you would with a boy and girl who are getting a wee bit too frisky with each other. It's your home, and you set the rules.

I recently went through the something like this... But with my eight year old. I was stunned. Mortified. I found searches like, "8 year olds having sex," "naked 8 year olds," etc. He was introduced to online porn through an eleven year old family friend/cousin over the summer. I bought a book that is more geared to tweens, but we went through it and had THE talk.


I explained to him that ONE - if he wanted to talk about sex, he needed to talk to a trusted adult, like his father or me, an aunt or uncle. Talking with other kids, even older ones like this eleven year old cousin, isn't going to get him anywhere because they probably haven't had sex. They won't know what real sex is like between real people that are having it.

TWO - looking up porn on line isn't always going to be REAL SEX. In fact, is mostly not real sex. The people who are filming and putting their sexual acts online are actors and are not showing what real sex can be between real people when you're really having sex.

TWO B - you can't trust all the stuff that's posted online. Some people put stuff online without permission, and that can be illegal. Also, anything involving children or even a teenager under 18 in a sexual act or being naked is ILLEGAL. You don't know with 100% certainty who is over a certain age or what was posted or filmed with permission. Because of that, it's important to not search for pornography or naked photos online, especially at his age or of people of his age.

He took it pretty well, albeit he was very nervous and embarrassed and extremely ashamed. I told him he wasn't at fault, because he didn't know better, but now he does. And just because he knows about this stuff doesn't give him the right to talk to ANY OTHER KIDS about it. I told him that if talk happens (especially among little boys his age and in the coming years) that it's best to let them know that he already knows about it and he already talked about it with his mom, and that his friends should do the same if they are curious. I told him that parents are very protective of what their kids know and don't know when it comes to adult topics and that it's not our job or place to interfere with other families practices.

Here's the book if any one is interested: It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health (The Family Library) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0763668729/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_TkkDwb8HKXWK1

It really goes in detail about a lot of things - sexuality, birth control, puberty, masturbation. It wasn't exactly an easy read for a mom and son team, but we got through it! He even felt comfortable enough to tell me about crushes and a kiss he had during a field trip. Also comfortable enough to ask about my birth control methods (felt my nexlplanon implant) & questions when I'm on my period when he sees tampons in the trash - that little punk.

I strongly recommend you send her a copy of "It's Perfectly Normal" by Robie H. Harris.

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> The definitive book about puberty and sexual health for today’s kids and teens, now fully updated for its twentieth anniversary.

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>For two decades, this universally acclaimed book on sexuality has been the most trusted and accessible resource for kids, parents, teachers, librarians, and anyone else who cares about the well-being of tweens and teens. Now, in honor of its anniversary, It’s Perfectly Normal has been updated with information on subjects such as safe and savvy Internet use, gender identity, emergency contraception, and more. Providing accurate and up-to-date answers to nearly every imaginable question, from conception and puberty to birth control and STDs, It’s Perfectly Normal offers young people the information they need—now more than ever—to make responsible decisions and stay healthy.

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I just published my first Middle Grade book (ages 9-12) very excited, very nervous.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1999232216/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?keywords=skating+book+for+girls+sierra+jones&qid=1573839450&s=books&sr=1-1-fkmr0

SIARRA JONES Skating Into Trouble

SIARRA JONES adores skating. LOVES everything about it…

The smell of the cold air when she enters the rink…

The feeling of tightly lacing up her skates exactly the way she likes them…

But her favorite part is taking that first GLIDE onto the ice…


Siarra is SUPER excited to start her new skating lessons.


Unfortunately, sometimes life has a funny way of pulling the ice out from under you.


Siarra Jones Skating Into Trouble is the exciting, fast-paced story of a smart, funny, thoughtful young girl struggling to find a way to deal with a faster skater who picks on her.


Will she give up on her dream of joining an elite skating school or can she figure out a way to deal with THE SKATING BULLY?


Middle grade readers (and parents) will enjoy the first book in the Step-By-Step Series. The Step-By-Step Series are realistic, coming-of-age stories featuring smart, funny, and authentic characters dealing with challenging situations.

I think you need a trusted source for basic Sex Ed, that you probably missed. A source that you can go back and reference.

Some really good Sex Ed books, with lots of pictures/comics, (which are for teens, but I think they're really good) are written by Robie H. Harris. You can get them on Amazon.com:

• It's Perfectly Normal
  
• It's So Amazing!
  
• It's Not the Stork!
  
  Maybe you can find them at your local library?
  
  Other than that, I honestly learned a lot from good internet sources and wikipedia. Learn to think critically about what is a good source of information. Plus, you can always ask your family doctor or gynecologist; and therapy is a great idea too.

At that age, the book my parents read with me was called "It's Perfectly Normal". It's a great book for younger kids that covers the basics of puberty and sex. (Just a heads up, it includes a section about gay people and bisexual people, and is very LGBT positive, just in case that's not something you're comfortable telling your kids.) It explains crushes, what sexual attraction feels like, the basics of how sex works.

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When she is a few years older (13-14), one of the best books you can get her (and read yourself, before you give to her) is called Our Bodies, Ourselves. It covers A LOT of stuff, in detail. It covers everything from the puberty basics, to what it means to take care of our bodies including drugs and alcohol, sexual health, safe sex, and mental health and wellbeing. It is an incredible guide to womens health. Heads up that this one covers some hard topics, including sexual violence and unwanted pregnancy/abortion. Personally I believe it's good to learn about these things early, but you may feel differently.

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Amazon links to each:

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729/ref=sr_1_2?crid=ZU9INC4R8RPF&keywords=it%27s+perfectly+normal&qid=1565136853&s=books&sprefix=it%27s+perfect%2Cstripbooks%2C230&sr=1-2

https://www.amazon.com/Our-Bodies-Ourselves-New-Era/dp/0743256115/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_img_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=TS7545ED92NZNFAWYDCQ

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Some things I was told that helped me growing up: you don't have to wait until marriage for sex, but your first time will be much better if you wait to have it with someone you trust. Someone you trust means someone who you have known for a long time, who has demonstrated to you in concrete ways that they care about you and your safety and well-being, who listens to you. It means someone who you can have really open conversations with, even uncomfortable ones. If you feel too awkward to talk about safe sex and how to prevent pregnancy, and what to do in case of an accidental pregnancy, you don't know the person well enough to have sex with them.

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Try to foster the kind of relationship with her where she will come to you with questions or if she's in trouble. "I expect you to wait until marriage", or "I will hunt down any guy who hurts you with a shotgun", or "sex is dirty and for adults" will not foster that kind of relationship, even if it is REALLY tempting.

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Let her know if she wants to be put on birth control, you will take her to get it.

My parents talked to me but also gave me a book that was really great.

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health (The Family Library) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0763668729/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_pS3QzbS1TWRN3

I suggest to buy this. I see there is a Kindle version now too so that's cool. This book goes over every from anatomy, what to expect in puberty, types of safe sex practices, STDs, emotional concerns of going through puberty. It was really a good resource.

P.S The uterus is about the size of a pear but stretches during pregnancy. Testicles should be descended in most boys by birth. Talking about balls dropping is usually teasing kids starting puberty or when the voice deepens. Chlamydia and syphilis are powerful bacterial infections that are becoming antibiotic resistant but are curable. HPV causes genital warts and is mostly incurable but recently there is a vaccination that most women are recommended to get so request that from you doctor if you want. HPV tends to cause uterine cancer. HIV is also incurable and can lead to AIDS. Nuvaring puts progesterone in your body which, to paraphrase, make your body think it's pregnant so it prevents ovulation, similar to all other female birth control drugs. The Nuvaring is flexible and springy so it sits at the cervix, at the end of the vagina, at the opening of the uterus. The man's penis does need to be erect before putting on the condom otherwise it's will not fit right and could come off in sex.

I got my daughters 2 books - they're for different age ranges but they introduce "the birds and the bees" well (with a silly cartoon bird and bee, who have different interest and comfort levels with discussing everything).

It's So Amazing (recommended for ages 7-10) and It's Perfectly Normal (for ages 10 and up)

Can I add another book recommendation? We gave a book called It's perfectly normal to SS around the time he was 12. DH have him an overview on what it was about and said he can flip through it, do some reading and feel free to discuss anything. This book literally covers everything you can imagine. I wish I had something like this when I was growing up honestly because I had a lot of questions. Sue Johanson (from the Sunday night sex show) was my guide when I was in high school, that sassy no bullshit old lady is the bomb!

I don’t have sex talk advice since I’m not a mom and I teach younger kids. But I would have liked to know happy gay adults existed when I was a kid. Maybe you could expose her to kid friendly gay media like Steven Universe or She-Ra (I hear it’s pretty gay but haven’t actually watched it).

I also googled gay books for kids and this one looks cute AF.

There are people super upset about this one’s “vulgar” pictures and the fact that the author is gay so it might be good.

Sounds to me like you handled it well. Does she have any "appropriate" sources to consult when she is curious? Our daughter has these books:

• https://smile.amazon.com/Whats-Happening-Me-Susan-Meredith/dp/0794512674/
  
• https://smile.amazon.com/Its-Not-Stork-Families-Friends/dp/0763633313/
  
• https://smile.amazon.com/Its-So-Amazing-Families-Library/dp/0763668745
  
• https://smile.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729
  
  We read them with her, and they are in her room so she can look at them on her own if she wants.
  
  > it’s still not allowed at her age
  
  I just read some study about how drug talks with kids are more effective when parents explain the why behind things, so make sure you are doing this. I'd probably say something about how porn is a completely unrealistic portrayal of adult sexuality, and how since she is just learning, it can teach her things that are not true, and that could make it harder for her to good meaningful relationships later in life.

I Can Handle It by Laurie Wright

Listening to My Body: A guide to helping kids understand the connection between their sensations (what the heck are those?) and feelings so that they can get better at figuring out what they need. by Gabi Garcia

Breathe Like a Bear: 30 Mindful Moments for Kids to Feel Calm and Focused Anytime, Anywhere by Kira Willey

Edit to add a French book: Léon et les émotions by Annie Groovie!

You can google "first period kits" and see what it's included in those and make one for her. It would just require a quick stop at the store and would be a nice gesture. Usually they are a small bag/purse with a few different types of pads/liners/tampons, a small bottle of ibuprofen, some new undies, and maybe something fun like a bottle of nail polish or some chocolate. A heating pad is also nice. If you are also concerned with the messaging from your wife, go on amazon and get a book, something like this, that's specifically about puberty and starting her cycle. Or send her a link to a website geared towards that.

Maybe not what you are looking for exactly but another good one:

It's Perfectly Normal
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0763668729/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Amazon link for those like me interested in buying it: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0763668729

This book sounds awesome.

That's a great question....but you said they have their own rooms? Something tells me he'll choose to move when the time is right. Maybe casually mention it from time to time. Also, I couldn't recommend the book It's Perfectly Normal more highly.

Factual information is never too much information at any age. A few book resources that could help follow:

It's Perfectly Normal

The Care and Keeping of You (there's also a second one)

This whole list with more

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Also just keep in mind, honesty and accuracy are the most important things at this stage. If she's old enough to ask, she's old enough to be told at least some factual information about it. Obviously not explicit sexual stuff needed, but address anatomy, facts of reproduction, issues of consent, body image and body changes, etc. These are all appropriate when the child is already asking about things.

This is the best book I think:

Its Perfectly Normal

The Robie Harris books are awesome. There’s one for younger kids (kindergarten-grade 2 or so,)one for slightly older kids, and one for preteens. My kids love them.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0763668729/ref=dbs_a_w_dp_0763668729

There is a top rated series that has been around for years and is constantly updated:

https://www.amazon.ca/Its-Not-Stork-Families-Friends/dp/0763633313

https://www.amazon.ca/Its-So-Amazing-Babies-Families/dp/0763668745/ref=pd_aw_fbt_img_2/136-1458463-9877260?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0763668745&pd_rd_r=1276f820-7e54-11e9-a800-798d64934000&pd_rd_w=yWMmI&pd_rd_wg=VeLzc&pf_rd_p=318fc841-c654-436b-9e98-a4e2694ba626&pf_rd_r=MCSQGCMT881D674448T7&psc=1&refRID=MCSQGCMT881D674448T7

https://www.amazon.ca/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729/ref=pd_aw_fbt_14_img_2/136-1458463-9877260?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0763668729&pd_rd_r=8806a471-7e54-11e9-b06b-1967775fe31c&pd_rd_w=MRz2Z&pd_rd_wg=eITPH&pf_rd_p=318fc841-c654-436b-9e98-a4e2694ba626&pf_rd_r=HN5SAZ8QJYDZZ0CAPQJJ&psc=1&refRID=HN5SAZ8QJYDZZ0CAPQJJ

Each book is aimed at a different age group - the title “Its Perfectly Normal” is aimed at ages 10 and up.

My son is only 6 weeks old but I already have the series of books on our shelves. He’s got a long way to go before these conversations start, but I loaned them all to my sister to read with my 7-10 year old niece and nephew and they thoroughly enjoyed them and the conversations and questions that followed.

You may want to get your daughter an educational book such as It's Perfectly Normal that you can either read with her or she can read on her own, whichever makes the two of you more comfortable.

That book is meant for younger kids, but there are two additional books written by the same authors aimed at older kids It's so amazing! for 7-10 year olds, and It's perfectly normal for 10 and up.

This is a great book to jump start a discussion. He's at a really good age to start the conversation.

Buy "It's Perfectly Normal." Used it for my son who is now 28 and my daughter who is 17. My son recently brought it up and said he wanted to know the name so he could use it for his own kids when its time. We went through it together when they were nine or ten. It addresses everything from menstruation to puberty to different body types to conception to homosexuality to masturbation to abortion. It is all done in a matter of fact way with (of course) a bird and bee cartoon commenting on each page to make it kid friendly. I can't recommend it enough. http://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1463671727&sr=8-1&keywords=its+perfectly++normal

This book is a really good sex education text for teens and it covers masturbation and other sex-relations issues relevant to teens. We found it very helpful. A child psychologist I know recommended it very highly. https://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729/ref=pd_bxgy_14_img_2?ie=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=A870ETNQKQ9VC016SEPT

Adding to the above, my parents bought me It's Perfectly Normal when I was young.

It's not gender-specific and explores sexuality and reproduction in a prepubescent-friendly way. The language is plain and clear and doesn't talk down about its subject matter.

I really can't recommend this book enough.

This book is great! You can have him read it and then ask if he has questions.

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?keywords=boys+puberty+books+9-12&qid=1562733460&s=gateway&sprefix=boys+puberty+&sr=8-4

(after following /u/whyihatepink's advice) If you'd rather go the book route, we got the version of this for young kids (5ish) and it was great.

I loved this book as a pre-teen, and I bought it for my niece recently. It's been updated to include sexting and cyberbullying and stuff <3

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729

Sounds like a good talk. I have a ten year old son, so I followed your post with interest. Kids are curious and it can be hard to balance their curiosity with Internet safety. At least when we were kids, we could sneak peeks at bodies in National Geographic and there was no worry about the FBI knocking down our doors! Anyway, I bought that sane book for my son along with this one: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0763668729/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1450641405&sr=8-1&pi=SY200_QL40&keywords=its+perfectly+normal&dpPl=1&dpID=61eSz7BpJlL&ref=plSrch. He acted all embarrassed but he has them if he wants to read them. They get the "puberty" talk at school this year, so maybe he will pull the books out then. We will see!

Here's a good book to start with.

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https://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729

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We use it in the curriculum that I teach in school. It's part of the Our Whole Lives (OWL) curriculum if you want to dig deeper on your own.

The hell we shouldn’t give young kids the whole talk. I was giving the other kids in kindergarten sex Ed lessons. That’s what happens when you live on a farm...animals fuck, it’s unavoidably in your face. I had the mechanics down very early. And so did my kids.

Books to normalize talking about sex:

It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends (age 4+)

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Stork-Families-Friends/dp/0763633313

It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families (age 7+)

https://www.amazon.com/Its-So-Amazing-Families-Library/dp/0763668745

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sexual Health (age 9+)

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729

Of course I'm going to recommend a book...

You probably want this:
http://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729/

Link to 1-star reviews for the lazy!

Get a basic book. Maybe something like this? And maybe a book about consent.

Yup. Also:

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Stork-Families-Friends/dp/0763633313/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1541273056&sr=8-1

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1541273106&sr=1-1

https://www.amazon.com/Where-Did-Come-nonsense-illustrations-ebook/dp/B01A4ANV4M/ref=dp_kinw_strp_1

https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Big-Secret-Talking-about/dp/0316101834/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1541273157&sr=1-1

https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Big-Secret-Talking-about/dp/0316101834/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1541273157&sr=1-1&keywords=whats+the+big+secret

take a look at all of things Arnold did for children and explain to me why you think he's a poor choice. here's a quick link to when he launched childrens activity programs in california to combat obesity. https://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/health/spotlighthealth/2002-11-15-schwarzenegger-obesity_x.htm

edit: here's a book he wrote for child excersice. https://www.amazon.com/Arnolds-Fitness-Kids-Age-11-14/dp/0385422687

and another: https://www.amazon.com/Arnolds-Fitness-Kids-Age-6-10/dp/0385422679