(Part 3) Reddit mentions: The best baby

Here are mine:

• Secure Beginnings Crib Mattress - a totally breathable crib mattress. You can take the "sleep surface" off and throw it in the washing machine when needed. I surprisingly don't do it that often. The mesh fabric and space under it helps in temperature regulation and air exchange. Basically, helped me as a new mom not worry about suffocation. I ended up going wild and getting two sleep surfaces per mattress. I got one set in the regular size and a mini crib for our room.
  
• LED Touch Light - these suckers are rechargeable and hold their charge a long time. They're super portable. What I like best is that you can turn them suuuuper dim, which is great for middle of the night wake ups and diaper changes. We have one hanging from our headboard and one hanging above the changing table. And then another around the house. There are tons of sellers of this type of product and they're quite inexpensive.
  
• Wet Bag - a reusable and washable bag to stash wet/dirty stuff. An essential for cloth diaperers, but also great for pooped on clothes, bathing suits, etc.
  
• Fischer-Price Ultra-Lite Day and Night Play Yard - this is a smaller and less expensive version of a traditional pack and play. We kept it in the living room and baby spent a lot of time there as a newborn.
  
• Gripe Water Lots of gripe water. Good for gas, sometimes hiccups, and gentle relief for stomach upset. Also helps some newborns poop.
  
• Grovia Magic Stick Diaper Balm - made for cloth diapers, but would work for sposies. A barrier "cream" on a stick, so you don't have to get your fingers gross. Smells amazing - I literally sniff the stick every time we use it.
  
• Freemies - great for hands-free pumping, especially in the car or at work. Fits inside the shirt. Can be hit or miss on if it works for individuals, but it works GREAT for my boobs. Regular flanges hurt me and didn't yield good output, but Freemies agreed with my body wonderfully.
  
• Spectra Pump I have nothing but good things to say about the Spectra pump. I have the S1 (battery operated), S2 (plugs in), and the S9 (battery operated, but not as fancy as S1). I haven't had any issues with my pumps, but others have had great customer service experiences. It's a "closed" system, which means it's impossible for milk to get into the pump on accident. This is a good thing.
  
• Kiinde Storage Bags - these breastmilk storage bags are more expensive, but highly durable. I love the twist top - much easier to use then a zipper top. We used the whole bottle system from 0-6 months. At six months, he realized he could take the nipple off the bottle and we switched to Como Tomo bottles. But for those months, it was SO NICE to just send the bags to daycare and wash only the nipples (the shells stayed at daycare).
  
• Lillebaby Complete Airflow Baby Carrier - while baby carrier preferences will vary widely by body type and personal preferences, I love my Lillebaby most. It doesn't require any special insert for newborns and the lumbar support was awesome. The airflow version was great, as I live in a very hot state.
  
• Lectrofan Sound Machine - you may be wondering why this is $45 and other sound machines are $20. Because it is amazing, that is why. Seriously 100% amazing.
  
  Hope this helps somebody!
  
  Edit: added a few more after the Spectra.

My baby is almost 5 months.

Toys: she loves all mobiles/activity gym hanging toys. She actually is starting to enjoy some other toys that she manipulates with her hands but only when she is sitting up, which she can't do alone yet. So in her carseat/stroller, sitting between my legs, propped up in back with a pile of blanket, or most of all in her high chair. Her high chair makes her so much more interested in using her hands to explore things (I do see that it's a better position, the tray holds it up and she can't always do that herself so she can move ti around).

We have the ANTILOP high chair from Ikea which was only $20 and is awesome! Another $6 for the PYTTIG high chair support pillow which is comfy, easy to clean, and helps her be in the right position to use the tray. Her favorite baby toy to hold is the Skwish Classic Rattle and Teether Grasping Activity Toy. She got a bunch of different baby toys at Christmas and loves this. It is one of the few wooden toys she can mange to hold and manipulate yet. She likes to chew it too. She can also manage to grab Oball products and hold the lighter Oballs. She likes the rattle ball. She also just really likes to chew on cloth, this includes cloth and crinkle cloth books.

I read books to her. Yes, some board books but those are super short and pretty boring. I learned you can get up to 50 books at a time from our local library! So just a pile of kids of books and I read her a few. I like to do this facing a mirror so I can watch her face and read to her with her in my lap.

She loves walks int he stroller and being baby worn in her Boba baby carrier when she gets fussy in the stroller. I can also use the Boba to carry her while doing something else or to get her to fall asleep during the day not on my lap. (Yeah, I need to figure this out.) Outside is always a treat to her and going even boring places like the grocery store makes her alert and somewhat excited.

Curious to see what other people post.

Warning - lots of text below! My baby is about 6 weeks now and I'm exclusively breastfeeding. My Medela Harmony manual pump has been fine for building a stash - I pump 1-2 times a day for the freezer and occasional bottle feedings from Dad. I think it's pretty convenient, but I'll be using a double electric pump when I go back to work (waiting to see what Tricare will cover in 2015!).

Whatever you decide to use for diapering, I'd strongly recommend getting some prefolds (I got Osocozy unbleached). They're great for burp cloths, catching milk from your other boob during letdown, etc and they're also way cheaper and more absorbent than fancy burp cloths. Personally I love prefolds and covers for diapering, but don't buy too much into any one system or brand until you know what works for you. My husband hates prefolds so now I'm having to add pockets and AIOs to appease him.

I'd get some swaddlers (at least 2; my favorite is from Nuroo but that was a gift and they're pricey, the summer infant SwaddleMe wraps are good now that she's bigger but didn't fit well until about 10 lbs). My girl lives in footed pajamas and I love the Gerber zipped ones, we found tons at goodwill for $1.50 each but if you can't find them used, they're on Amazon for $10 for a 2 pack. You're right that other people will buy clothes, but they'll pick cutesy stuff and you need some practical choices too.

Nursing pillow - I had an unexpected C section and this has been so necessary. I love the Luna Lullaby since it's big and I had a big baby.

Some kind of baby carrier, I got a Moby wrap while she's small and it's amazing for running errands (I put it on before getting in the car and pop her in before going in the store, WAY easier than a carseat and stroller).

We were gifted a used swing and it is a freaking godsend. It's the only way I get chores done since I can pop her in there and cook, do laundry, clean, etc without her crying. YMMV, some babies hate them, but buy used and you won't be out too much cash.

Wubbanub pacifier is easy to keep track of and super cute.

Pack n Play with a mattress for cosleeping (recommended to reduce SIDS risk for the first 6 months). At least 2 mini crib sheets.

Earth Mama Angel Baby nipple butter is amazing for the first couple weeks.

QuickZip crib sheets will be amazing once you use the crib.

Simba baby safety nail cutter - no bleeding!

Finally, the Itzbeen pocket nanny timer is so helpful for keeping track of feedings and diaper changes, especially in the first few weeks.

Hope this wasn't too overwhelming. Good luck!

*Edited to add links to products.

I had similar concerns before my son was born 3.5 months ago. It seemed like everyone had trouble, so I was fully prepared for a miserable experience and was mentally steeling myself to power through for the sake of my baby. And then... it was super easy. No real latch issues. Minimal pain. No supply issues. Used a bottle day 2 and pacifier at week 2 without any nipple confusion. When needed, we used formula here and there without any problems. It's pleasant and sweet for me to nurse him and it's been a wonderful bonding experience! I was lucky, but I also think people with good experiences don't tend to comment online about them as much, so maybe they're underrepresented.

I will say that if it's in the budget, stocking up on some supplies, including just-in-case supplies, was helpful. It's great to have them on hand the second you need them - I'm not sure I would have thought to go out and buy them in the moment otherwise - and also provides some peace of mind before the baby comes knowing that you're prepared.

For me these included:
Earth Mama Angel Baby Nipple Butter - use early and often!
Hydrogel pads - Ameda, Lanisoh and Medela all make them; they are reusable over a 72 hour period or so and they feel AMAZING, especially when refrigerated first (I used and liked the Lanisoh; I snagged a bunch when the price dipped to ~$3). Don't wait till it gets bad to use these!
Lanisoh heating/cooling pads - cooling is soothing and especially nice when you're milk comes in; heat is good for encouraging let down and helping with any clogged ducts
Medella SoftShells - The least essential of the bunch, but a nice-to-have if you want to slather on nipple butter but not stain your nursing bras/tanks or just want to allow some more airflow. Worked great for me but possibly not for everyone's anatomy?

As I'm writing this I remembered many of these recommendations came from this excellent (and now recently updated) Lucie's List article on breastfeeding prep.

You can't predict how this stuff will go but for as much as there is to worry about, there's also a lot to look forward to with nursing. Good luck!

I feel like you are me. The past version of me and I am the future version of you. Or maybe we just are each other. Anyway... maybe we are just siblings from another mother. Okay here goes. From your not future self to my not past self.

Dear past self,

Remember when our kid was 4 months old (she's 6mos now) and you were wracking your brain trying to find good toys and "things" she could interact with to help her grow, be curious, imaginative - to be less bored? Well, remember all those things you bought from Amazon?

Most of them had a TON of 5 star reviews and she didn't end up giving a shit about. That AMAZING Rain forest Jumper with all the "things" to interact with, that made noise and had lights!!! Yeah, that didn't really last for more than 5 minutes over 4 days... Turns out, the seat seams cut into her legs and she wasn't a fan of that. This, wasn't the only thing you bought with the best intentions that didn't really work out as planned. That's okay, you live and learn, and donate to someone else because maybe their kid will like it.

What did work? A measuring spoon. Specifically the one cup size measuring spoon. She likes to chew on that. I don't ask...

An empty Pampers box. She sits in there and plays with her toes, touches the sides of the box and just has fun moving around. Even though the box doesn't move, she just doesn't seem to care. She laughs and smiles.

A playmat. It's actually just a set of foam pieces that you put together like a jig saw puzzle on the ground. There are no toy bars or mobiles. Just a mat, on the ground, made of foam. She loves that thing. She rolls around on it, scratches the surface with her fingers (she likes the noise it makes), tries crawling, and often just takes a nap. That thing was one of the best investments we made.

Small plastic strainer. She puts it on her head, wears it like a helmet. Apparently, that's very exciting. Again, I don't ask.

And finally, a basic jumper that you attach above the door frame. It looks like a baby seat on a spring. She will sit and bounce in that thing for 30 minutes. Seems to be comfortable. Was pretty inexpensive, no lights or music. Just jumping. She loves it.

Whatever you decide is best for YOUR son. Experiment and have fun with it. Just consider maybe trying some basic things around the house, first. To see how that goes. A good playmat that is expandable that you can both roll around on. is always a good idea. This is the one we purchased: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01NBXX1DX/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

This is the doorway jumper she loves: https://www.amazon.com/Graco-Doorway-Bumper-Jumper-Little/dp/B000WJLKQM/ref=sr_1_5_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1497459338&sr=8-5&keywords=baby+bouncy+chair

I'd send you links for the pampers box, strainer, and measure spoon but pretty sure you've got the idea. :)

CONGRATS ON THE 4 MONTHS! It only gets more amazing.

Here's some real advice - I hope it helps.

• Talk to your doctor. Our daughter had thrush (white dots on the tongue, which makes it very painful for her to eat) and acid reflux (which was caused by the medication to treat thrush), and she was put on two medications which made a world of difference. Of course, there could be something else going on.
  
  
• Get this crib with the "Cuddle Cove". See that thing on the left side in the pic? It has a vibrate function, and when we put our son in there (who also would not sleep) he passed out in 3 minutes for the first time (practically) since he was born. It was a MIRACLE for us.
  
  
• Try feeding her in a more upright position.
  
  
• Does she burp well? If not, sit her down on your left knee, right hand on her chest, and lean her forward at a 45 degree angle and try to burp her with your left hand. If that does not work, you (not the wife) can try to burp her holding her absolutely upright on your chest (which doesn't work so well for your wife as she has breasts ...) and try to burp her. That worked very well for us.
  
  
• Put her in a dark room, as dark as possible. If you gotta put towels on the windows, do it. No night light, either. Buy a sound machine and play it, but not too loud.
  
  
• Check out the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. Your daughter is a bit too young at this point, but at 3 months you should be able to get her on a sleep schedule where she is asleep for a total of 14-18 hours per day, with 12 hours being overnight. That book was a miracle for us.
  
  
• Ask for help! Get an experienced babysitter, or anyone who you can trust to give you time off.
  
  
• If at all possible, have one of you be "on duty" for 3-5 days, and then switch. The person who is off duty should sleep somewhere that they do not hear the baby, so they can get a good nights sleep. Figure out how to make it work, re-arrange bedrooms as needed.
  
  
• If your wife is breast feeding, have her pump her breast milk, and freeze it. Then on nights where you are on duty you can bottle feed your baby. Your insurance company (in the US) is required by law to provide you with a breast pump for free!
  
  Good luck. We've been there, done that, and it does get better.

• The NICU should provide a pump and bottles if you're not able to breastfeed in the NICU. It depends on your circumstances whether you'll be able to breastfeed immediately. Hopefully someone who's been through a NICU experience can tell you more about that.
  
  
• They sell breastmilk storage bags specifically designed to store milk. I use the Lansinoh ones because I have never had one leak on me. To thaw it, run it under warm water. NEVER MICROWAVE. Some babies are picky about the temperature of the milk, some aren't. You'll have to learn what your baby will drink. Always be sure to test the milk on your inner arm or upper lip to be sure it won't burn baby. There are also bottle warmers out there, but I've never used one.
  
  
• Assuming you're able to stay with baby after the birth, you should be able to start breastfeeding pretty much immediately. In the early months, you'll want to pump every time she takes a bottle to help keep your supply up. Kellymom.com has a good page on how much milk baby will need.
  
  
• The best bottles for breastfeeding varies from baby to baby. If you can, try to avoid bottles until baby has the hang of breastfeeding. If you can't, look for bottles that have nipples with wide bases and slow flow. I ended up using Playtex Drop-Ins because Dad and I both work full time, my daughter hated EVERY kind of bottle anyway, and they were easy to clean. If you can't get baby to take a bottle, consider training him/her to drink from a cup or straw. My daughter started drinking from a straw when she was about 7 months old. As soon as she figured out straws she refused bottles.
  
  Poke around on the site kellymom.com. It's one of the best breastfeeding sites out there, very down to earth, with lots of good advice. Also see if you can watch some videos of how to latch and what a good feeding looks like. I love the videos at this site.
  
  Breastfeeding is hard at first, and it often hurts, but the rewards are wonderful. And always remember that the most important rule of breastfeeding is feed your baby however you need to. If it means formula, so be it.
  
  edit: clarity, also I can't get that one link working.

Oh, where to start.

I guess, first of all, equipment will probably be pretty low on you concerns. Any thing you end up lacking can usually be remedied with a couple quick emergency shopping trips by dad. That said, I can recommend some stuff.

• burp cloths..
  
• a yoga ball for bouncing.
  
• breast pump and bags..
  
• new born pacifiers.
  
  And there are other things you might like such as small blankets, blackout curtains for the windows.
  
  However, what I think is the most important is to setup your support network. A lot of people don't get this established in time, and it can make a lot of difference in your quality of life. You may get a really easy baby, but even in the best of times, you'll benefit from help.
  
  My wife signed up for a new parents meet up this one won't work for you, but if you can find something similar, it can be a huge help to have other moms going through the same thing you are, and she made some really good friends. Also, establish, if you can, some people to help out. Do you live near any of the grandparents? Can they come over once a week to help with laundry and dishes for the first few weeks? Can you make some frozen dinners to ear when you're to exhausted to cook? Is there going to be anyone who might be able to give you a couple hours off to sleep or recharge if you're running on empty? These sorts of things are hugely helpful.
  
  I'm sure you'll get lots of help finding out what products you'll want in you life, but my 2c is to spend some time arranging the people you'll want in your life as well.

:( That does sound hectic. My registry is kinda all over the place because I've already bought a ton of stuff, but just some suggestions of some things (FTM so no idea really if these are good or not, some were recommendations from friends, some were recommendations from various online resources).

• car seat, extra base if you have more than one car, and stroller
  
• baby carrier - I got the ergobaby 360 with infant insert but the Lillebaby 360 is also super popular.
  
• swaddles - aden & anais seem to be hugely popular.
  
• bathing supplies - washcloths, bathtub
  
• first aid kit supplies - NoseFrida, nail clipper, thermometer
  
• feeding - bottles, sterilizer (some people told me I had to have it, some said it was totally unnecessary), bottle cleaner brush, drying rack (seems like everyone else loves the Boon grass, but I don't have the counter space!) You can get a pump through your insurance if you plan to breastfeed, I ordered mine through Aeroflow. I ultimately chose the Spectra S2 over the Medela PISA because it's a closed system, which apparently means less chances of bacteria getting into the system and thus easier cleaning.
  
• burp clothes - I was told to just get a ton of cloth diapers to use as burp clothes, and to have them everywhere.
  
• diaper pail - I have two friends who say this is good enough, so I went with it. They also said to use doggie poop bags to contain the smelly diapers.
  
• humidifier
  
• Boppy for nursing
  
• Backpack style diaper bag
  
• baby may need a more convenient place to be set down other than the crib, something you can have near you in the kitchen, shower, whatever. Popular options are the rock n play, Boppy lounger, or a pack 'n play. I plan on getting the Chicco FastAsleep pack 'n play because the crib/dresser/changing station is on our 2nd floor, so I figured this could double as a changing station/napper on the first floor.
  
  Lucie's List is probably the best resource I found online.

We have this one and we love it. It's cute but also manly ish so my husband has no problem wearing it. Plus I love that it's a backpack so it's hands free. And I get compliments on it ALL the time. Including many people who don't even realize it's a diaper bag and are surprised when they find out!

It's spacious, stands upright by itself, and stays open by itself as there's a frame in the opening.

Edit- also, it's made by a Japanese company (I believe?) and the box it comes in says "MAKE BEST BAG ENJOY HAPPY TIME" which is great for a chuckle.

Wow. Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate your input. Thanks for sharing the pics too :)

I'm planning on taking the first two weeks off to help my wife. My wife is taking a full 12 weeks, and I've made it clear to my retired mother-in-law that she's welcome to move in for that first month. She's wonderful and should be a great help.

We're getting there. Picked up a Sony Nex-5N over Christmas to capture all the memories. Also definitely planning to get this Medela and the Miracle blankets.

As for my original question, we did find a recliner we like. It's the Havana recliner from Macy's. It's a bit pricey but we called and it's supposed to go on a one-day sale tomorrow, so we'll see. We're planning to pull the trigger tomorrow. I must say, it's not easy finding a modern recliner with nice, clean lines. They all look like teddy bears.

In our search, we did come across this awesome glider recliner loveseat (8908 style). Both sides independently recline and glide. Amazing if you're prepared to drop $1300.

Congrats! If you haven't already got one, get a nose frida. Yes it looks gross, but this thing (and some saline if needed) is magic. My other tips are:

Try this thing out, quick & easy with a bonus to diaper changing as you don't have to worry about baby hands being where they ought not be.

Use this or a running faucet to calm her and mask any would be startling noises (like gun fire sounds from the TV).

This here is pretty handy to have around, especially if you're taking road trips to see family. Being able to rock it with a tap of the foot is also great to free up your hands for some controller time.

Good luck and enjoy this time as much as possible, before you know it you'll be playing coop with her!

I have a few kids and they only need a few things. See links for examples not recommendations:


First a place to sleep.

I would not recommend a crib. Most kids hate them as they get stuck in bars and cribs make reflux worse. Yes most babies have some level of re-flux for the first 3-9 months. My favorite is a quality pack & play. It is just as safe as a crib, can have an inclined bassinet for colic and has a changing table. They also take up a smaller footprint and are easier to get baby in and out of all while being portable. It is awesome to take baby's bed with you on a trip. Other options include a portable bassinet up to 9 months and a Montessori mattress on the floor. I know some moms who even kept baby in a dresser drawer.


Second something to eat

Boobs or bottles your choice. If you go the bottle route get the anti colic bottles and just avoid any problems from the start. I like the playtex ones with drop in liners because you only have to wash the nipples but liners are bad for the environment. Look into baby lead weaning it makes feeding easier and with less stuff. The Ikea $15 highchair is the easiest one to clean and the cheapest I have found.


Third something to wear

Second hand is the best here. It is cheaper and baby doesn't care if they are in the latest fashions. Things that don't last don't make it into the shops either. Babies grow in starts and stops. Wait till they need something before you buy it. Go for 3m clothes and not newborn unless you expect a preemie. Dress them in the same layers you wear. If you have on a blanket at night add a warmer or extra layer. You don't need shoes until they are walking.


Fourth a way to be moved

If you have a car you need a car seat. You can either get an infant seat and then buy another when they out grow it or buy a convertible one and keep it up to 7 years. The downside to the convertible one is that you can't carry it around with you. I also recommend a stroller (full size and umbrella are great second hand items) and/or a baby carrier. There are lots of baby wearing groups where you can try before you buy. Check facebook for them.


Fifth Diapers and wipes

Disposable and cloth both with so many options! My pro tip wait till you have baby before buying more than enough for the first month or so. Different babies fit them differently and a stash of ill fitting diapers is awful. Then there is also the baby that is allergic to some brands.... Yeah that's not fun...


And Lastly Toys!

Don't buy them!! Let your kid choose them. One of mine liked kitchen utensils and hated toys and I let the other have ones that held their interest at the local thrift shop. Donate when done.


You will likely find that more things may be nice but you will feel the need for them as you raise your kids. Some kids need burp clothes some don't. Same with bibs swings etc.


And of course Congratulations!

I bought this. It's 70 bucks off list price and is quite fantastic. The changer comes off easily and there is tons of storage. Plus the bassinet area is pretty nice albeit a bit flimsy if you take it out of the playard. Same with the changer area... I'm probably not going to use either like the picture because of how 'flimsy' they are out of the playard. Another grip I have with it is you can't use the whole bassinet area because of the storage under the changer.

If baby is going to be sleeping in it full time, I'd personally go for something a bit different. Like this or this.

That'll work okay, but the only problem is if you want to change baby and use the changing table you'll have to flip the newborn napper over to access the changing table.

I love the one we got because of the price, but honestly I would've sprung for this instead because it's awesomeee... You can strap baby in, use it as a rocker elsewhere. And the changing table folds in half to help with 'space' as the baby gets older and uses the bassinet or the bottom piece. If I didn't register for a rock 'n play I'd probably return my pack 'n play for one with a cuddle cove.

Edit: grammar and clarity.

Double Edit: You can also go for a rock 'n play. I have tons of friends that swear by them and had their baby sleeping in them for a while until they started getting stronger (about 4-5 months old). I also registered for this. It has an auto-rock feature now. It'll make up for the lack of a newborn napper/cuddle cove and also serve double purpose because it moves around so easily.

Sure, I'd be happy to give some recommendations.

Now the first thing is, babies don't really care that much about stuff. They don't really do much or play with much for a long time. They'll get more joy out of you just playing peekaboo than any actual toy

That said, it's the thought that counts, so you can pick up a rattle or something. If they don't have one already, you can get a tummy time playmat like this or something similar, that comes with a bunch of toys with it. Alternately, honestly you can just walk down to the dollar store and see whatever cheap stuff they have, it doesn't really matter

On the other hand, you can do something more practical. Baby wipes are a sure thing, they will 100% absolutely be used. You could get similar stuff, like burp cloths or baby soap or whatever. But that stuff isn't really fun, though it's usually appreciated.

Then there's the last category, the one I'd personally go with: Stuff for the parents that makes parenting easier. This is actually a little for your cousin too, because it tends to be stuff that makes the baby more comfortable, which makes the parent more comfortable.

For instance, do they have a baby carrier? You could look into getting them one, or getting them another one (it doesn't hurt to have two), or-- a lot of people don't think about this-- one specially sized for your uncle, because I can practically guarantee unless someone specifically thought about it, any baby carrier they have is going to be sized for mom, not dad.

If you want to go a little more expensive, you can do things like a jumper which the little gal will probably be a little young for, but not by much

or a swing both of those were honestly absolute godsends for keeping my sanity, because i got to put my little guy down and they'd keep him actually quiet, and sometimes even put him to sleep! And for some reason no one ever thought to get us one as a gift.

So anyway, those are some ideas.

But like I said, clothes aren't the wrong choice, just keep in mind that really, any clothes you get the baby now are for you, because you think it'll be cute to dress them up. The baby doesn't care, and I'm sure the baby doesn't really need clothes right now (in a year or so? More likely)

Also, I work at a university and we have a great childcare program for kids as young as 6 weeks old. There is a LONG waiting list. I suggest googling or asking your student support coordinator if your school has this and if so, how you go about applying. It's only mildly more expensive than a at-home daycare and I love it because it's mostly nursing students and students going to school for early childhood development. They actually want to be taking care of babies. I went to a university daycare program as a little kid and it was amazing, they taught me Spanish and good eating habits and I just have really fond memories of it.

Also, start telling friends and family and don't turn your nose up at hand-me-downs and buying used clothing/furniture etc... Personally, we are going to use this as a crib and changing station, because cribs are expensive and this way we can take his crib with us if we want to. Keep your mind open and stay on this forum, you'll learn a lot!

Most importantly, congratulations!!!

I'm only 21 and not breastfeeding or even pregnant, and I was going to suggest a daily dose or two of straight vitamin E oil massage for your breasts, because this is what I do and my boobs are very soft. However, something made me double check before I blurted my uneducated answer onto the internet, and I found out that while pure vitamin E oil is good for nipples, it's not good for baby consumption! So load up on the vitamin E oil titty massages before the baby comes!

That being said, I was curious and did some more research and I found a bunch of natural alternatives to lanolin creams, but most contain beeswax. I found one brand, Earth Mama Angel Baby Natural Nipple Butter which has some great reviews on Amazon! The main ingredients are mango butter and avocado oil, which are both incredibly nourishing to the skin.

I hope this helps and congratulations on brining a beautiful baby into this world!

If you want a car seat, go for this one - the Safety 1st 65. It's the one we travel with because it's very light weight and easy to carry around when on the go. I find it strange you say it's heavy, because it is about 10 pounds lighter than our regular everyday car seat and is one of the few that I found are narrow enough to fit in plane seats. So, I'd recommend sticking with the Safety 1st. And I never used a pool noodle... and honestly don't understand what you'd use it for. Anyway, we used it with great success, and no, she won't be sitting on the buckle because the belt path will be closer to under her thighs than under her butt. (Edit - if you want to be able to carry the car seat easier, get something like this.)

However, ever since my daughter hit 25 pounds (at about 18 months) we use the CARES harness instead of a car seat on the plane. It's the only FAA approved harness that isn't a car seat and it's wonderful. You can get it on Amazon.

Believe me, you're in for a bit of a challenge in the playing regard. It's pretty important to not let them play at all initially.

/u/AnalgesicSex explained it very well above, but basically they are taking the knee apart, grinding/cutting away in there, and trying to put it back together better than before. It's pretty fragile until the muscle grows back, so if you're not able to keep them calm, our vet(s) recommended crate rest only for a few weeks. In our case, we bought this (extra tall, he's a lab) baby gate and put it on the door to our office. I basically kept him in here with me every possible waking hour, and put him in the crate when I couldn't directly supervise. It wasn't much fun for him, but the dogs all got used to it very quickly.

Surprisingly enough, neither! We got a dog with a totally shaved leg (it looks hilarious) and some gruesome nasty crusty staples covering the raw incision. I was pretty surprised myself, but they said it was better to let it air out. They did provide us with a cone of shame (Elizabethan collar), but we didn't need it after the first day. We were also on an antibiotic for 10 days. As always, YMMV with that stuff, and I'm sure the vet will do whatever is best for your pup. Our main concern was to go above and beyond all the instructions to ensure the recovery went well.

I use the spectra s2 and like it so far. Granted, I am also a new first time mom and my baby is only 9.5 weeks old and I haven't gone back to work yet, so I am by no means an expert. What I have been doing so far is working for me at home though so I'll tell you my routine. I pump into the spectra bottles that came with the pump and then immediately transfer that milk into either bottles that go in the refrigerator for my husband or mom or feed her, or into freezer bags for my freezer stash. I have been pumping about once a day since my baby was 2 weeks old. At first I would only get an ounce or two at a time so that was only enough for one bottle or just a supplemental bottle or I could combine the milk from 2 pumping sessions into one bottle. (My baby now typically eats 3-4 ounces at a time from a bottle). Eventually (and pretty quickly) I was able to pump more volume. I typically pump in the morning after her first feed because my supply is highest then. I now get anywhere from 4-8 ounces at this pump session. I typically put 3-4 ounces into a bottle in the fridge and the freeze the rest. I think it's good to have someone give your baby a bottle of expressed milk one every day or two so that they won't have a problem refusing a bottle when you go beck to work. To answer your specific questions above:

1. I don't pump directly into the bottles I feed her with so I can't answer about adaptors. I think either way is fine, but I find it just as easy to pump into the spectra bottles then transfer the milk because you may not pump the exact quantities you would want in the bottles for feeding anyway.
   
   
2. I use the Lansinoh freezer bags. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B006XISCNA/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1501005092&sr=8-1&keywords=pump+freezer+bags. They come in boxes of 100 and are pretty cheap. I haven't thawed any yet, but so far they are working well and many people recommended that brand to me. I never pumped directly into the bag, just poured in what I wanted to freeze from the spectra bottle.
   
   
3. I use Tomme Tippee bottles and nipples and they seem to work well. They are simple and don't have many parts to wash. I think the most important thing for breastfed babies is that you get the slowest flow nipple size possible to avoid babies developing a preference for a fast flow bottle over the breast. I know Dr. Browns is a popular bottle, but it has a million pieces to wash and put together, so I'd recommend trying something more simple first to see if you baby likes it before going to something complicated with too many pieces. Apparently all those pieces in the Dr. Brown bottles prevent air from getting in and cause less gas, but Ifindnif we burp her well after a bottle she's fine.

I've tried a lot of different things and what has worked has changed consistently so my suggestion is take what I tell you and just try it all and try other things too that I might not even say because you just don't know what will work for your baby! I try not to nurse to sleep for naps because I don't want him having that association.

In the beginning naps were easy because he would just fall asleep in a swing or in the rock n play. Then he would only fall asleep while I was wearing him. So I would strap him in my Tula carrier and go on a long walk in my neighborhood until he was asleep and then come home and do chores while he napped in the carrier on me. Other times I have put him in the rock n play and done this - started with a swaddle (we have loved the Love to Dream swaddle and the Halo fleece swaddle sleepsacks...each of these has worked at different times) and then sat on the yoga ball and bounced with him and shushed him (with white noise playing in the background with this white noise machine AND on the rock n play) and patted his back (I hold him in my left arm with his stomach facing me and his head resting on my arm and pat his back with my other arm) until he fell asleep. Sometimes I would have to use a paci and other times he would be indifferent to it. Once he's asleep I carefully place him in the rock n play. Heating up a blanket in the dryer beforehand and putting it under him while warm helps him a lot. Then putting a warm blanket over him (around his waist) and putting the rock function on the rock n play. We also have the Solly baby wrap that he falls asleep in pretty easily. Now he is 16 weeks and in daycare so he naps in his crib at home and I rock him in a rocking chair instead of on the ball for his naps. Patience is key. And trying different things and realizing that what works today may not work tomorrow and what didn't work yesterday may be the thing that does the trick today!!

He will also fall asleep in the car if he's tired or in his stroller on a walk whereas just a few weeks ago he wasn't doing either of those things. Good luck mama!

The spectra is awesome for travel, however that is the one that needs adapter pieces to use the Medela parts. The bottle the spectra is set to pump into is a wide mouth. The Avent, and Dr Browns bottles will fit straight onto the Medela as it uses standard mouth sizes.

The pumping cones for the medela are the ones that fit most handsfree bra's, and quite frankly most common items will fit the medela. However you can order adapter kits off Amazon for the Spectra to use the Medela phlanges easily.

Flanges should be the size of your areola, and this is something they can help go over with you in the hospital.

I am using The Frremie collection cups with the Spectra. I love them as they go under my clothes, and really easy to clean.

If you want I can take photos of the different set ups that I use if you think that would help.

I like the Spectra S2. It's gentle but efficient. I've also tried a Madela PISA, and it definitely has stronger suction, but it hurt like hell and didn't seem to get as much milk as my spectra did. I feel like the Spectra better imitates the suckling motion of a mouth. Bonus, it's also pretty quiet, it's easy to control suction strength and speed, and it has a night light (for those 2am sessions). I bought mine used, but it's also one of the cheaper options if you buy new.

It is hard to know what each individual baby will like at different phases, but having a variety at your disposal is very helpful.

This is one of the first things my daughter liked

https://www.target.com/p/skip-hop-silver-lining-cloud-teether/-/A-75556852

She also liked this one early on https://www.amazon.com/HEVEA-643162-Panda-Teether/dp/B00EORBYO6

As time went by, she wound up liking munchkin frozen gel ones (used with a pacifier leash) https://www.amazon.com/Munchkin-Teether-Toy-Ring-Pack/dp/B016D833EM

And the comotomo one with the “fingers” https://www.amazon.com/Comotomo-Silicone-Baby-Teether-Orange/dp/B00913DY3W

We had baby banana for a first toothbrush and it doubled as a well loved teether https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Banana-Training-Toothbrush-Teether/dp/B002QYW8LW

Eta - also soft books, especially the ones with dangly silicone shapes for teething were huge in those early months. Have plenty!

Even if your wife is planning to breastfeed, have formula on hand just in case. I'd recommend the ready-to-feed (RTF) stuff that comes in the little bottles (like this). That way you don't have to worry about your water source, or washing/sterilizing bottles. You can get individually wrapped nipples for them, too (Amazon link). One of the other commenters said you have to refrigerate the RTF formula, but that's only true once it's been opened.

If your wife *is* planning to breastfeed, i'd recommend a manual breast pump and/or a haaka in case baby has trouble latching and she wants to express milk. They have electric pumps with battery powered options, too, if you want to look into that. (in this case you'd obviously also need bottles and a way to wash/sterilize them).

Obviously diapers and wipes too. Another thing is we do so much freakin laundry, which, in the event of an extended outage, wouldn't really be possible. So more onesies and swaddles than you think you need and burp cloths/rags in case you have a spitty baby.

Some items we Amazon Primed in the first week or two that we didn't know we needed: simethicone gas drops, probiotics, vitamin d drops, velcro swaddle, different size pump flanges, slow flow nipples, saline spray/drops, miracle blanket swaddle, and a partridge in a pear tree.

Newborn babies are hard, and I hope you don't have to deal with a hurricane at the same time! Praying for calm weather in your area!

My first child was extremely active and really enjoyed her swing when real little, then her bouncer kept her entertained for hours and finally this jumper when she was old enough.

I really enjoyed my Moby wrap and Boba carriers when we went out.

A lot of people also enjoy the Sleep Sheep for white noise (mine didn't seem to care either way).

Oh and my girl LOVED her Sophie the Giraffe teether when she started teething at 3 months.

The Mustela baby care line is great as well (kind of pricey). Worth it if you have issues with cradle cap or diaper rash.

Not a registry item but, if you are going to do disposable diapers, sign up for Amazon Mom and you'll get a 20% discount (not just diapers) and free two day shipping (for a 3m trial).

Car-seat.org has good advice on car seats (e.g. if they fit in your car type, reviews, etc...).

Oh man, this post is like my jam. I'm currently tandem feeding twins and supplemented at the start. I did not have PCOS, so I did not have that barrier to overcome. Here's what I did:

Bring to hospital: hands free pumping bra, angled flanges, hot packs, lanolin(at first, I liked the medela lanolin better since it spread a lot easier, but now I like the lasinoh lanolin ointment more. I'd buy both, and apply after every feed/pump)

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004S8MGGQ/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0085CBA90/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o08_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Day 1 - breastfeed baby as often as they want, but at least every 3 hours. This is your time to be working on latching and such. After each feed, you need to hook yourself up to the pump using your fancy new angled flanges(more comfortable, and allow you to recline while pumping - your back will KILL if you are trying to slightly lean forward all the time while pumping) and pumping bra(you do not want to sit int he hospital and be pumping for 10-15 minutes and have to hold the stupid flanges up yourself). As someone who worked NICU, has used both the spectra and the medela symphony, you'll want to go for the symphony at this point. Colostrum is thicker than normal milk - the spectra I don't think would draw the colostrum down as well as it does regular milk, so that is why I'd use the medela until your milk has come in, and for about a week or two after. When you are pumping, you should throw the hot packs towards your boobs and be massaging down towards the nipple.

The reason you are pumping at least every 3 is chances are your kid either has a crappy latch or not a strong suck, and both of those things are not going to stimulate your supply to come in the way you want it to. Not a lot of kids come out into the world and both latch strongly and suck and swallow to adequately and easily drain the boob, and that needs to happen.

For bottle feeding - the hospital we were at gave Similac Supplementation, and we used that until we were off formula. We used it with the hospital Similac slow flow nipple that screwed onto the ready feed bottle, and then used Dr Brown premie nipples at home. So, the shape of the nipple you use for bottle feeding isn't actually that important in my opinion. I'd say the bigger thing would be flow - definitely want slow flow/premie nipple in whatever brand you pick, and then technique. For technique, do not put the baby in your arms cradling them and then point the nipple at the back of their mouth like you are the virgin mary feeding the baby jesus. Instead, put them in an elevated sidelying position, and then angle the nipple sort of towards the top of their head. Basically, you're trying to mimic the boob nipple position with the bottle nipple position, and by having them sidelying you're also mimicking how they breastfeed.

We did 15 mls of formula starting around 24 hours of life after each breastfeeding attempt. This gradually did increase to an ounce. I had enough supply in by day 6 or 7 to stop supplementing with formula after each feed(I still pumped after each feed for breastmilk). I stopped supplementing altogether around a week and a half, but continued pumping so my husband could give a bottle a night while I slept for a couple hours.

Which actually, that's another part of this everyone overlooks. There is this oh poo poo new mothers shouldn't be sleeping and need to be awake every hour to feed/pump/whatever. You should do this for the first couple of days, but honestly, for your sanity, you need to pick a 3-4 hour block of your life to be uninterrupted and unconscious and have someone else feed and care for the baby. If you are in the throws of breastfeed/supplement/pump, you're not getting a lot of sleep, and are going to need a window somewhere to actually sleep. 3-4 hours sounds like nothing now, but when you are consistently getting 20-30 minutes, it's life changing.

On a random note, I saw from comments you want to use the Spectra S2 - I strongly believe in angled flanges, so here's the adapter to go from medela to Spectra so you can continue to use angled flanges.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01DGEDVUM/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

When it comes to formula, I'd keep a couple things in mind. Your baby literally has NO taste experiences in their life(other than amniotic fluid). Therefore, breastmilk and formula will be all they know. Think of it like the kid with food allergies - you taste their allergen free brownie and think it's disgusting but they love it because they don't know any better. We switched formula on kids fairly often in the NICU for various reasons, and typically we had babies be fussy for a feed or two and then settle into the new stuff if they were going to fuss at all over the change. Therefore, I'd use whatever they give you, but have a box of formula at home that is unopened and returnable.

My almost 2 yr old and I just went to Hawaii from KC and back. She did really well and I was very surprised. I did a lot of research beforehand on basic boarding ettiquite and such for the airline, as well as the various airports we were flying into. Our total one-way flight time with layovers was 18 hrs (ack). The best thing was making it fun and interactive. We constantly looked out the windows, and when the seatbelt sign was off, she was allowed to be unbuckled. She was amazed by the tray table and I brought stuff for her to color with (although she likes drawing on my phone better), snacks, drinks, baby dolls, books, etc. I also bought one of these so we didn't have to use the carseat. It's FAA approved and she actually liked it!

Can definitely recommend this one:

https://www.amazon.com/Graco-Playard-Bassinet-Changer-Rocking/dp/B005UV0USQ/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1484625131&sr=8-1&keywords=pack+n+play+cuddle+cove

This was my older daughter's main crib until she turned 2. As a newborn in a small apartment, we loved having the little "cuddle cove," which served as her bouncy seat/rock n' play and the changing table was nice for the first few weeks to have right next to my bed. It comes with a little diaper organizer that attaches, plus an attachable nightlight which was awesome for checking if she was breathing without waking her up, plus changing those midnight diapers without turning all the lights on. Plus it's cute and matches my bedroom decor :) Can't wait to get it out again for #2.

There is no rush to buy toys as others have said. Tummy time should begin at birth and you could try to get toys that will hold LO’s attention in that position before they learn to reach for things:

• B&W books like this one
  
• A mirror that can be propped vertically at infant eye level
  
• A tummytime pillow in the same shape as Boppy but smaller, goes under newborn armpits
  
  Next up would be a playard (the Kick n Play Piano one was super popular in our Bumper group) to hang things overhead that they’ll eventually bat at or kick. The Manhattan Toys with lots of strings or loops are great first toys to grasp. You might also like some plastic chain links, which can be toys/teethers on their own at first and graduate to tools for tethering toys in the stroller/car seat.

My Lansinoh pump has the option to use batteries but I never have. And honestly, I like using a hand pump way more. A friend gave me this one because I was getting engorged a lot and it felt way more efficient and handy to me. I can get 4oz in like 5 minutes when an electric pump would take like 20 minutes.

I was just researching this last night on Reddit (here and SCA) to see if I could find other options before buying the Laneige Lip Sleeping Mask that I'd been eyeing a while. The thing is, my lips aren't really chapped or super dry, but I find that they tighten up pretty quickly and I needed something that wasn't just an occlusive moisturizer (which is what my Aquaphor basically amounts to, with SPF 30).

One thing I realized is I've been exfoliating the lips too much. I tend to scrape off the top layer (it comes off easily, it's not dry either but moist) every morning and I think that's caused a vicious cycle of it peeling easily. So this morning I used my thumb to go over my lips and remove leftover balm without scraping the lip itself. This may not be helpful to you in particular but I figured I'd mention it in case anyone with an issue similar to mine checks out this thread too.

More to the point: I decided on trying Lansinoh, which is lanolin (it's actually marketed to breastfeeding mothers for their chapped nipples, but who cares). I got it this morning and it's definitely unlike anything else I've put on my lips and they haven't felt dried out all day. I went for this option because people said lanolin can penetrate deeper for more lasting moisture, rather than just sitting on top like petroleum jelly. It's $7 on Amazon for 3 little tubes (https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Lanolin-Minis-Breastfeeding-Mothers/dp/B00FNZQHJA/) so I think that's worth a shot for anyone who'd want to avoid spending more right away. The Laneige pack is so much more pretty-looking though that I might want to try it anyway…

Kellymom.com is my go-to resource for everything breastfeeding and pumping related. You could try pumping after your baby feeds. My daughter used to eat on one side only and I would pump the other side when she was done. You might not get much, but it would encourage your supply. I also have a Spectra pump and use Medela parts. Just get these adapters from Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DGEDVUM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_vBt.zb62EH61A
Just Google search how to determine best flange size. The standard 24mm works for most women I'm pretty sure.

I have a five day old and we’ve been really loving the Swaddle Me brand for her. She’s very strong and can Houdini her way out of a muslin swaddle, but these chill her right out, they’re like baby Valium most of the time. These have less Velcro than the Halo brand, so they aren’t as loud when you take them off.

Also, to echo what others have said about safety, I’m
a nurse and we swaddle babies all the time, the hospital where I used to work actually provided parents with a sleep sack for infants to take home. The nice thing about the sacks is they can’t kick them loose and potentially get the fabric up by their face, but many people use muslin/ flannel swaddles or blankets and have no problems. You can always check with your pediatrician to see what they recommend, I know the two times I’ve been to ours I asked 8 million questions and I’m a pediatric nurse! Our doctors have been very patient and reassuring :)

SwaddleMe Original Swaddle 3-PK, Busy Bees (SM) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B013GYQVCW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_JDnbBbHW9KCJV

Congrats and good luck! I trained for a half while breastfeeding so AMA. I have three kids who each nursed for 2+ years.

The good news is that neither exercise nor nutrition are likely to affect your supply. (Here's the science behind that.)

Finding time to nurse or pump is more likely to be an issue, if your long runs conflict with feeding times. My kids were always fine for about 3 hours between feedings, once they were a few months old, so timing wasn't an issue even for long-ish runs. When your runs get really long or if there's a lot of travel time before/after your races or long runs, consider bringing a hand pump. I have this $30 one and it was SO nice to know I'd always have a quick and easy way to relieve pressure if I was away from my baby too long.

Sports bras become extra annoying to fit while you're lactating, just because your boobs can be so big and/or change sizes. Get a good sports bra! I normally go with whatever bra is on sale, but in those early post-baby days I spent $50 on a Moving Comfort and it was SO worth it.

SPECTRA SPECTRA SPECTRA! :)

I had the Medela PISA and while it was okay, I bought the Spectra because it comes so highly recommended. I could NOT be happier with my choice. I have better output, it's quieter and I think it hurts less as the Medela sort of has a "tugging" sensation, the Spectra feels more like vibrating. It also has a timer and a nightlight on it. I've been telling anyone who will listen because I love it so much!

Also, if you have a Medela and the accessories already, you can easily use all the Medela parts with the Spectra. Here's the link (http://www.amazon.com/Maymom-Breastshield-Connects-Backflow-Protector/dp/B01DGEDVUM/ref=sr_tnr_p_1_2492161011_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1465222552&sr=8-1&keywords=maymom+spectra+medela+adapter)

The Spectra is also a closed system like the Ameda, so you don't have to worry about any backflow problems! I purchased the Spectra with my own money and it only runs about $130 on amazon. Totally worth the money, in my opinion!! :)

Edit: I should also mention that I tried the Ameda, it's the one I chose from my insurance and I was not a big fan. the suction was too low and I thought the speed was slow as well.

You don't need a wipe warmer.

You don't need pee-pee-tee-pees.

You don't need baby shoes. Shoes are for people who walk.

You don't need 12 bottles. I recommend between 2 and 4 bottles. If you have more bottles you'll just end up having to wash more bottles. We do very little formula though so if you're going right for formula then I don't know.

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PJs with zippers. Snaps are fine but take forever when he's crying.

Diaper Cream paddle. It seems silly and people who don't have them give us shit for using one of these but seriously. The cream goes on fast and even and you don't have goop on your finger that you have to wipe off before doing up the onesie. We're near the end of a tub of cream and I can barley get my finger down there but the paddle reaches easily.

A bath with a hammock. This one has been great. We used it next to the sink when he was a newborn. He laid in the water supported by the sling. Once he was a little bigger but not quite sitting up it adjusts to give a more upright position. Then you just get rid of the sling when he can sit up.

Nose Frida. Bulb aspirators don't work very well and are hard to clean and you're supposed to replace them incredibly frequently. The Nose Frida works better and is less disposable. He'll still hate it though.

Nail Grinder. You'll need clippers too but this nail grinder is great. If you use it regularly you can skip the clippers almost entirely. That's nice because clipping baby nails is terrifying. This has the added benefit of rounding the edges which makes those razors attached to the end of your baby's fingers a little less sharp.

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I'm sure there's more for both lists. I'll edit if I think of them. You could also share your current registry and get comments based on that. I don't think that violates forum rules, but I haven't checked.

The other comments of consumable things like wipes, rags, etc are great ideas. Gift cards to places like Target are great too, you always need more something with a newborn. A couple other little things I found really helpful when my son was young:

Baby timer to remind you for the next feeding, nap, diaper, whatever: http://www.amazon.com/Pocket-Nanny-Itzbeen-Personal-Timer/dp/B0012BS2O2/

Nose Frida (yes gross, yes very useful): http://www.amazon.com/FridaBaby-Aspirator-Additional-Hygiene-Filters/dp/B00RP0GHBO

We put together the Pack N Play and the crib over the weekend. Every day since the nursery-in-progress has been my happy place. I was planning to wait until after the anatomy scan (coming Monday) for the big purchases, just in case, but they went on sale and I can't pass a good bargain. I've been finally feeling confident that I have a healthy baby in there so hopefully I'll be proven right at the appointment.

Word to the wise: We put together the Pack N Play first because we thought it would be easier. We were so, so very wrong. This was the most frustrated we have both been in a hot minute. Those instructions are not super clear and there were a ton of little parts. Prepare yourselves!

One last tip for those who are yet to put theirs together. On the one we got, it told us to put the mattress in the bottom after expanding the main part out and clicking the rods into place. There were a slew of hard to reach snaps and velcro to secure it into place. Then we added the mesh basket-type thing above it. After, it said to remove the mattress from the bottom and place it into the mesh basket. I wanted to rip my hair out, so hopefully you won't waste any time with that non-sense after seeing this.

Lanolish. It's actually marketed as a nipple cream for breastfeeding moms, but it makes a fabulous lip balm. Head over to /r/skincareaddiction to see many raves about it. It's the only thing that can help my lips in dry winter months. They'd be cracking and damn near bleeding before I found this stuff. After a day or so, they were back to soft and feeling great. Make sure you aren't allergic to wool/sheep products, but otherwise try it out.

I'm registering for a monitor, and for now put down the Hello Baby. I didn't do any research...I just know that my friend used it with her baby, and I liked it! Haha. I do like that it is wireless.

We live in a small-ish place (1200 sq ft in the shape of a square, so not spread out), but I like that I can look in on the baby when she makes sounds and see if she's actually awake, or is just being a noisy sleeper. I think it'll help us not jump up to see her every time she makes a sound.

Plus, it'll be nice when we go swimming/hanging at family's/friend's homes and she's napping. We can hang outside without worrying about her being inside!

Hi! We ran off of advice given to us and some lists online. (Lucie's list is really good.) What is unique to where you live? When are you due?

For example, I'm due Nov 7 and in Colorado. So we registered for warmer baby beanies as well as cold weather clothes like long sleeve footies and such. I also made sure to register for car window shades because the sun in Colorado is no joke. I added in a set of wetbags because I've heard they're insanely useful. There's also a rocking chair because my mom had one with me and my sister and swears by it.

We didn't register for any of the health kit things because they have a lot of stuff we've been told not to use (nail clippers) and other stuff we know we won't use (the bulb nose clearers are great I'm sure but the nurse at the infant class told us to just get the Nose Frida. We just put in a baby thermometer you can use under the baby's arm, nail files, comb and brush kit, and Boudreaux's Butt Paste because my mom was adamant we don't need to bother with anything else. I know we'll need to get baby Tylenol but I didn't bother to register for it. (Maybe I'll go ahead and add that now...) OH! Also teething stuff but you already got that. If I mentioned something you already have sorry, I got a bit carried away.

Anyway. It might help to go to Buy Buy Baby or Target or some place to register in person, just put everything cute on the list. You can shorten the list later but this will give you a broad scope if you're worried you're forgetting something.

I have a 50lb <1y/o mutt, a rather pissy big old cat, and a tiny grumpy old man bunny. The dog chases both of them, but he chases everything (leaves, bugs, birds, anything that moves). Cat holds her own, so pup will chase her if she runs down the hall, but backs away as soon as she stops. And when he "gets" the bunny, he just stands over him. I'm still cautious (bunny basically lives under the bed & has escape routes) and I keep the dog separated from the rabbit when we're not home, but I've been happy to see that they get along well.

But I do want to caution you on what type of gates to get if you go this route for extra security: my mutt was like a rock climber, he scaled or pushed his way under the baby gate. We finally got rid of the old one & picked up one of the ones that's primarily vertical bars so he couldn't climb it. It's been amazing.
https://smile.amazon.com/Regalo-Easy-Step-Extra-White/dp/B001OC5UNA/ref=sr_1_9_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1500641106&sr=1-9&keywords=baby+gate

I hope they end up getting along beautifully, but if he's a chaser like mine, always keep escape routes/areas and separate areas of the house for them. If he ever seems like he's making an effort to actually get the cats & hurt them, seriously consider rehoming them. It sucks, but as said before, having a dog that's killed another pet is just awful.

Our daughter would wake herself up trying to get her hands out of the swaddle and up to her face so we tried the Swaddle Up. It's tight around her torso and her hands are up by her face but her startle reflex is subdued and her legs are loose like a halo sleep sack. First night she wore it ~6 weeks old she slept for 5 hours straight! We have since bought 2 more, a backup and a backup for our backup lol.

Love to Dream Swaddle UP Original, Gray, Medium, 13-18.5 lbs https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005ULUZIQ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_KaEYVo2vjDUF4

I assembled this cart for our living room, and I thought y'all would appreciate it. We also considered naming it the T&A cart, but "boob & butt" won out.

• Cart: 3-tier rolling cart from Target. I went with this instead of the ever-popular Raskog from IKEA because our local IKEA didn't have the colors we wanted in stock.
  
• Butt: diapers, wipes, IKEA hedgehog toy for diaper time entertainment, Pueen pump dispenser (yasss, Pueen) and CVS premium cotton squares for water-only cleanups, dog poop bags and dispenser for poopy diapers, tube of Vaseline as meconium shield and Boudreaux's butt paste
  
• Boobs: rolled receiving blankets to use as burp cloths, Bebe Au Lait nursing cover for when we got company, Lanisoh lanolin for da nips, Lanisoh disposable nursing pads, Bamboobies washable nursing pads, Lanisoh soothies gel pads, Avent comfort breast shells, bottled water, and Graze snacks in the back. When baby arrives I'll store my Kindle here, too.
  
  The bottom shelf just has extra diapers, wipes, and nursing pads.

I have quite a few items on my wishlist that are green or have green. This Nail dotting kit comes with a green dotter,This baby bouncer/swing is green my four month old son would LOVE this [Its over a bit but a gc would be loved if possible], Mike from TMNT is green,Thanks for hosting a fun contest!

She must pump, its' no more complex than that. It's a must.

So my wife had one of these. http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Pump-Style-Advanced-Breast/dp/B004HWXCJS/?tag=15615-20 Yes . . . it's expensive, but truly worth it. With a cigarette lighter attachment, it's a beautiful thing.

Along with it she had nursing bra's that zipped.

She'd latch on the pump then zip the bra to hold the pump in place, then would be completely hands-free for :20

And if by "busy" you mean "has a job", then I would hope that she would be able to sit in a bathroom or unused office somewhere for :20 and pump while reading things relevant to work on her phone or tablet.

Pumping 4x a day will absolutely keep here supply and size up. But it will only last a few months before supply starts to fall off and no amount of pumping will bring it back. within a year/year and a half, she'll be all deflated and empty anyway.

The Hello Baby monitor! It's so easy and functional and the monitor stays charged for days at a time. I love this thing. Plus it's only $70 and requires nothing except what it comes with and you can add multiple video feeds to the one monitor. I farm for a living and this thing has a pretty impressive range. I'll be a 3 minute walk away from the house in the garden and it still works perfectly.


https://www.amazon.com/Hello-Baby-Wireless-Temperature-Monitoring/dp/B01CZUD4R8

If you're looking for a cheaper Lanolin alternative someone mentioned to me Nipple cream. Its super cheap and you can get A LOT of it. I personally love any products that have lanolin in it. Bite's lip balm and lip mask are my favs.

I ended up buying these for when I want something simple and effective. Would highly recommend.

Hope things are going better. My wife and I found success with Swaddleme-style sleep sacks and a HALO sleep sack. My brother-in-law swears by the Snoo smart sleeper, but obviously that's an expensive option and not for everybody.

Check for any environmental concerns—my daughter was wailing one night and I noticed, thanks to an in-room thermometer, that it was a little too hot for a baby in there.

But also, yeah, babies that small sleep odd hours for short periods. If he's sleeping well in between feeds, you're probably doing okay.

The Spectra is better imo. The good news is that you can buy an adapter from Amazon that will allow you to use Medela parts with your Spectra. I didn't do this last time, but have purchased them for use with these babies.

Regarding the bottles - I was super concerned before baby about pumping into the bottles that baby used, but it ended up being easier for me to pump into the bottles that came with my pump and then transfer the milk into bags/bottles baby used. At least for me, I didn't ever pump the exact same amount, so there was always lots of adding/subtracting milk from each bottle before I could feed baby with it. I DID use the Medela bottles at first with Dr. Brown's preemie nipples, and using the adapters I linked to above, I can pump directly into these with my Spectra this time around.

It gets easier, but there are regressions which will catch you off guard. Sleep will get better then get worse. It's the cycle as they grow and become more aware of their world and their senses. Behavior will get seemingly better and then get worse. But if you add another child to the mix the ENTIRE dynamic changes!

One thought directly related to the cold... Are you using a Nose Frida?

Baby Nasal Aspirator NoseFrida the Snotsucker with 20 Extra Hygiene Filters by Frida Baby https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00RP0GHBO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_2Xq4Db0MCS76P

If you're not using the Nose Frida to keep nightime coughs and stuffy noses at bay, then you're doing it wrong!! I have 3 kids, of which #1 did not have the Nose Frida used on her. She had bad nights when she was sick... Would get bad post nasal drip which would cause coughing spats and sleepless nights. #2 and #3 have had the Nose Frida used on them and (knock on wood), we have not had a fully sleepless night due to sickness.

My wife and I are in the throes of parenthood right now. 10F, 4M, 2M. It's insanity at our house. But we do our best, support each other and try our best to cling to the good moments and try and let the bad/annoying/frustrating stuff go (but that's not easy!).

So it gets better, no doubt. Just have to try your best and hold on for the ride as there are many aspects of them growing up you'll never really be able to change or control.

Good idea, definitely look into getting a pump. Personally, I just fed on demand and only pumped maybe a 2 dozen or so times in the 2 years that I nursed my son but this [Madela Hand Pump] (https://www.amazon.com/Medela-Harmony-Manual-Breast-Pump/dp/B0006HBS1M/ref=sr_1_1_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1487015148&sr=1-1&keywords=medela+hand+pump) is awesome. I also had an electric pump but just found the hand pump to be way more convenient.

We bought my son this Graco Bumper Jumper (http://amzn.com/B000WJLKQM) and it is one of our most valued purchases.

I'd often put it in the doorway of the bathroom while I showered and he'd just jump away. He thought it was so funny! He'd just laugh and laugh. And sometimes a little jumping before nap time or bedtime would wear him out a bit and he'd go down easier.

It's not a very big baby item, so it's easy to store under the bed or in a closet.

Try to keep your nipples clean and dry, and use a really good lotion like Earth Mama Angel Baby nipple butter. That stuff is awesome.

Don't worry about the pooing. Her system is just getting revved up. Having foremilk/hindmilk imbalance is relatively unusual. Just keep offering each breast for as long as she wants it; she's communicating to your body what she needs, and your body will likely respond.

Those early days of breastfeeding, I was convinced I had every problem ever, all usually within the same feeding - she's overeating, she's not getting enough, it's a foremilk imbalance, etc.

My lips are my biggest issue—they're in a neverending peeling cycle. I have really dry skin in general and I can't really breathe through my nose, and I think all the mouthbreathing exacerbates things. I don't get cracking or the red circle around the lips that kids get, but just constant peeling peeling peeling.

I use lanolin. It's the sheep equivalent of sebum, which doesn't sound great, but it's similar to the oils produced by human skin. I use Lansinoh, which is intended for nipples that are chapped from breastfeeding. (Don't buy pure raw lanolin, it will smell like sheep.) I recently found it in these minis, which I really like since they're a normal chapstick size. They helpfully say "SOOTHES & PROTECTS SORE, CHAPPED NIPPLES"... I try not to leave them out when my students are around.

It works best when I use it as a routine several times a day instead of as needed. I always fall back into trying to apply lip products only as needed, which completely does not work for me. I would never wait until I had a problem to apply any other moisturizer, so why do I do it with lip moisturizers? Who knows.

I do the wash cloth exfoliation thing, which maybe helps, but is not nearly enough for me. Does anyone do any intentional chemical exfoliation on their lips? Are there products for that?

I've never really found a solution for my peeling lips and have mostly just learned to live with it. :\

I'm going to try switching to an SLS free toothpaste. I've used them before and didn't notice it helping my lips, but I wasn't looking out for it so who knows.

For SPF I've been using Banana Boat SPF 45 Lip Balm. It's fine.

For cold sores I take 2g of Valtrex (an antiviral used for herpes) when I feel a tingle, and then 2g 12 hours later. If I take it in time it can normally completely prevent an outbreak. I also use Abreva, but only on the sore itself at the very early stages since it works by protecting cells from becoming infected. I don't think there's any point in using it once it erupts, though I'll keep using it on my other lip if it's touching.

I had success with the Comotomo silicone teether. It's easy to hold and my LO was able to chew on the angled fingers without having to hold the teether just right, which was a struggle with other teethers. Worked the first time I put it in LO's hand!! I was so happy and relieved that LO could finally chew on something and that it was easy to maneuver no matter how it was held.

At that age, the best toys seemed to be the ones he could get his fingers into to help him grip them. The Oball rattle was his favorite, and he liked the Comotomo teether too.

Check if you or your SO gets a discount through work. I was surprised to find both my work and my husbands had signed up for parent hood support groups. I got my Medela Pump in style at half price and I like it. Medela Pump in Style Advanced Breast Pump with On the Go Tote However, you should not lend or sell your pump. It would be like sharing used underwear and it is advised against for health reasons.

Hello Baby Wireless Video Baby Monitor with Digital Camera HB24, Night Vision Temperature Monitoring & 2 Way Talkback System, White https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01CZUD4R8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_GjR5CbWQKN3S8

This is the one we have and we never had any issues with it. They have additional cameras if you need to add it but it’s $70 for the whole thing which was a great price for us. It’s not the best picture quality but it works great and we can still see more than enough when we used it.

I bought the Freemie's (Freemie Collection Cups The Only Hands Free and Concealable Breast Pump Milk Collection System, Clear, 25/28 mm Funnels https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00UV6JDN8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_1E-Eyb8Z7YA2B) when I went back to work (and a 9 volt car adapter for my pump) and they work sooo much better than my pumping bra. They don't stick out so I don't knock them while driving. I like to put it all together once I'm in the car and have my seat belt in, so I can get into a comfortable position. I don't see it being a problem with shifting, as long as you have the tubing out of the way before driving. I also got extra long tubing so I could maneuver it behind my shoulder to keep it in place.

Love to Dream Swaddle UP Original, Gray, Medium, 13-18.5 lbs https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005ULUZIQ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_SkHizb9M9EHS6

These are LEGIT. We got the ones where the arm pods zip off and it's just a blanket. Perfect for transitioning.

I have one, but as a FTM without my kid here yet, I pretty much know jack shit. However, after searching for the S2 on Amazon, I found that customers also bought this and other various things to make life easier or that can work with Medela bottles/parts/etc like these flange adapters. The top customer review had some info about how they used medela bottles with pumpin pal flanges and didn't have to "hack" anything or cut tubing. Have a look around. I am getting a better grasp on everything by doing this.

First make sure you look into your insurance. Many insurance companies now are required to supply you with a breast pump. I used the Ameda Purley Yours with both my kids and I loved it. It worked very well, and I have nothing bad to say about it. I didn't use the pump regularly though, so sometimes it depends on how much you are expecting to pump. Generally the two popular pumps are the Ameda Purely Yours and the Medela Pump in Style.

I was unable to breastfeed my first, but when she was going through some medical issues we had a friend volunteer to pump for us. The milk were in these bags, and we either put them in a bowl in the fridge to thaw, or ran them under warm water for a minute or so. it was really quick and easy

Honestly, I thought Sophie the giraffe was over-rated, but I caved and bought it anyway. I was right. My son has absolutely no interest in it at all. His favorite teether has always been this - http://amzn.com/B00913DY3W - which is a lot easier for tiny baby hands to grasp. It was the first thing that he could hold.

Backpack! Preferably the kind that also has a sorta handle to it.

Reasons:

1. I already feel too wide, I don't want to add an extra 8-10" to my side to knock over everything (and that's assuming I don't stuff it, which I totally will).
   
   
2. Don't have to worry about the strap slipping off your shoulder while fussing with baby.
   
   
3. Backpacks make it way easier to organize by priority since you put the stuff you only maybe might need every once in a while on the bottom and the "oh no I definitely need this now" stuff on top.
   
   
4. Better coverage of your stuff, because strangers don't need to know what you're carrying.
   
   
5. It's not obvious it's a diaper bag! I like this.
   

I warned my dear wife well ahead of time that I would not be carrying a giant purse for this purpose.

She then turned up with a sweet Jeep (I love and own Jeeps) backpack with insulated pockets and even a gas-capped pocket for wipes.

It's not huge, but it fits everything we need and doesn't look odd when she's carrying it.

Under $50 on Amazon.com, here's the link.

Jeep Perfect Pockets Back Pack, Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D4LFDYA/ref=cm_sw_r_udp_awd_RTXWtb0W2GVF1W90

First of all, it's not too late. Basically, you need to remove milk from your breasts either by pumping or nursing at least 8 times or more in a 24 hour period to maintain full milk supply. If your health insurance doesn't cover a pump (almost all do - you can check by calling the customer service line on your insurance card) then you can at least get a cheap manual pump like the Medela Harmony and still maintain milk supply. The only downside to a manual pump is that you can only pump one side at a time. I personally never responded to an electric pump, and exclusively used a manual pump at work through the first year. You can even use hand expression to maintain milk supply without a pump - and for many women it's can be even more effective than a pump! When you do get your hands on a manual or electric pump, try using the hands on pumping technique to help your output. If you're on Facebook, as to join this group BRAS Brestfeeding Support Group

I flew with my 18-month-old for the first time this month and we used one of the CARES harnesses for him (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0012E4FV8?keywords=cares%20harness&qid=1451579406&ref_=sr_1_1&sr=8-1). It was really simple and took up a lot less room than his car seat would have, so that may be an option. It helped him to be sitting next to us, I think.

Also learned on this flight that "small" electronic devices only have to be on airplane mode during takeoff and landing, so we were able to have a few episodes of TV shows that he likes downloaded and he could watch them during takeoff and landing. That seemed to help him stay calm. Also, lots of snacks and a sippy cup with water.

Eco Friendly, Baby Edition! More suggestions are welcome!

I'm due this winter (being induced in December), and these cloth diapers would be really green and really helpful! My mom used cloth diapers with us, and though they're a little more work, they don't put THAT much extra laundry into the wash cycle, and they save on ALL that waste that's created by baby diapers! Crazy! We do not intend to do cloth 100% of the time, but they'll be nice when baby has already had a poo that day, and we expect no more poo, so they'll be there for pee only. (How predictable is a poo cycle on a baby? We'll figure it out!)

We also want to make most of our own baby food, from local produce from a farmer's market, which cuts down on gas used to bring us our food and all the glass bottles used to store food. Here is a plastic set of little food containers.

I'm also breast feeding, so here are some breast milk storage bags. THAT'S SUPER GREEN, and cheap, because I'm not using all that awful formula.

We got this one because it's pretty neutral but still cool looking. My husband is super into backpacks so I let him do most of the research.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01M9E9UNV

I have a Spectra S1 and love it. It's very quiet, fast, and the parts are very easy to clean.

FWIW, I ordered the Spectra S2 from this amazon listing and they accidentally(?) sent me a S1. Just saying...

We've received two as hand me downs. I really like "Hello Baby" it's picture is really crisp and there is a talk back feature so you can intercom your voice over to baby. We don't have extra cameras but I know you can sync up other cameras for different views which is pretty cool.

My friend and I found these to be the bags we liked the best. Double zipper, so they don't leak. BPA free.
http://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastmilk-Storage-Bags-Count/dp/B006XISCNA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1409958104&sr=8-1&keywords=breast+milk+storage+bags

I would pump into the bottle provided with the breast pump (Medela), and then pour the milk into one of these bags. I'd then freeze it flat. To thaw, I'd heat up a bowl of water for a minute or so on high, then defrost the bag in that.

If you are on the go. This is what I recommend!

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B004HWXCJS/ref=mp_s_a_1_sc_1?qid=1370534482&sr=8-1-spell&pi=SL75

It is what I have. Everything is conveniently in a bag.
Clean up is easy.

Cooler bag to store milk so it doesn't spoil. Etc.

I use this when I'm at school.


Though I wish I heard about this one.

http://www.medelabreastfeedingus.com/products/463/freestyle-breastpump

It doesn't need an outlet

I got a Medela In Style from insurance (Thanks, Obama) and ended up buying a Spectra S2 from Amazon (hospital grade and insurance wouldn't cover).

I like both, but the s2 is lighter, quieter and more comfortable to use. Glad I have both (Medela can be portable for work) but if I had to have one - would buy the Spectra, it's not as much money as I had expected.

Quality thick blankets for laying on, a pack and play in the living area as a safe space away from pets, sibling.

I only used the bouncy seat in the bathroom so she was safe and cozy but within eyesight.

The only toys she liked under 6mo were chewy toys, silicone or other flexible rubber toys. Comptomo teether

Manhattan Toy Winkel Rattle & Sensory Teether Toy https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000BNCA4K/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_OOaEDbJK6RZHF

I use the Lansinoh, or Target version of the Lansinoh, because they freeze flat for storage. I dont have a chest freezer, but what I use in my regular freezer is throwaway aluminum food trays, They work well to keep the bags organized. I recommend using the shelf in the freezer to lay the bags to freeze, if the shelf is wire like, you may want to put something smooth and flat down to lay the bags on. When I froze the bags right on the wire shelf, it was hard to stack the bags side by side because the bags became wavy from the shelf.

Jeep Perfect Pockets Backpack. Plenty of pockets. Side pocket for wipes, includes container too. Insulated pocket to store milk or food. Has 2 straps on top to hang on to stroller's handles, I love this feature.

http://www.amazon.com/Jeep-Perfect-Pockets-Back-Black/dp/B00D4LFDYA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1452284947&sr=8-1&keywords=jeep+diaper+bag

I agree, baby gates are likely your best tool so you can ensure the dog can't get to the son without your knowledge and supervision. They have ones with doors in them so you don't have to constantly climb over them.

This is the one I use https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001OC5UNA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_j8plDbG1JKBZN

Just keep in mind that the FAA allows infants on the lap because it boosts air travel rates, not because it's safe.

The turbulence issue is rare but pretty bad and can kill children. I tend to agree with the thinking that if you wouldn't put your kid in a car without a belt you shouldn't do it in an airplane either. There's only one FAA approved harness for little ones and it's pricey but it works (other harnesses are usually not allowed to be used which is retarded).

You're not asking about this particular issue but you've got good answers for how to handle your gear and I thought I'd suggest one more piece of overpriced "stuff". Happy traveling :).

I am a fan of Graco pack and plays that have the basinet and changing table attached. It's perfect for the first few months when the baby sleeps in your room and take up so little space for their function.

Here's one I like: https://www.amazon.com/Graco-Playard-Bassinet-Changer-Rocking/dp/B005UV0USQ/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1481487182&sr=1-4&keywords=graco+pack+and+play

We bought this Jeep diaper backpack since we love the very accessible wipes holder. I highly recommend it. I've tried other bags listed here and I always come back to the style with a wipes holder like the Jeep one.

If you're using Amazon don't forget to use http://uk.camelcamelcamel.com to check the price increase/decrease history. For example I decided to pull the trigger and buy my Spectra S2 in November when the price dropped, as the history showed it probably wouldn't get any lower - http://uk.camelcamelcamel.com/Spectra-Hospital-Double-Electric-Breast/product/B00BLBLR1I?context=browse

Edited to add: we hit Ikea today and their baby stuff is surprisingly good. Their muslin cloths are better than the ones from Mamas and Papas and their baby towels are also really thick and soft. I'll probably pick up a few of their sleeping bags instead of GroBags too.

This thing was the best purchase I have ever made. I hung it in the door between the kitchen and the living room. Awesome.

I have to call my insurance to see what the free option is. (I'm definitely going with the free option.) I think it's a Medela. And then I was planning on ordering the Freemie collection cups https://www.amazon.com/Freemie-Collection-Cups-Concealable-Funnels/dp/B00UV6JDN8.

We use these one https://www.amazon.com/SwaddleMe-Original-Swaddle-3-PK-Busy/dp/B013GYQVCW
They work great for my newborn(he’s a week old and 7lbs) and I used them also when my daughter was a newborn 4 years ago and she loved them too!

That's exactly how I started. Laying around somewhere is a picture of me in my bumper jumper intently watching Jordan and the Bulls beat the Chuck-led Suns in the Finals. Merry Christmas and I hope you have an up and coming Bulls fan on your hands!

I survive breastfeeding the first couple months with the help of this.

Earth Mama Angel Baby Natural Nipple Butter, 2-Ounce Jar https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000JVCBBG/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_chHPub0ASWG0M

Without it, I think I would have quit trying from first couple of days.

This too shall pass! Be strong mama.

SwaddleMe! Hands-down the best thing we got or bought. Nurses may be expert swaddlers but my lil' guy breaks out in 5 seconds! With these things he can't get loose until I let him. :)

This wasnt super cheap ($60 USD) but me and SO are in love with it. Its high quality, and he doesnt feel like he's carrying a cheesy diaper bag...for that matter neither do I!

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M9E9UNV/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_apa_6nkqzb1KZEZSV

Ooo I’m so glad you said you’ve been on mint! I have a question. We’re flying mint in December. Our toddler (he’ll be 20m) will have his own seat. Usually when we fly we sit in coach and we put him in his car seat, but this time I’m thinking it might be nice for him to have the option to lay flat. I was thinking of buying one of these cares safety harnesses instead. Any thoughts?

There's also these if you're looking for alternatives Love to Dream Swaddle UP Original, Gray, Medium, 13-18.5 lbs https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005ULUZIQ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_AlRzzb9AESKWZ

Ive been looking at this one (haven't bought yet) but it's supposed to be good for babies that like to chew their fingers! https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00913DY3W/ref=pd_aw_sim_75_of_14?ie=UTF8&dpID=41DMLkW5OwL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_SL500_SR100%2C100_&psc=1&refRID=VHEADS269C6JHT76HJJ3

This one is pretty great.

For kids that young, I think carseats are an option too, if you have a travel seat. That said, you would probably be better off going with 3 seats in coach, as it'll give her room to sit and play and stretch her legs. If you go this route, be sure to get an appropriate kid harness for the seat. This is the one I used on our trip to Florida with a 2.5yo.

Even though she's young, when you book, start talking about what's going to happen. Tell her all about planes and about being in the sky. Practice taking off and landing (put her in a chair and tilt it back and wiggle it around). If you have a flight museum nearby, take her out there so she can see a plane close up and get to know what it's all about. She's young, but would probably benefit from exposure to a new thing before it happens.

I have this backpack diaper bag. I have two in diapers now and am due with baby #4 in March. I feel certain this bag is plenty roomy enough for everyone's diapers and wipes, change of clothes, cups, snacks, blankets, toiletries, and a few small toys and books. I've had several different types of diaper bags and this one is my favorite by far. I wouldn't call it trendy or pretty, but definitely functional with so many pockets
http://www.amazon.com/Jeep-Perfect-Pockets-Back-Black/dp/B00D4LFDYA

This thing is fantastic for getting junk out of the little ones nose, should they ever get the snots.. Works way better than the normal suction ball thing and is way cleaner. That and diapers

NoseFrida

My baby loved (and still loves at 5mo.) the Skwish. He can hold it super easily. He liked the Oball too but he would get frustrated with it a lot because he can't get it into his mouth, where the Skwish is easy to jam on in there.

A Sqwish! is great because the baby can grasp it very easily. I have a 20 month old and I'm getting one for my 1 month old niece.

If you aren't going back to work a manual pump will be fine. If you are going back to work you really need an electric. I am really in love with the Spectra 2 and at $129 it isn't a bad deal.

I highly recommend this backpack diaper bag. Oddly, it's made by JEEP.

It has a million pockets which makes small things easier to find. The wipes are on the side, easily accessible. And you can carry it on a plane, put it under the seat in front of you, and nothing falls out.

I'm not sure about the insurance, but if you can't get them to pay for it the Spectra 2 is a great pump for only $120 on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BLBLR1I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_PSFozb0K7NDNQ

We have the Hello Baby monitor (this one). It's great. Not crazy expensive and works really well. We got this shelf thing to mount the camera to the wall by the crib but it also comes off easily to use if you're traveling.

Have you tried a swaddle sack instead of a swaddle? His fingers will be contained, but he won't be strapped down like in the swaddle.

Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Dream-Swaddle-Original-13-18-5/dp/B005ULUZIQ/ref=sr_1_5_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1539269451&sr=1-5&keywords=swaddle+sack&dpID=41PVzoBf6DL&preST=_SY300_QL70_&dpSrc=srch

It won't negatively impact her in any way, but you might feel engorged and uncomfortable, even leaking. Ensure you have pads in your bra or you might be in for some embarrassment.

My daughter was extremely difficult to get to accept formula, but I started trying pretty late, about 6 months old. A 2 month old would probably be fine.

Here's a $30 pump if you decide to leave some breastmilk in the fridge instead of buying formula. It's also useful for relieving pressure on trips away from the baby.

http://www.amazon.com/Medela-Harmony-Manual-Breast-Pump/dp/B0006HBS1M/

Also - breast milk storage bags are excellent for yeast storage. They are sterile and cheap, much better for yeast storage than glass jars.

And you don't even need to be a parent to have them: https://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-Breastmilk-Storage-Bags-100/dp/B006XISCNA

Yeah, I get that, and I definitely get not wanting to make major waves! I work for a really small company and I'm just going to be taking over our conference room (which does at least have a lock). But it's good to at least be aware. If I were in your shoes I think I'd be more about holding them to the break time requirements than the space ones, but that's me.

Also, you might want to check out Fremies, which allow you to pump with your shirt on. I'm still pregnant so I'm not to this point yet, but when I get there these are what I think I will use.

http://www.amazon.com/Freemie-Collection-Cups-Concealable-Funnels/dp/B00UV6JDN8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1451311076&sr=8-1&keywords=freemie

Get a baby gate for her door, or at the top of the stairs, whatever works best for your floor plan and where you want her to be. We have one of these in the door:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001OC5UNA

I'm super excited, we went out to a baby resale store and got a $180 fancy pack n play for $80.

You can buy these and use with your current pump.

Freemie Collection Cups The Only Hands Free and Concealable Breast Pump Milk Collection System, Clear, 25/28 mm Funnels https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00UV6JDN8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_jUHoDbKZWJ5NT

I have the one for you, because that was exactly my criteria.

Hello Baby Wireless Video Baby Monitor with Digital Camera HB24, Night Vision Temperature Monitoring & 2 Way Talkback System, White https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01CZUD4R8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_rvCRzbNW7XB4X.

I wanted temp read out, battery operated, not wifi/hackable, and cheap. Love this one so far. It also has a "VOX" mode where the screen turns off and saves battery until there is sound.

I ended up with this one, mostly because the reviews were good and my husband really liked it. It need up being only $51 on prime day, but I really didn't want to spend more than $50 since I feel like I already have so many bags. Main selling points were slot for phone/wallet, external wipes holder, insulated bottle holders, and stroller straps.

We are a 20 minute drive from the hospital and husband will not leave my side, so I'd like to get everything in. I'm a notorious overpacker, too, but I'd rather have something I don't need than have not have something that I do need.
Mom Stuff:

• A nicer hospital gown to make me feel human
  
• Mesh panties
  
• A few non-slip socks
  
• Travel sized makeup & general toilettries
  
• Nursing shirt
  
• Super comfy yoga pants that I can leave with
  
• Heavy flow pads
  
• A few different stool softners
  
• A few different nursing bras
  
• Something to lay down in the car for leaks
  
• Disposable nursing pads
  
• Tucks cooling pads
  
• Spray
  
• Nipple butter
  
• Preperation H wipes
  
• Gel nipple soothing pads
  
• Nursing pillow
  Baby Stuff:
  
• Onesies in different sizes (nb, 0-3)
  
• Hat, socks, mittens
  
• Car seat
  Dad stuff:
  
• He's kindof on his own. I've been telling him for a month that I need his overnight stuff. He finally got some travel toiletries, so I guess we're getting somewhere
  Both
  
• 10ft charging cable
  
• iPads
  
• Kindles
  
• AppleTV (we're still not decided on this though)
  
• Snacks
  
  I think that covers just about everything. I used travel packing cubes to keep all of the clothing items organized, and I already had several different other travel bags that I generally use when actually leaving town, for all of the "other" items. [edited formatting]

I had this swaddle for my baby at infant size, and it was AMAZING. Arms can move pretty freely but this should stop the big startles!

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Dream-Swaddle-Original-13-18-5/dp/B005ULUZIQ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=J42OB9YWFSXY&keywords=swaddle+sack&qid=1562096551&s=gateway&sprefix=swaddle%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-1

I have these swaddlers and they are awesome. I'm not very good at swaddling with a blanket, and it took way too long for me to do it, plus trying to do it on a screaming, wiggly baby is not fun. These swaddlers are soooo much easier, and baby slept great in them... at first... until he didn't like being swaddled but that's later on down the road. ;)

We have this teether, the little nubs are baby-finger-sized, my daughter likes to get two of them in her mouth at once, lol.

Ok, I will try to format this nicely, but for some reason it always comes out TERRIBLY, so if you see it's been edited, it's just for formatting. Also, I didn't do any sort of price search, so these links aren't the best price guaranteed.

Dream Team Pumping Purchases

• Spectra Pump S1/S2 - one has a battery, that's the only difference. You can vary both the suction strength and the suction frequency on both the milking and letdown settings. There is a timer (yay!), and it remembers your settings. The only drawbacks is the tubing has a strange surface finish that picks up everything, so that kind of sucks, and the default is it's not on the letdown setting when you power on.
  
  
• Pumpin Pal Flanges - Unfortunately these aren't compatible with the Spectra style pump parts, so you need some other pieces to use them. They draw the whole breast in, not just the part around the areola.
  
  
• Maymom Adapters - These allow you to use the Medela style connectors and flanges with the Spectra.
  
  
• Medela Connectors - These don't have to be Medela, they can be Maymom or Nenesupply, but I couldn't find ONLY the connectors from either companies in my quick search.
  
  
• Duckbill Valves - These are way better than the little yellow piece valve with a rubber flap (if the flap moves, it doesn't always work). These are one piece, way awesome.
  
  As for bottles to attach...you can use Ameda or Medela bottles, or any bottle that fits the Medela connectors (I use the Medela bottles and sometimes Dr. Brown's bottles since they fit (depends on what's clean).
  

I bought this one. I really wanted a backpack style so I could baby-wear in front with the bag on my back and have my arms totally free. My other criteria were stealth, volume, and lots of pockets. I really like this particular bag because it doesn't look like a diaper bag and has so many different compartments.

I specifically got a neutral style bag so my SO wouldn't mind carrying it around. We use this Jeep bag and I love it. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00HVB36FW/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1474164860&sr=8-3&keywords=jeep+diaper+bag&pi=SX200_QL40&dpPl=1&dpID=41UDA%2B22%2BUL&ref=plSrch
It also comes in a backpack style https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00D4LFDYA/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1474164860&sr=8-1&keywords=jeep+diaper+bag&pi=SX200_QL40

I purchased this one and am really happy with it. I haven't used it yet, but the size, compartments, and everything else seems to be nice and compatible. Plus, my husband can carry it without it looking like a purse.

I was looking at this one since it's essentially a mini nursery and if I get pregnant right away, we won't be able to set up a real nursery until we move. I like the one you showed me too :)

In the US it is required that insurance provide a breast pump (thanks, Obama!!!).

Unfortunately this doesn't always mean an electric pump - some insurances have managed to loophole their way into satisfying this requirement while only providing a simple hand pump, but it's better than nothing.

Be sure to check with your insurance provider. Some require you to obtain prescriptions from your doctor that you can take to a Durable Medical Equipment Supplier. Some just ask for your OB's name and contact info and will do the legwork for you.

I got this one twice cause 2 kids-- it was really the only one the hospital offered. I liked it alright, but honestly struggled with pumping. I don't think it was the pumps fault though--the struggle was part not being hydrated enough and part because I struggled with "let down" when it was a machine and not my kid nursing. I had a manual one that I used a couple times when I was engorged while travelling, but I actually found that hand expressing was a little easier. The manual pump gave my hands a cramp after a few minutes. That's pretty much the extent of my breast pump advice. Oh and since you're gonna nurse-- LANOLIN and lots of it.

http://www.amazon.com/Comotomo-Silicone-Baby-Teether-Orange/dp/B00913DY3W

We like this one. Super easy to grasp.

Someone please correct me if I’m wrong, but I think this style is more for collecting let down from the breast you are not nursing on than for actively pumping?
I don’t think you would want to use this to pump milk if you are missing a feed. For that you would want something more like this: Medela Harmony Manual Breast Pump https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0006HBS1M/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_l1KgAbQS6XBK4

This one is my favorite.

Edit to add: their diaper balm is also the best for when you get to that point.

Skwish! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000GI0S4E/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_EUg7xbDX1XW62

Also soft things with nubs and tags are loved

Wife bought this one and I've been impressed with it especially considering the price. No app or smartphone tie in but if you are using just for the home it works fine. Even has night vision mode for a dark room and allows 3 cameras on the same monitor.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01CZUD4R8/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s01?ie=UTF8&th=1

I originally wanted a wifi enabled camera thingy majigger. We got one, set it up, and used it to spy on the dog for a few weeks. Thing is, there wasn't a monitor piece to the whole contraption. You used your phone or tablet or whatever. Seems convenient enough, right?

Well, I couldn't do anything else on my phone if I wanted the monitor on. No reddit, no youtube, no facebook, no solitaire. Nothing. Unless you have a separate device for viewing, it's really really annoying. Plus it's a battery drain!

Also, I had my fair share of crying in baby's room. I agree, that's not the place to have your in-laws peeking in on you and babe. Skype is a much better tool for what the in-laws really want.

We ended up getting the monitor my sister has, Hello Baby. It has a function called vox that basically turns off the monitor until babe makes enough noise to trigger it back to life. You don't have to use the vox function, but it helped me to stop staring at the baby wondering if every slight movement was her waking up. You can also talk to baby through the monitor (I think we'll use that more as she gets older), play lullabies, and check the room temp. It's pretty reasonably priced too. We're gonna get a second one for baby 2 soon. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01CZUD4R8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_A-URzbDRV74F0

Congrats. Just had our first 6 weeks ago. Warning, the first month is sooooooo hard! No sleep! 6 weeks is only moderately better. Everyone says 2 - 3 months is when it starts to even out. We'll see.

Also, this book is a lifesaver.
https://www.amazon.com/Happiest-Block-Revised-Updated-Second/dp/0553393235/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=10OKYUFFJWPPG&keywords=happiest+baby+on+the+block&qid=1550595906&s=gateway&sprefix=happiest+baby+o&sr=8-1

It comes on DVD and is worth the 40 minutes.
We got it from our library, it is probably on YouTube as well. (I didnt read the book, but there is an article that sums it up, DVD helps you to see the positioning)

Article: https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/baby/the-5-s-s-for-soothing-babies

And steal 3 of the infant swaddle blankets from the hospital They are a little bigger than the junk you buy at the store and will come in handy. Then get these, they come in a variety of styles:
https://www.amazon.com/SwaddleMe-Original-Swaddle-3-PK-Busy/dp/B013GYQVCW/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=swaddleme&qid=1550596102&s=gateway&sr=8-3

https://www.amazon.com/Backpack-Multi-function-Insulated-Waterproof-Gray-5279/dp/B01M9E9UNV/ref=mp_s_a_1_7?keywords=hap%2Btim%2Bdiaper%2Bbackpack&qid=1573120521&sprefix=hap%2B&sr=8-7&th=1&psc=1

This is the one we have. It's a good bag, it's served us well.

My son loved the Manhattan Skwish toy:

http://www.amazon.com/Manhattan-Toy-Classic-Grasping-Activity/dp/B000GI0S4E/ref=lh_ni_t?ie=UTF8&psc=1&smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER

My little dude has all sorts of eating problems (tongue tie, really inefficient, etc). So my current routine is to breastfeed him and then bottle feed him while pumping. I use what I pumped the day before to supplement him while I'm pumping. I bought these things so I could be hands (and weird things hanging off my chest) free while I feed/pump simultaneously. Kind of pricey, but really worth it: http://www.amazon.com/Freemie-Collection-Cups-Concealable-Funnels/dp/B00UV6JDN8/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1464114081&sr=8-1&keywords=freemies

I think it might be the Love to Dream. I've been contemplating buying either this one of the Wombie but can't decide which one would work better for a newborn.

We got a pack-n-play set that has a changing table + removable rocker/bassinet thingy from amazon, and that's stationed next to my side of the bed. It's stocked with diapers & wipes. I also have a nursing basket that will travel wherever I decide to feed, with snacks, burp cloths, nipple cream & breast pads right next to it. We're lucky that our nursery is kind of an en suite room off our bedroom, so I can walk 10 steps to the glider if I want to rock little one.

It's actually the opposite- I feel like the older my son has gotten, the more I have to carry around (he's 28 months). I have at least one ball, a book, a toy car, misc. other toys if those aren't what he wants and we are in a situation where I really really need him to be quiet, around 4-5 pouches, other kinds of snacks, maybe a change of clothes, diapers, wipes, sippy cup, spoon, ibuprofen, sometimes a change of clothes, kleenex, boogie wipes, etc. When he was a baby it was A LOT more simple. We carry a backpack, no idea how it would work if you were carrying the kid on your back but the Fawn diaper backpacks someone else mentioned also convert into a messenger bag.

edit: this one also has carrying handles, which I really like because you aren't always in a position to swing it up onto your back or are squeezing through tight spaces

Ended up ordering this!

Regalo Easy Step Extra Tall Walk Thru Gate, Bonus Kit, Includes 6-Inch Extension Kit... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001OC5UNA/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_c_api_daqTBbWSVV65G

1. There are a lot of old (and old-style) frame saws that used rope to create counter-tension to a blade on the other side of the stretcher. You could set up something like that.
   
2. Follow this link to learn about tensegrity, AKA the reason this baby toy can exist.

I have heard so many good things about Earth mama nipple butter from several new mama's around who are currently successfully breastfeeding their little one. It has been 9 years since I've since BF a baby and I struggled for the first 6 weeks. I'm hoping it's a little different this time.

A nose frida. I know it sounds weird, but it's a better tool than the bulb that most people use for nasal auction.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00RP0GHBO/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1504956535&sr=8-3&keywords=nose+frida&dpPl=1&dpID=41GiWFhmDwL&ref=plSrch

$12 for the three small tubes of pure lanolin I mentioned here on Amazon

You can get a bigger tube and just use that if you're the kinda gal to always have a purse on you. I like the convenience of the smaller tubes and a little goes a long way!

Okay... question for you. Would I need to buy this and this? Also, how does the cup sizing work? Is it like Medela?

1)Swaddle blankets for newborn
https://www.amazon.com/SwaddleMe-Original-Swaddle-3-PK-Busy/dp/B013GYQVCW/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1496771259&sr=8-1&keywords=swaddleme
2) Several different types of pacifiers/bottles (you don't know which they'll like and they do have a preference)
3) Travel swing - because they're smaller/take up less room/ and you can move them from room to bathroom or whatever and less expensive.
https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Harmony-Kingdom-Portable-Swing/dp/B00E3RKC36/ref=sr_1_1_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1496771354&sr=1-1&keywords=travel%2Bswing&th=1
4)Breastfeeding pillow: https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Harmony-Kingdom-Portable-Swing/dp/B00E3RKC36/ref=sr_1_1_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1496771354&sr=1-1&keywords=travel%2Bswing&th=1
5)Carrier:https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Ktan-Original-Carrier-Black/dp/B000UYFULU/ref=sr_1_1_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1496771644&sr=1-1&keywords=ktan

Even an extra tall gate? We have this one from Amazon. It's delightful because it's a walk through door which you don't need to drill into the wall, but it's extra tall so my 2 year old can't climb over it!

Also check out something like this. https://smile.amazon.com/SwaddleMe-Original-Swaddle-3-PK-Busy/dp/B013GYQVCW/ref=sr_1_7_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1520520111&sr=1-7&keywords=swaddle&th=1

I have it and it is worth every penny

We always purchased a seat for our kids even when they were under 2 and could fly free on a lap. It's just so much easier to give them their own space strapped in to their car seat (most are airline rated these days).

Now that they are toddlers and have to have their own seat anyway we use this:
http://www.amazon.com/Child-Airplane-Travel-Harness-Restraint/dp/B0012E4FV8

I use this one off Amazon! But it's not as refined as some others that are specifically processed for lips and it does smell strongly of sheep (I don't particularly mind this because I wear it at night).

Other options that I know are really popular include Dr. Lipp and Lansinoh but I don't have personal experience with those.

If you still have your Medela parts, you can use these adapter things to convert them to use with the Spectra and save some money:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DGEDVUM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_waJGAb1NX8VYV

Great box! Only things missing are pacifier clips, ear plugs and Nose Frida

I took 1 newborn sized sleeper and 1 0-3 month sleeper. I didn't really use much that the hospital didn't provide, except for nipple cream (I got this kind and really liked it) and the Boppy pillow.

Which Pack and Play did you register for? The one I want has a bouncy chair with it, so I'm not going to register for a separate swing or anything either.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005UV0USQ?colid=QY2U0MCE4MR4&coliid=I315S19832OJI6&psc=1&ref_=wl_it_dp_o_pd_nS_ttl

I hunted around for something similar for a long time and finally found this. It's listed as a baby gate but stands 41 inches tall. It's worked very well for me, neither of my cats (one seven pound, one thirteen pound cat) has attempted to jump over it yet. (I've had it since June)

Lanolin is good for this. I use it for my lips but the product I use is marketed for nipples.

link on US Amazon for what I use

OK, I've been thinking about this all day. Would a set-up like this be possible for you?

• [Breast Pump Backpack] (https://www.amazon.com/Medela-Style-Advanced-Breast-Backpack/dp/B0011E75RK?th=1)
  
• [Battery pack] (https://www.amazon.com/Medela-Battery-Style-Advanced-Breast/dp/B000HL2JOC/ref=sr_1_1_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1491593808&sr=1-1&keywords=medela+battery+pack)
  
• [Freemie collection cups] (https://www.amazon.com/Freemie-Collection-Cups-Concealable-Funnels/dp/B00UV6JDN8/ref=sr_1_1_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1491593767&sr=1-1&keywords=freemies+for+medela+pump+in+style)
  
  You might look a little funny with a backpack on, and may not be able to assist in a crisis due to possibly sloshing milk, but you would be able to stay on the floor.

I have a Dr Brown's pump, all of the accessories, and 2 four oz bottles instead of the 2 two oz bottles it came with as I can frequently get 3 oz a side per pump. In the insulated bag, I keep a large hard plastic freezer pack, the 2 small freezer packs the pump came with, and filled milk storage bags. I also carry a smaller package of extra milk bags as well as my wallet, phone, and keys. Because of the fridge situation at my work (read: thieves!), I won't leave anything in the fridge. The freezer pack I use does a good job keeping the milk cold during my workday and I wash my parts and bottles after every pump, since there's no room in the insulated bag with the freezer pack and filled milk bags. This is all in a diaper bag, FYI. The Dr Brown's pump bag is ridiculously large to carry around.

I have quite a few mom friends who are struggling with breaking the swaddle, a couple of them are using this and have been saying positive things: it's called a swaddle up and apparently it really helps with the startle reflex and it still holds them snug but gets them used to having their arms in a different position.

Looooved the swaddle, I think it was a major reason why my first was such a good sleeper. I really like the SwaddleMe Pod for newborns and the SwaddleMe velcro swaddle for slightly older infants. It takes all the stress out of trying the swaddle.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01416HEHA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_.W2LzbTF0MFB3
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B013GYQVCW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_dY2Lzb2D7MFKN

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M9E9UNV/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_awdb_t1_0IuMDb31KA1ZG

I've got this backpack and really like it. $50

Lanolin is the crowd favorite here. Some people shy away from it because it's actually a nipple-chafing cream, but it's a natural substance with no irritating additives. Many people find that it works FAR better than any of the typical lip-care products. This is the version that most people use, though you can search for products that are made with lanolin but look like typical lip-care products.

Have a look at amazon. Here are some manly more affordable options: option 1. option 2 option 3 option 4

Freemies!!. And Medela Freestyle??

Amazon has a checklist feature that really helped me build my registry as a FTM. There's also a "Good, Better, Best" checklist that has honest, unbiased reviews of products in each category to highlight the "covers all of the bases, minimal bells and whistles, low cost" to the "all of the crazy shit you will never need but costs a million dollars!"

Here are a couple of things that I selected based on those lists and reviews here:

Breastfeeding pillow

Booger sucker

Wipe warmer (I also picked out a stand for it to protect the dresser I'll be using as a changing station)

Washable organic nipple pads... to answer your question they absorb leaking milk so your shirts don't look like they're crying all the time. disposables exist, too, but I figure why spend more money throwing them away when you can just toss them in the wash. This pack had enough pairs that it's not like you'll run out in between laundry loads, especially with baby making messes!


Motherlove Nipple Cream becaude apparently your nipples will become the Sahara.

So, I have flown twice with my kiddo. When he was a crawler and when he was 22 mo. When he was little I brought a carseat with us. It honestly didn't fit the right way, there was just no way. This more recent trip I bought this. Even though he was a little young for it. Mmisstrez is saying they won't let you hold infant for take off/landing, is not true in my experience if you are flying them on your lap.
I would check to make sure any seat you buy is approved by the FAA. When I brought the car seat they asked to see the tags certifying it and I had a moment of panic because I hadn't specifically looked for them. They would have made me gate check it. Another thing to think about is carrying everything through the airport. Kid's safety is important, but so is Mama sanity.

I would probably buy one. Spectra is hands down my recommendation and I love mine. I get quite a bit more then my medela, even with the exact same flanges, valves, and tubes. I have this one: Spectra Baby USA S2 Double/Single Breast Pump, 3.3 Pound https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BLBLR1I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_2EKEzbGWQSJ50
There is also the s1, which is the same but has a battery. Also the spectras are not that expensive compared to some other pumps.

I have never used it personally! I buy the cheapo Lansinoh via Amazon and I've been using these tubes for ~6-7 months and they're all still pretty full. A little goes a long way. I suspect they're similar!

We used this one. Baby slept in the bassinet all over the house wherever we went. It was never for unsupervised sleeps though, we had an Arm's Reach for that.

Graco Pack 'n Play Playard with Cuddle Cove Rocking Seat, Winslet https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005UV0USQ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_LZ7EAbMQE08VT

Lansinoh Lanolin Nipplecreams for Breastfeeding, 100% Natural Nipple Cream, 3 Mini Tubes (0.25 oz each) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00FNZQHJA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_AfF4BbXCF4BCN

Or if you’re frugal, you can get three of these little ones. Same stuff just unflavored.

The one thing I can't live without is the Velcro swaddlers. I like these

I actually use the medela flanges and bottles with my spectra pump. We just got the adapter from Amazon. It plugs in in between the flanges and the backflow protector. It is a little odd but works well.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DGEDVUM/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_cdv0AbHBJN135

We have a Regalo Easy Step Extra Tall Walk Thru Gate. It's too high for the cats to jump and for the toddler to climb. The toddler can open it if it's unlocked but that's not an issue for us given where we use it.

Edit: This probably won't help you. I misunderstood your cat-restraining needs. We need to keep our cats out of where the gate goes. You want yours to be able to jump it.

We went low tech at the beginning; with just an audio one, but we found it to be a bit unreliable and we couldn’t tell if baby was just crying in his sleep or actually crying for something else, with his eyes open.
We ended up buying this one: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01CZUD4R8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_plELAbYBP722Z and love that it also tells us the (approximate) temperature in the room. It’s pretty cheap for a video monitor and doesn’t require keeping your phone’s (Vimeo / Amcrest / other) app open to keep an eye on him/her.

These are the gates I use in my house, they work very well and are tall enough so the dog cannot jump over and the vertical bars do not allow climbing.

Hello Baby Wireless Video Baby Monitor with Digital Camera HB24, Night Vision Temperature Monitoring & 2 Way Talkback System, White https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01CZUD4R8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_zjkRzbVQ9088M