Reddit mentions: The best childrens health books

Not all of these are "parenting" books, but they get at various aspects of what you might be looking for/need to help you prepare (in no particular order):

• Bringing up Bebe - Tells the parenting story of an American expat. living in Paris, and how she observed different parenting techniques between American and French families, and how that plays out in children's behavior. It is a fun "experience" story and I think it lends some interesting insights.
  
  
• Pregnancy, childbirth, and the newborn - I think this is the most informative, neutral, pregnancy book out there. It really tries to present all sides of any issues. I can't recommend this book enough. From here, you could explore the options that best fit your needs (e.g. natural birth, etc.)
  
  
• Taking Charge of Your Fertility - Look into this if you find you are having trouble conceiving, or if you want to conceive right away. Really great tips on monitoring the body to pinpoint the most fertile times and stay healthy before becoming pregnant.
  
  
• The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding - This is published by Le Leche League and really has everything you need to know about breastfeeding, pumping, etc. After baby is born, kellymom.com is a good resource for quickly referring to for breastfeeding questions later, but seriously don't skip this book - it is great!
  
  
• Dr. Spock's Baby and Childcare - Really comprehensive and probably the most widely read book about every aspect of child health and development (and also a lot of what to expect as parents.)
  
  
• NurtureShock - by far the most interesting book I've ever read in my life. Basically sums up research on child development to illuminate how many parents and educators ignore research based evidence on what works well for raising children. If you read nothing else in this book, at least read the sleep chapter!
  
  
• What's Going on in There? - This book was written by a neuroscientist after becoming a mom about brain development from pregnancy through about age 5. It has some of the same research as NurtureShock but goes way more in depth. I found it fascinating, but warning, I could see how it could scare some people with how much detail it goes into (like how many people feel that "What to Expect When Expecting" is scary.)
  
  
• Happiest Baby on the Block - There is a book, but really you can/should just watch the DVD. It has 5 very specific techniques for calming a fussy baby. Here are some recent reddit comments about it. Someday I will buy Dr. Karp a drink - love that man!
  
  
• The Wholesome Baby Food Guide - this book is based on a website which has some of the same information, but the book goes way more in depth about how to introduce food, with particular steps, to set baby up for a lifetime of good (non picky) eating habits.
  
  
• A variety of sleep books, so you can decide which method you might be comfortable with (I believe the Baby Whisperer and Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child are pretty middle of the road, but you can look into bedsharing (The Dr. Sear's books) or the other end (Babywise) as discussed in other comments already here, etc. - these last two links I am letting my personal bias show - sorry, but I just think it is good to know all sides of an issue.)
  
  
• Huffington Post Parents section often has "experience" articles, and browsing subs like this can help with that too.
  
  
• A lot of people love the Bill Cosby Fatherhood book too, but my husband and I haven't read it, so I can't say for sure what is in it, but I imagine it is "experiences" based
  
  
• The Wonder Weeks - describes when and how babies reach developmental milestones, what to expect from those, and how to help your baby with them.
  
  Edit: I wanted to add brief descriptions and links (I was on my phone yesterday when I posted this.) I also added in the last book listed.
  
  I have literally read hundreds of parenting/child dev. books. I consider these to be the best of the best in terms of books that cover each of their respective topics in depth, from almost all perspectives, in as neutral of a way as possible, so that you can then make decisions about which more extreme (I don't mean that in a bad way) parenting styles might work for you and your family (e.g. attachment parenting, natural vs. medicated birth, etc.)
  

One of my wife's friends wrote this one...not a bad book, I suppose. Lots of good information about pregnancy, things that are good to know from the dad's perspective.

The one your wife is going to read, and you should also read, is the classic What to Expect book. That's sort of the "pregnancy bible", lots of really good information in there, most women read it.

Another one that I really got a lot out of is If Your Kid Eats This Book, Everything Will Be OK. That's written by an ER doctor who talks about how to tell the normal illnesses and maladies that aren't worrisome from the ones that you actually do need to be concerned about. It's saved my wife and I from a handful of ER/Doctor's Office visits.

The final one is the one I recommend over anything else. If you buy no other books/dvds, buy this one. It might save your life, sanity, and/or marriage:

The Happiest Baby On The Block

I'd recommend both the book and the DVD, but if you only get one, get the DVD. Hell, many libraries carry it.

Any and every parent I know who has watched it basically thanks Harvey Karp for making the first 3 months entirely bearable. It teaches you how to soothe a screaming infant, quickly and calmly...it makes for a happier child, and happier parents. Buy it, or rent it, or whatever...just make damned sure you see it before d-day.

Outside of that, a quality swing that plugs in (not one that runs on batteries...you will spend the difference in cost between the two on batteries) can be great. Our little girl, along with a few of our friends kids, all loved the Ocean Wonders one by Fisher Price...although for whatever reason, it seems to be ridiculously expensive on Amazon. I believe we paid 150 or 200 for it brand new. Worth every penny...cheap swings are just that: cheap. They aren't comfortable, they aren't well made, and they don't work for particularly picky infants (e.g. my daughter). I have a few friends who had more laid-back kids who have said that the cheaper swings work, so if money is tight that's something you might wait on until you meet the child:)

For most baby stuff, you get what you pay for. The stuff that works is going to be expensive because it works. I tell most of my friends that my experience is that you buy the best rated thing you can afford (just because it's expensive doesn't necessarily mean it's good, always find product reviews!).

Anyhow, through the pregnancy, the best thing you can do is just be interested and involved. Try to remember that your wife/partner might seem to lose her mind a few times, and it's mostly hormones...so let the crazy slide a little bit more than usual.

Other than that, just square yourself with the idea that your old life is done, and you now have a new one. Everything changes with kids, and the more OK you are with that, the better you will be as a dad. It's the best change you could ask for, and most dads will say that they wouldn't go back to the life of video games and nightly partying for anything in the world now that they are dads. It's worth giving all of that up a million times over. But don't fight it. Don't tell your wife that she can handle being home with her one-month old alone because you're stressed and need some time with your boys. Don't say that you can't get up in the middle of the night because you have an early tee time. Don't tell her that you shouldn't have to help clean up the kitchen because you worked all day.

That kind of stuff comes naturally to most guys, and I certainly hope it does for you. You find that when you just let the change envelop you, instead of trying to shoehorn your old lifestyle into your new life, things are easier and much more fun. The change is good, and it is inevitable. Fighting it just makes you, your wife, and your child miserable.

> I don't want a diagnosis via internet forum, but does it make sense to go against my therapist (who won't ever diagnose me with Asperger's because I can communicate OK with him one-on-one) and pursue a diagnosis from a specialist?

Yes, it absolutely makes sense. I've seen so many reports from others who have been in a similar situation, diagnosed multiple times with various conditions, with the possibility of Asperger's/autism repeatedly dismissed on superficial grounds, as if the mind isn't full of layers, many of which are hidden beneath the surface.

> Could it be that I flew under the radar for so long?

Indeed. Especially as a woman, there's a strong bias to attribute your behaviors and qualities to anything other than Asperger's. This bias exists both in general culture (for example, hormones are used to explain away so many female behaviors without any real consideration) and in the culture of the mental health profession (largely due to the original research decades ago focusing on male children, almost completely ignoring both females of any age and adults of any gender).

I'm a male myself, but it wasn't until recently, when the profession started to wake up to the possibility of Asperger's being just as prevalent in women as it is in men, that I started finding resources that I really connected with. Thus, I suspected I had Asperger's when I was 24, but it was only once I was 32 and revisited the subject that I found all the stories by other "under-the-radar" aspies, many of them women, and could truly connect with those experiences, learning from them and learning about myself more deeply. I certainly have some male stereotypes too, but the stereotypes have done a lot of harm, causing many people to go unrecognized for so long.

> And does anyone have tips for pursuing a diagnosis?

I just got done reading the book I Think I Might Be Autistic: A Guide to Autism Spectrum Disorder Diagnosis and Self-Discovery for Adults, and I think it could be a useful read for you. Some of the details of the middle chapters are US-specific, so their usefulness will depend upon your location, as the diagnosis process differs quite a bit throughout the world. It's also a quick read. (I should have gotten this book a while ago; I had read the author's second book on the subject, Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate, over a year ago and loved it, as well as many articles on her blog Musings of an Aspie, and her first book indeed had the same quality.)

A somewhat longer book which I'd also recommend, with more of a focus on the reflective and emotional side of the diagnostic process, and less on the concrete details, is Very Late Diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder): How Seeking a Diagnosis in Adulthood Can Change Your Life.

I'd also recommend considering finding a therapist/counselor who specializes in adult Asperger's/ASD, without necessarily focusing on an official diagnosis, at least in the short term. If you can relate to the experiences shared by adult aspies, and you feel like you are obtaining deeper self-understanding and highly applicable advice from books and online, it only stands to reason that you could find similar help from a counselor who is willing to approach your situation from that angle. I found a great counselor by very cautiously reading through the descriptions on the Psychology Today therapist search page. Might've gotten a little lucky that my first pick was a good pick, but it worked for me. Also, insurance might complicate this; I paid out of pocket, so I was free to go wherever for whatever reason.

So yeah, that's the essence of my advice: Self-directed research through books, blogs, and online communities, a sympathetic counselor regardless of current diagnostic status, and plenty of time and space for introspection. Also, be liberal with the self-love; when a person internalizes the perceived expectations of the society around them and feels like they are always failing to satisfy those expectations, it can be brutally debilitating, and can easily become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Learning how to wisely choose and live by my own expectations was one of the best things I've ever done.

I registered a new account just so I could interrupt your speech concerning Autism and Obama.

Obama does NOT view Autism in the same way you do. I write from wiki with linked out articles:

>Ari Ne'eman is an American autism rights activist who founded the Autistic Self Advocacy Network. On December 16, 2009 President Barack Obama announced that Ari Ne'eman would be appointed to the National Council on Disability. Ne'eman has a diagnosis of Asperger syndrome, which would make him the first person with an autistic spectrum disorder to serve on the council. After an anonymous hold was lifted, Ne'eman was unanimously confirmed by the United States Senate to serve on the Council on June 22, 2010.

My kid is Autistic. He is awesome. He isn't a disease or something to be ashamed of that "destroys anything". Way to put a label on a young child:

>helped my family kick the living shit out of a condition that destroys everything from children, to finances, to marriages. It even protected my neighbors property values

What bullshit. My kid knows who and what he is and has love and confidence about himself. There are struggles sure, but i have never made him feel "less than" and THAT is what you are doing.

I can only imagine you have glossed over and see only what you are DETERMINED to see, lest your fucking property value deteriorates. What a cad. He is a child. A whole human being, with rights, feelings and a dignity that you obviously cannot understand.

The information you have been fed about Autism as a disease that needs to be scrubbed away is wrong.

I assume you are getting is from Autism Sp eaks. (assuming can be dumb - but the words you have used point to that direction) They are a top heavy- research only- money hungry- scam. All good advocates stay well away from that organization. Their executives are paid top dollar and ALL money goes to "research for a cure" and "preventative measures". Nothing goes to helping families work with children and adults who are living, loving and working in the real world right now in ALL the various forms of Autism. NONE.

These children are different and amazing in a way you will probably never understand - seeing what you think is important. Why did you even HAVE children? Property values? Sheesh. It's your SON!

There are quite a few Autistic people on Reddit, and proud of who they are. If everyone was the same, the world would be beige. 1 million in a lifetime for ANY child is possible -- and worth every damn penny.

if you are smart and a true parent(please look up the word) you will be brave and try reading some better information.

books by Ellen Notbohm

popard free autism resources and videos

http://www.autisticadvocacy.org/modules/smartsection/category.php?categoryid=8

http://www.aaspire.org/

https://autreach.backpackit.com/pub/1382191

Barbara Coloroso book just for you

Try not to get bitter at me by ignoring/replying nastily - i could care less what you have to say at this point, get reading and become informed. Possibly in a few months we can talk.

Use those forums and understand that Autism doesn't just "poof" vanish because you are rich and paid for early intervention and filled him up with vitamins/starved him of certain foods. Be sensible.

I wish your son luck.

The type of work that suits dyslexic people tend to be more practical work. My husband is dyslexic and earns a good living from working with machines. My eldest is good at art and working with others in collaborative roles in practical jobs. My middle child is dyslexic and is even better at art and also a musician. My son is still young but he's wanting to go into engineering or something to do with machines as well, but he is also good at sailing and swimming. I've helped my kids explore different activities and find what they're good at, what they're passionate about, or have talent in. It's pretty important for a dyslexic person to find their niche, to stay competitive compared to non-dyslexics. Pretty difficult to beat the neurotypical people at what they don't struggle with.

I recommend you read The Gift of Dyslexia by Ronald Davis https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0399535667/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_-oUwDb70GRGBW

Please don't stress yourself out with trying to read so many hours a day every day. It may be counterproductive. 🙁 But whatever you do choose to do in the end, I hope it goes well for you. All the best 🤗

1. Read Neurotribes and anything by Temple Grandin as an introduction to how autism actually works. That's a really good start.
   
   
2. Maybe. I googled "Adults with autism Ontario" and hit this: https://www.autismontario.com/adults - it looks REALLY useful. They have workshops about future planning and transitions - I'd definitely get in touch.
   
   
3. Sometimes. Social stories help a lot. Jed Baker has written some helpful books - https://www.amazon.com/Preparing-Life-Transitioning-Adulthood-Aspergers/dp/1932565337?ie=UTF8&ref_=asap_bc and https://www.amazon.com/Social-Skills-Picture-School-Beyond/dp/1932565353?ie=UTF8&ref_=asap_bc...and I'm sure your local autism association will be able to help as well :)
   
   
4. You'd probably want help from a speech pathologist who specializes in autistic people (don't bother with someone who is not an autism specialist) - again hit up your local association for recommendations. Our speechies run social training classes as well...
   
   
5. Yeeeaaasss. But its (usually) hideously expensive. Here in Western Australia a child gets assessed by a clinical psychologist, a paeditatrician and a clinical psychologist. You fill out hundreds and hundreds of survey questions from proprietary surveys which are expensive to purchase and painful to code, from all accounts:) If you see a speechie, they can give you an assessment of his speech levels, but you'd want (probably) a Clinical Psychologist specialising in Autism to do a full assessment. Hit up your local association for recommendations, and brace your wallet !
   
   
6. Once again, I think Autism Ontario holds the answers here for you :)
   
   One last thing - we have a saying - if you know one person with autism, you know one person with autism :) So this:
   
   >Finn just knows his brother and how his brother is, so is of "little" help in the way I need
   
   is not necessarily true :) All you need to know is how Finn is, and you can go from there.
   
   May I also recommend /r/aspergers ? They have some excellent job and lifestyle related information over there as well...
   
   BTW - haven't mentioned this - but i think what you are doing is FANTASTIC. I cannot imagine how trapped and distressed Finn must be feeling in his current situation. You sound like such a loving person. I really hope this works out for you all !!

Oh sweetie, I think this is something everyone thinks about, and I don't know if you ever really feel "ready" to have kids. I know that I didn't--but 2 healthy kiddos later, we figured it out. We wanted to wait until we both had jobs, had our living situation figured out, and had been married for at least a couple of years. We felt "ready" and we started to try. I was still terrified when I found out I was expecting. Only you and your partner can decide when you feel "ready", but realize that it will never be the perfect time to have kids. Also, as a woman, you do want to keep in mind that the older you get, the harder it might be to get pregnant. (Not for everyone, but statistically.) It's something to keep in mind as you plan.

If you feel like you might be almost ready, talk to your partner about it. Talk about your hesitations. Are they big giant roadblock? of just little speed bumps? Does he have any ideas on how to work through them with you? Are you scared about being pregnant? having the baby? caring for the baby? What are your (and his) concerns?

Once you feel like you have worked through your major concerns, maybe set a date to stop trying to prevent (you have been using something to not get pregnant, right? that's important too) or a date to start trying. We waited until after a big trip we had been planning. Then, keep talking. Share your fears with him. Talk through them together. Maybe do some research or learning. It helped me to read about what to expect. Some books that I enjoyed or found helpful were:

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Pregnancy Related:

• Expecting Better by Emily Oster
  
• What to Expect When You're Expecting by Heidi Murkoff
  
• Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy
  
  Babies:
  
  
• Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp
  
• Wonder Weeks by Frans Plooij
  
• What to Expect the First Yearby Heidi Murkoff
  
• Cribsheet by Emily Oster (wasn't around for me, but I loved her first book, so you might give it a shot)
  
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  If you like to read, maybe give one or two a shot. You can also check out /r/Parenting and/or /r/BabyBumps to see what real parents are saying. Try to find some local moms to talk to about their experience--they can be a good support group later too.
  
  If you are a planner, do some checking on things that you might need to know about (daycare, pediatricians, etc) if that makes you feel better. Look at costs, locations, ratings, whatever you need to do to feel secure.
  
  Realize that even if you decide you are "ready" you may still freak out a little bit once it happens. Having a baby is scary and life changing, but that's okay! You can do this! You are awesome!
  
  Also, here's a little secret that no one talks about --no one knows what they are doing with raising kiddos, we all just fake it til we make it and muddle our way through the best we can. I still feel like I'm just pretending to be an grown up with kids.

Another vote for both of the Emily Oster books, and the best practical book I've read is Heading Home with Your Newborn. Also this one's not a pregnancy book but I would strongly recommend How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen if you're at all scared of the toddler through kinder stage. It's an entertaining read that aligns well with developmental psychology and has all these really funny real life examples of using the strategies from the book.

If I had to only pick a handful, I'd pick those.

I also liked the Ina May book which people will recommend a lot, but keep in mind it really is exclusively about childbirth and it's a bit crunchier than the average (though this pertains to the birth stories included more than Ina May's actual writing IMO). There's a good interview with her on the Longest Shortest Time podcast that addresses some of the things I felt the book could have benefited from stating outright to avoid sounding a little preachy at times.

If you're looking for like a detailed read that starts with absolute basics that would be especially good for anyone who hasn't researched much on pregnancy before, I would recommend Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn: The Complete Guide. It's as thick as a textbook but it doesn't read like one. They have a page in most sections directly speaking to partners as well, which is neat.

48 yrs old female here. It’s all good :) there’s nothing to “face”. You now simply have a name for your wiring. You’re still the same person. & btw, autism doesn’t get caused by “childhood trauma”. You’re born autistic, so I’d question that statement..

Is this the only diagnosis they gave you? As if you’re doing EMDR, I’d assume you have PTSD as well or at least a severe anxiety condition. PTSD is brought on by trauma (or C-PTSD), but not autism, so there’s that.. & it would be your main cause for anxiety. I have a PTSD diagnosis, brought on by some events but also incl childhood abuse & it’s tough.

As for Asperger, just learn about it so that you can figure out your strength & weakness & how to best manage certain things. This book is brilliant: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nerdy-Shy-Socially-Inappropriate-Asperger/dp/1849057575 or you can read her blog https://musingsofanaspie.com/about/. Also: https://theaspergian.com/2019/07/25/is-it-trauma-or-autism-or-both/ (this site is very good).

I know it’s all a bit much now, but try not to panic. I have a long list of “stuff”: ASD, PTSD, GAD, PDA, dyspraxia.. & yet, I’ve learnt to manage it & I’m ok, happy even. Attitude is important, as well as self care. Look at the WRAP method too, many find it useful: http://www.cwp.nhs.uk/about-us/our-campaigns/person-centred-framework/recovery-toolbox/wellness-recovery-action-plan-wrap/ - Yoga & meditation really help as well. Take care.

These are a couple books/resources I found most helpful:

https://www.amazon.com/Heading-Home-Your-Newborn-Reality/dp/1581108931

https://www.amazon.com/Your-Baby-Child-Birth-Five/dp/0375712038

https://www.amazon.com/Your-Baby-Speaking-You-Behaviors/dp/0547242956

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/Pages/default.aspx

https://www.circleofsecurityinternational.com/

https://www.marchofdimes.org/nursing/modnemedia/othermedia/states.pdf (This is a great explanation of newborn states of arousal. However, I think the information at the end about co-sleeping may be out of date at this point.)

This is my favorite breastfeeding resource. If you are formula feeding, the AAP book as well as Penelope Leach's book both have good guidance. Formula fed babies, like breastfed babies, should be fed on cue/demand, and allowed to determine their feeding volume and schedule. https://education.possumsonline.com/programs/gestalt-breastfeeding-online-program

http://www.zerotothree.org is a great reference for normal development and milestones.

This is a great read about co-regulation, or the process of how babies and children learn to self-regulate:

https://fpg.unc.edu/sites/fpg.unc.edu/files/resources/reports-and-policy-briefs/Co-RegulationFromBirthThroughYoungAdulthood.pdf

Lots of people hate on Ferber, but his book Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems has good information on sleep cycles. You don't necessarily have to implement all his techniques, although in some circumstances they are useful.

There are a lot of different soothing techniques out there. The Happiest Baby on the Block covers the basics. Most newborns like to be held flexed with firm touch. They like movement. They like to be close to another human. They like access to their hands. A baby who is in a frantic or crying state (see the march of dimes link) often needs help to come back down to a quiet alert or drowsy state, and soothing by an adult caregiver can be the key. You don't necessarily have to soothe them all the way into sleep, though, especially as a newborn. Sometimes just getting them calm and drowsy is enough that they can do the rest. In addition, a baby who is crying too frantically will have a hard time latching on to a breast or bottle so it is a good idea to feed before they become frantic since it can be difficult to soothe them if they are frantic with hunger. However, even offering a pacifier or finger to suck on, gently bouncing, or holding them can help them get calm enough to eat.

oh man, i’m sorry. i’m chasing the younger (neurotypcial and just as much as a challenge as the ASD one lol) so this may be a half answer but:

I’m so sorry. it is kind of a shit hand in a lot of ways. there is a mourning period. it’s normal. there are stages. anger at his different behaviors and developmental challenges, sadness at the dreams YOU both had for him that may not (or they might still, don’t give up) happen. but IT WILL GET BETTER. there is also joy. and God help me I’m a bad person but it helped to be reminded in support groups: someone always has it worse.

ASD kids are HARD on marriages. they don’t mean to, they don’t even know but even the greatest, best communication-sex all the time-always in sync ones should be labeled as immediately at risk once this diagnosis comes in. fight for yours. two partners are better. you NEED one another. AND you both NEED a regularly scheduled break. but it if you have to go it alone he’ll still love you too.

so sorry about the friend and family situation. we’re in a similar boat. my parents are nearby but they’re a little old school and limited physically so we use them sparingly. we can’t afford a babysitter on one income.

i hear you on therapy. it was a blessing we found ourselves in a very resource rich school district. but contact yours immediately. we did and we’re quickly accepted into an Early (intervention) Childhood School that was part of the public school system (free) and provided speech and social/emotional (and occupational therapy but he didn’t qualify for that) therapies. he was at a church preschool but he was miserable. bless them, they were untrained and clueless. but at the ECS he blossomed. became a leader and gained so much confidence.

btw, check your local library for some “sensory friendly programs.”

last thing, reading. you’ve found tons I’m sure. this helped me and my family kinda get oriented with my essentially new son. God bless you. hit me up with questions or just a need to bitch bc that’s important too. lol

I'm in the opposite situation- did ABA for several years, now in residential. Look into this book. It's short and sweet, but a great step-by-step introduction into how to work with children with autism, esp. non-verbal children, on developing age-appropriate language. It's such a great and rewarding job, but remember to find joy in the small accomplishments. It's slow, incremental progress, but the end result is so incredibly worth the hard work. Good luck!

I liked this book tho what to expect and the mayo one are also very good
http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Book-Everything-Revised-Updated/dp/0316778001/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1312012842&sr=1-1

I sometimes go to dr sears website. I am using his alternative vaccine schedule for #2. I highly recommend his vaccine book even if you plan on following the normal vaccine schedule. Its good to know the side effects & all http://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316017507/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1312012757&sr=8-1

I took a parenting class with my first for like $30 @ my hospital & was truly surprised @ what i learned from the class. I recommend taking one along with a cpr class

Also take the maternity tour @ the hospital you will be delivering at (its free).

Meet with pediatricians before baby is born. It should be free. You want to find one you like & who has similar beliefs when it comes to treating your child. I went thru several with my first before finding one i actually liked. I wish i had found one i liked beforehand instead of going from one to another after my child was born

I also agree on a doula

Hi everyone,

I created an account and made a video that I plan on sharing with my patients and you all to help prevent dental disease.

I will make a series of videos to answer dental questions. The first video is about cavities with help from our office therapy dog, Bodie. He is a mini golden doodle who is being trained to lay in your lap while you get dental work done.

Why cavities exist is a complex issue. It has everything to do with bacteria and acid.

One way to get a cavity is from a daily habit of ingesting an acidic drink or food. If you spend a lot of your time drinking a low pH beverage, it can eat into your tooth structure and cause a cavity.

Another way is by regurgitating acid from a disease called GERD - gastroesophageal reflux disease. This is common in people who have sleep apnea.

However, the largest way people get cavities is by allowing the bacteria on your teeth to create acid themselves. They only do that when you consume simple carbohydrates yourself and then leave it on your teeth. Time is a big component here.

So let's talk specifics:

You are more likely to get a cavity if you eat simple carbohydrates.

You are more likely to get a cavity if you leave these simple carbohydrates on your teeth. This will give the bacteria in your mouth time to create acid.

You are less likely to get a cavity if you brush and floss after eating sugar and flour (simple carbs).

You are more likely to get a cavity if you eat a bowl of cereal with skim milk than if you would have used whole milk. The concentration of simple carbohydrates matter.

You are more likely to get a cavity if your teeth are less resistant to acid from your genetics. This is not as common as people think. Diet plays a much larger role.

You are more likely to get a cavity if you snack on simple carbohydrates instead of only eating them at mealtime. People may have longer snack times than meal times, and then will eat simple carbohydrates for meals as well.

You are more likely to get a cavity if the simple carbohydrate is dry and sticky. Crackers are very sticky. Think of how much they stick into the grooves of your teeth.

I'm happy to answer any questions you may have. I will copy and paste the same sources from my YouTube video down below.

Sources and Science:

1. Consuming carbohydrates are a requirement to cavities:
   
   https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.3109/00016355308993925?journalCode=iode20
   
   

2. Bacteria are more virulent if they have more access to simple carbohydrates. Certain oral bacteria are known for being worse cavity-causers. But if you don't supply the bacteria sugar and flour, the micro-flora in your mouth changes and the bad bacteria go away.
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2674233
   
   
3. Diet plays a role as does the type of bacteria in your mouth and brushing your teeth:
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20630190
   
   
4. Whole milk is much less likely to cause cavities than skim or fat free milk. Fat free milk has a much higher concentration of simple carbohydrates than whole milk does.
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24717697
   
   
5. You don't get cavities from eating one sugary or starchy meal. It is the repeated, daily habit of continually coating your teeth with simple carbs that causes an issue:
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24248036
   
   
6. Fruit can cause cavities because of it's high sugar content:
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24248036
   
   
7. Starch is a complex carbohydrate which does not cause a cavity immediately. However, it can eventually cause cavities if it is left on a tooth long enough to be broken down into simple carbohydrates through a salivary protein called amylase. Then, it creates cavities very quickly.
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11021636
   
   
8. A dentist by the name of Dr. Roger Lucas wrote a book that has a lot of this information in it. It's a great read for parents to keep their kids from getting cavities. He compiled a large amount of this research into his book:
   
   https://www.amazon.com/More-Chocolate-No-Cavities-Cavity-Free/dp/1517705495
   
   
9. Simple carbohydrates cause cavities:
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19587153
   
   
10. This study indirectly noted that carbohydrates cause cavities:
    
    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/30159869
    
    Any feedback on the video is welcome. It is the first one I have made (that I plan on using). I am new to making videos. Thanks.
    
    Sincerely,
    
    Will Jones DDS

No baby here yet (I'm due 3 days before you and still haven't popped yet!), but I have a few book recommendations. Your boyfriend might enjoy the first because it's amusing and not really overwhelming, called The Baby Owner's Manual. I am currently reading Mayo Clinic's Guide to Baby's First Year, which is more clinical but VERY detailed. I really enjoyed the mayo clinic pregnancy book because it wasn't as scare-tactic as some of the others (like What to Expect) but still gave good, evidence-based information. Speaking of evidence-based, I read and thoroughly enjoyed The Science of Mom, which is kind of like Expecting Better but for baby's first year of life. It goes over a lot of scientific studies, if that's your thing!

Hi everyone,

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I created an account and made a video that I plan on sharing with my patients and you all to help prevent dental disease.

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I will make a series of videos to answer dental questions. The first video is about cavities with help from our office therapy dog, Bodie. He is a mini golden doodle who is being trained to lay in your lap while you get dental work done.

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Why cavities exist is a complex issue. It has everything to do with bacteria and acid.

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One way to get a cavity is from a daily habit of ingesting an acidic drink or food. If you spend a lot of your time drinking a low pH beverage, it can eat into your tooth structure and cause a cavity.

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Another way is by regurgitating acid from a disease called GERD - gastroesophageal reflux disease. This is common in people who have sleep apnea.

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However, the largest way people get cavities is by allowing the bacteria on your teeth to create acid themselves. They only do that when you consume simple carbohydrates yourself and then leave it on your teeth. Time is a big component here.

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So let's talk specifics:

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You are more likely to get a cavity if you eat simple carbohydrates.

You are more likely to get a cavity if you leave these simple carbohydrates on your teeth. This will give the bacteria in your mouth time to create acid.

You are less likely to get a cavity if you brush and floss after eating sugar and flour (simple carbs).

You are more likely to get a cavity if you eat a bowl of cereal with skim milk than if you would have used whole milk. The concentration of simple carbohydrates matter.

You are more likely to get a cavity if your teeth are less resistant to acid from your genetics. This is not as common as people think. Diet plays a much larger role.

You are more likely to get a cavity if you snack on simple carbohydrates instead of eating them at meals. People generally have longer snack times than meal times.

You are more likely to get a cavity if the simple carbohydrate is dry and sticky. Crackers are very sticky. Think of how much they stick into the grooves of your teeth.

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I'm happy to answer any questions you may have. I will copy and paste the same sources from my YouTube video down below.

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Sources and Science:

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1. Consuming carbohydrates are a requirement to cavities:
   
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   https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.3109/00016355308993925?journalCode=iode20
   
   ​
   
   
2. Bacteria are more virulent if they have more access to simple carbohydrates. Certain oral bacteria are known for being worse cavity-causers. But if you don't supply the bacteria sugar and flour, the micro-flora in your mouth changes and the bad bacteria go away.
   
   ​
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2674233
   
   ​
   
   
3. Diet plays a role as does the type of bacteria in your mouth and brushing your teeth:
   
   ​
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20630190
   
   ​
   
   
4. Whole milk is much less likely to cause cavities than skim or fat free milk. Fat free milk has a much higher concentration of simple carbohydrates than whole milk does.
   
   ​
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24717697
   
   ​
   
   
5. You don't get cavities from eating one sugary or starchy meal. It is the repeated, daily habit of continually coating your teeth with simple carbs that causes an issue:
   
   ​
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24248036
   
   ​
   
   
6. Fruit can cause cavities because of it's high sugar content:
   
   ​
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24248036
   
   ​
   
   
7. Starch is a complex carbohydrate which does not cause a cavity immediately. However, it can eventually cause cavities if it is left on a tooth long enough to be broken down into simple carbohydrates through a salivary protein called amylase. Then, it creates cavities very quickly.
   
   ​
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11021636
   
   ​
   
   
8. A dentist by the name of Dr. Roger Lucas wrote a book that has a lot of this information in it. It's a great read for parents to keep their kids from getting cavities. He compiled a large amount of this research into his book:
   
   ​
   
   https://www.amazon.com/More-Chocolate-No-Cavities-Cavity-Free/dp/1517705495
   
   ​
   
   
9. Simple carbohydrates cause cavities:
   
   ​
   
   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19587153
   
   ​
   
   
10. This study indirectly noted that carbohydrates cause cavities:
    
    ​
    
    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/30159869
    
    ​
    
    Any feedback on the video is welcome. It is the first one I have made (that I plan on using). I am new to making videos. Thanks.
    
    ​
    
    Sincerely,
    
    Will Jones DDS

Start with the VB-MAPP. It’s really not that difficult to understand. Buy yourself 1 copy of the workbook and use it as a guide to write individualized treatment plans. Not everything in it is useful for every child though, particularly higher functioning kids so you will need to come up with your own goals as well. Just get out there and start gaining the experience and confidence. You will get there eventually. Also, if you need help studying, The CBA Learning Modules helped me tremendously to pass the test. They are expensive but worth it. Here are some more good resources I found helpful when I was in school.

Teaching Language to Children With Autism or Other Developmental Disabilities https://www.amazon.com/dp/0981835651/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_knMqAbP298N1D

The Verbal Behavior Approach: How to Teach Children with Autism and Related Disorders https://www.amazon.com/dp/1843108526/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_9nMqAbDP5Q2SP

Both of these are fairly easy reads with good information. The second book I have given to parents as part of their training to help them understand basic concepts they can apply at home.

Hey! My partner and I have a three week old. I'm definitely not qualified to offer advice yet (or caught up on sleep), but here are three books that I'm very thankful to have read.


Great advice on how to keep your relationship healthy:

And Baby Makes Three


How to be awesome during pregnancy/labor/delivery:

The Birth Partner


Evidence-based info on how to calm an infant--don't let the cheesy title fool you. I can't imagine what the last couple weeks would've been like without reading this:

The Happiest Baby on the Block

I haven't as yet read it but I have had this book recommended:

https://www.amazon.ca/Aspergers-Job-Must-Have-Functioning-Employers/dp/1935274090

Also there are a number of handouts to potential employers dealing with employees with Aspergers. One of them may be a helpful tool in communicating with the case manager. Perhaps sending one of them that is appropriate to your own symptoms to them before going in for an in-person interaction with them could help set the stage. Some examples:

http://www.forwardmotion.info/wp/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/Employers-Guide-to-Aspergers-Syndrome.pdf

http://www.autismontario.com/client/aso/ao.nsf/0/2CDA747C0E9D4C768525770D004B1B1A/$FILE/Employer's%20Guide%20to%20Asperger's%20Syndrome,%20second%20edition.pdf?openelement

http://www.amaze.org.au/uploads/2011/08/Fact-Sheet-Working-with-a-Person-with-Aspergers-Syndrome-Aug-11.pdf

As well there may be local organizations which may offer support or advocacy for people with ASD that are having trouble finding employment. I have seen instances where they can contact an agency or employer directly to effectively communicate information and strategies to them. They can also offer training and advice on how to do well in job interviews and how to adapt to a work environment.

You may want to look more closely at the types of employment or work environments that will be suitable or unsuitable for you.

https://www.iidc.indiana.edu/pages/Choosing-the-Right-Job-for-People-with-Autism-or-Aspergers-Syndrome

I find that communicating things in writing and then discussing them afterwards helps me in getting my point across. Perhaps create a one page document to show what the previous barriers to employment you encountered were, and what some alternatives or solutions for these barriers might be.

Congrats! One subreddit that was super helpful for me when we found out is /r/predaddit.

As for books, I would recommend The Mayo Clinic Book, as it is waaaay less scary than the "what to expect" book.

Good luck... it's the start of the best adventure. :)

A lot of people in this thread seem to identify themselves as conversational narcissists. What are some techniques they can use to change their habits?

For example, some people might feel they never think of appropriate supporting questions; how could you develop this skill?

Others might have difficulty engaging with people they don't already know well; where might they practice? Bars and Toastmasters clubs are common recommendations, are there others worth checking out?

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Edit: I had a chance to look in my notes, and the best candidate I've found for practicing social skills with strangers is speed-dating. You get a lot of practice with a lot of people in a short period of time, and in addition to the normal channels of social feedback, you also get concrete confirmation of mutual attraction.

One way of increasing empathy might be to watch babies and try to figure out what they're thinking. Finally, this book is apparently pretty good for working on fundamental social skills, whether or not you're on the autistic spectrum.

There are too many Christian parenting books to even try to count, and probably none of them are perfect. For my wife and I, a practical approach was more what we are looking for.

My most sincere advice would be to make sure you have a good and healthy relationship together as parents (another topic on which there are more books than any one person could ever read). If the two of you have a good relationship with each other and with God (and you both have common sense), then you will probably be fine parents.

But take my advice with a grain of salt, my only child is only 6 weeks old.

Don't start with a general doctor, even good ones probably don't know the best resources for autism spectrum (which includes aspergers). Call someone at the link below and/or spend some time online looking at google searches with something like adult+autism+resources+nova scotia along with words like "therapists", "psychiatrists", "specialists", "psychologists", and talk to some people you find in the industry for recommendations.

Also the light switch turned on for me looking at books like "Aspergers on the Job" and reading what basically was a blueprint for my mind and how I process things, so that may help. FYI, the sooner you find the right resources for you the better your life will be--I wish I did it years ago.

http://www.autismsocietycanada.ca/

http://www.amazon.ca/Aspergers-Job-Must-Have-Functioning-Employers/dp/1935274090

My favorite for infants was Happiest Baby on the Block: Happiest Baby on the Block

My favorite for toddler is "Raising Your Spirited Child": Raising Your Spirited Child

My favorite for breastfeeding was "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding": Womanly Art of Breastfeeding

My favorite for pumping at work was "Work, Pump, Repeat": Work, Pump, Repeat

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Eeee, so excited for you!

• I haven't read any yet! But I have bought Heading Home With Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality and The Happiest Baby on the Block. Both books I've seen recommended and are well reviewed, just need to buckle down and read them. It all just seems so far off still...
  
  
• I did happen to have a routine appointment scheduled a few days before my babymoon (I was 24 weeks) and they gave me the OK to travel. The only thing I did to prepare was look up where the nearest hospitals were and which one had a Labor & Delivery unit. It's scary to think about, but odds are so slim something bad will happen in the relatively brief time you are there! Now the important thing, you better share lots of pictures with us of your beautiful tropical vacay ;)

If you want a book recommendation my absolute favorite book for those first few months was Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year. Since your GF already has a 3 year old you might not find it as helpful as my wife and I did but it was our absolute favorite to answer all those questions you wonder in that first year.

The piece of advice I got that was the absolute best piece I receive was to go out and do things in those first few weeks. You will be tired and a lot depends on your GF's recovery but in a lot of ways your baby will be more portable in the 6 or so weeks post birth than they will be for a long time since you can leave right after they go to sleep and they hopefully just sleep through things allowing you to eat dinner and get out of the house.

I found 3-6 months to be the most isolating time because they are aware enough to make it hard to just pack them up and go to dinner or something while they sleep but they aren't able to sit in a high chair or really entertain themselves so going out with them at that age is a real ordeal and that can become very isolating.

I had the same issue and was able to switch to doing one shot at a time and increasing the number of visits at no charge. So instead of grouping them together at the well child visits, we got one every 2-3 weeks. It worked out great! We're on schedule and haven't had another reaction (after 1 year). I wonder if this is a possibility for you? I relate to the difficulty and fear of seeing your young baby sick but also wanting to inoculate them from worse illnesses!

Dr. Robert Sears wrote [this book on vaccines](The Vaccine Book: Making the Right Decision for Your Child (Sears Parenting Library) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0316017507/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_lmhpzbG9XEER9) and it has been a useful guide for me. The pediatrician recommended it and it's been a good source for listing ingredients, how common each disease is, and potential side effects to expect. I've found that knowing ahead of time makes it easier.

Good luck! I'm sorry you had to go through that with your new baby. I hope you find the method that works for your family.

I am currently reading a book titled The Autistic Brain by an animal biologist named Temple Grandin. She is also autistic.

I haven’t yet finished the book (on chapter 3 still), but I’ve learned that for some people with autism, genes cause developmental anomalies. Particularly, brain functionality is short in some areas, and spectacularly abundant in others. I guess those with photographic memory and good recall is one of those serendipitous gifts.

Temple Grandin also has this ability to draw detailed images from her head. She even has a diagram in her book showing an MRI scan of her own brain with the enlarged neuropathways largely responsible for that talent.

So frickin’ interesting!

I realized today that we own no less than 6 pregnancy books, but ZERO newborn care books. Sooo today I bought one: Heading Home with your Newborn! I'd also love to know what y'all are reading; any that y'all highly recommend!

I like the Mayo Clinic Guide to Baby's First Year. It discusses all aspects of baby care, but each monthly chapter has a section with a pretty large list of developmental milestones your baby should be working on. It's been pretty spot on and includes more than just the basic things I've read around the internet. It also suggests some play activities too.

Happiest Baby on the Block is a great book for anyone/everyone.

Baby Brain Rules is one both my SO and I enjoyed, lots of science there.

We did not really read any books on the childbirth topic, just internet and a 5 week course at the hospital. I wish you luck!

My wife and I looked at Mayo Clinic's Guide to healthy pregnancy. It was neat to look up what was going on on the given week. We also took a trip to Babies R' Us early on to get an appreciation of what we'll need, what we'll want, and how much everything will cost.

For after the baby comes out: The Happiest Baby on the Block and Mayo Clinic's Guide to Your Baby's First Year, also.

I have a 2.75yo boy :) We have "pew pew" (thank you, Lego Batman), hitting, throwing toys, and other roughness. We talk about how mistreating toys can turn them into trash (i.e. they break). Toys often go to time out if they can't be played with appropriately (sometimes for a day, sometimes much longer). I tell him I won't let him hit/hurt people (his older sister the usual target) and block him or use time out as needed. I think he has a need to be rough, and I try to provide him with plenty of appropriate opportunities for that. We go places where he can throw rocks, bang with sticks, and get lots of physical exercise. I also like [The Art of Roughhousing.](The Art of Roughhousing: Good Old-Fashioned Horseplay and Why Every Kid Needs It https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594744874/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_jna1AbCMFK3TB). Thankfully my husband enjoys playing this way, because although I recognize it as developmentally appropriate, I do not enjoy it myself!

Have you read The Gift of Dyslexia?

I haven't read the Dyslexic Advantage, but I can say that the Gift of Dyslexia was an awesome read.

I really like and trust my OB, so I asked her for recommendations. I looked online for reviews on the three docs she recommended, then called their offices to see if they were accepting new patients. Only one was. She has regular meet and greets with new potential patients, so I signed up for one of those in July. After the meet and greet my husband and I will decide whether to go with her as our pediatrician.

The Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year (don't get the kindle edition--the formatting is terrible) has a section on picking a pediatrician, family doctor, or nurse practitioner for your baby. They also have a list of questions to ask.

The Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy is my favorite pregnancy book, and Happiest Baby on the Block is great for the newborn stage.

Mayo Clinic Guide

Happiest Baby

Heading Home With Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality https://www.amazon.com/dp/1581108931/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_XnWBybNM51P39

I was given a copy of this book before my son was born from my cousin who'd found it helpful. Ive since given my copy to a friend and bought another for another friend. It was very helpful for a lot of instances.

Well I'm still in the early days, so for me the most meaningful parenting book has been The Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp. I read Outliers when it came out, which was long before I was a parent. I may give it another look, though, as I enjoyed it.

I've also been thinking a lot about the goals of parenting, and how to achieve them, so I'm interested to see what others might post.

The The Happiest Baby on the Block

The nurses recommended this book to my husband and I after our baby was born, and it was a HUGE help!

If you're looking to work out or keep fit at all, check out Baby Barbells and The Art of Roughhousing. Both have some good tips for playing with your kid in ways that will benefit your health as well!

I'm currently reading "Heading Home With Your Newborn" and love it so far. It's written by two pediatricians/moms and has a lot of helpful info for the first few weeks and months. It includes a lot of what other books do, but also the very simple things that they tend to skip over like how to bathe the kid properly. Useful if you're a first timer!

My personal favorite is the [Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year] (http://www.amazon.com/Mayo-Clinic-Guide-Babys-First/dp/1561487503/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1382884091&sr=8-1&keywords=mayo+clinic+baby). It goes through a ton of things you might not already know- how to tell if baby has a skin rash, what a sleep schedule should look like, etc. My favorite part though, is that they have a chapter for each month of the first year of a baby's life that details what you can expect. Furthermore, they provide help in what you should be doing in each of those months. Hope this helps!

Hey, I can't oppose this one. I am dyslexic myself, and couldn't read properly until I was about 20 years old, when I found this book The Gift of Dyslexia and read it – slowly and painfully. Have you read it?

The reviews are mixed, and admittedly it's not terribly scientific at points, but it helped me tremendously, and I can't really argue with that. I read approximately zero books before that, and hundreds of books since!

Project funded! Good luck!

My favourite is definitely Expecting Better, as the author looks at the actual scientific evidence behind most common pregnancy do's and don'ts.

I've also bought:

• What to Expect When You're Expecting
  
• Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy
  
• For husband - The Expectant Father
  
  And I've just ordered a pile of books from the library:
  
  
• Pregnancy Day by Day
  
• The Mother of All Pregnancy Books
  
• Ina May's Guide to Childbirth
  
• Birth Day
  
• The Happiest Baby on the Block
  
• Bringing up Bébé
  
• Retro Baby

I do lots of stuff like this my son who is just under 3. He loves it and it's good for him. He's 35lbs! The trick is keeping it up as they grow. You can hurt your self or your kid if you aren't doing it right. Here is a good book that helps you get the job done without throwing your back out (or your kid through a window):
http://www.amazon.com/The-Art-Roughhousing-Anthony-DeBenedet/dp/1594744874/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1375909406&sr=8-1&keywords=the+art+of+roughhousing

Newbie here. I have had this book pinned for when the time came. You can find it here.

I heard about the book listening to him speak about it on a podcast (Pregtastic, I believe). I like that it's from a doctor's perspective. There is a short bio on there but I do know he strongly touches on the delaying schedules of certain vaccines. Hope this helps!

The intelligent thing to do is to discuss your goals with your pediatrician. Smart pediatricians understand the risks and will help you plan your vaccine schedule.

Our children are going to get all the standard vax shots - BUT we are doing:

1. Staggered shots - we don't slug 6 vaccinations into our 6 month old on one day. We do one. Wait a week. Do another. And so on. Reason being - we want to see how the baby reacts - some vaccines can make children mildly sick.
   
   
2. Delayed vax - vaccines work by forcing an immune response from the body to generate antibodies. Turns out a the older the child, the greater the immune response. Theoretically, the longer you wait, the fewer shots you need to generate the same antibody response. Of course, the longer you wait, the greater the odds your child will be exposed to the disease. Careful planning is required.
   
   
3. Seasonality & Age: Some diseases are seasonal and only dangerous at particular ages. If your child doesn't fall into the window, then you have an option.
   
   
4. Exposure level: Our second child is getting his vaccines faster - because his older sibling is a vector.
   
   
5. Thimersol-free: Most vaccines for young children are mercury free. Always important to confirm.
   
   Lastly - this type of vaccine planning is not for amateurs. It is important to either strictly follow the accepted CDC schedules or plan carefully with your pediatrician after you yourself are well informed.
   
   EDIT: The best book I've found on vaccines is linked below. Very readable:
   
   http://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316017507/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1280253948&sr=8-1
   
   EDIT #2:
   Downthread, kylev links to a page that points out inaccuracies in Sears' book above
   href="http://www.reddit.com/r/science/comments/cuajy/i_just_think_at_this_point_shes_too_young_and_her/c0vc2ih
   
   >It should be noted that Dr. Sears, while managing to encourage a few otherwise wary parents to get vaccinations for their kids, has also gotten a lot wrong in that book.
   > href="http://www.sciencebasedmedicine.org/?p=512
   > SBM has a long article to correct some of the misconceptions and inaccuracies. Truly geeky reading and educational!
   
   > It should be noted that the CDC schedule is based on scientific studies with a slight eye toward convenience (to get the best coverage without too many visits). Sears' schedule is based on a few errors and a desire to minimize fears that parents have (many of which are unfounded). It's not bad to consider fear, but it may also leave children at risk.
   
   

If you haven't, read the book Happiest Baby On The Block. This helped me immensely with my kids.

My first tormented me for his first 6 months. Then it got better. He enjoyed being swaddled. My daughter, didn't. She wanted to be free to move around and cry. And cry she did. All day for 8 months. Fortunately she slept at night.

Good luck. We've all been there.

Is there any reason for you to be concerned about risks (family history of vaccine reactions, autoimmune disease, etc)? If not, I don't understand your concerns at all. Thousands (millions?) of kids have gotten all of their vaccines and were just fine. And I am not sure what you mean by skeptical that "every single one is necessary" - is there some diseases you would want your child to have?

Actually, I was the same way, I was swayed by the anti-vaxxers at first, but did some research while pregnant and I am very pro-vaccine now. I liked this book: http://www.amazon.com/The-Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting/dp/0316180521

In the end all my kids got all their vaccines with only MMR being slightly postponed from what was recommended. Dr. Sears provides an alternative schedule in the book if it's something you would be interested in.

Definitely! And once y'all are ready, I highly recommend the Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year. A similar sort of practical helpfulness.

The two I've purchased so far are the No Cry Sleep Solution and Retro Baby. The former was highly recommended to me by a few new parents but I haven't dived in yet. The latter is a fun read and it made me really excited for all of the development milestones to come.

I feel like what's missing from my library is some A to Z book on newborn health. It would be nice to have a book to consult before scaring myself by Google-ing.

Right on. Aspergers isn't something you "have". It's something you are.
I gave my boss a copy of Aspergers On The Job (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1935274090) - he knew before that I'm an aspie but this helps understand a little better.

I've never hidden it. Embrace the differences and thrive.

(Heck, many of the people I work with are probably somewhere on the spectrum. Yay engineering.)

This is a great book... really good summary and is a must read for everyone that has an autistic child in their lives
http://www.amazon.com/Things-Every-Child-Autism-Wishes/dp/1935274651

Don't let random people fit you into a career based on stereotype. Asperger's is a pretty complex syndrome to begin with, and now it's technically combined as part of ASD. People didn't really have a good grasp on it before, and don't think about the range of severity when approaching this topic.

Check out Asperger's on the Job
. It's a very quick read, but features a lot of evidence-based findings and approaches for people with Asperger's to consider when dealing with the workplace (For example, the struggles with job security...). And as always, I like to point any career-curious people to My Next Move to play around and narrow down specific fields that fit their work styles and workplace preferences.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting/dp/0316180521

It's actually more or less pro-vaccination, but it does a good job (IMO) of giving both sides of the story to all the different vaccinations.

This book is great for parents, it covers a wide array of topics and offers many usable suggestions. Additionally, this website offers many tools that can be helpful in enhancing communication and social skills.

I have a 1 year old son now, and this book probably saved my life a year ago because I had zero experience with babies prior to becoming a mom:

The Happiest Baby on the Block; Fully Revised and Updated Second Edition: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553393235/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_.lm-Bb9X1GK78

I seriously recommend it to anyone with a newborn.

This is a valid argument, and is the reason why I've had to seriously consider and question immunizations for my children. ALL of my immediate family, including myself, had severe reactions to vaccinations. Life threatening reactions. It leaves my children at risk for the same reactions, that statistically speaking are more severe than the diseases being protected against.

After doing a lot of reading, I've found the most informative source to be from Dr. Robert Sears which has helped me figure out how to best tackle this dilemma. For my children, our pediatrician and I have agreed upon a delayed tentative vaccine schedule. Most of the vaccines are for early infant or childhood illnesses, and by the time they are old enough to handle the vaccines they will be irrelevant. But other lifetime immunities will need to be addressed and scheduled separately. Kind of complicated, but our pediatrician has been awesome about helping us figure this out.

It is worth the time to read up on the subject if you are going to make decisions as a parent, the following was the best book I came across.

http://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316017507/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1265636912&sr=1-1-fkmr0

My understanding is that thermerosal has been removed as an additive to most child vaccines (AFAIK it contained 49% mercury by weight*, and a child could get above FDA mercury exposure by following the routine vaccine guidlines ). In my opinion some vaccines given are unnecessary (example; Hep B at birth).

http://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316017507/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1265636912&sr=1-1-fkmr0

• http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thiomersal

I really liked Heading Home with Your Newborn. It gave a good overview of all the baby basics without being overwhelming. Basically, enough to figure out what else you want to look into.

Cynthia Kim's blog and book have been our best guides as a couple:

Musings of an Aspie, especially LESSONS FROM AN ASPERGERS-NT MARRIAGE . I know you guys aren't married, but lots of the tips still apply.

Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate

Making an NT-Aspie relationship work is a two-way street. Kim is good on stuff that you BOTH need to learn. For example:

> Apologize when you do something that your partner finds hurtful.

> This is true for both partners, but especially for the aspie partner. There are times when it’s hard for aspies to see why something is hurtful. Get over it. It doesn’t matter if what you said or did was unintentional. It doesn’t matter if you meant well. It doesn’t matter if you think it’s silly or meaningless. Just apologize.

> I know this can be difficult. My first instinct is often to say, “but that’s not what I meant” or “what’s the big deal?” This is a bad idea. If your partner is hurt by your words or actions, then it is a big deal. Ideally, your NT partner will be able to calmly identify what you did and how that made him feel: “I feel hurt when you point out in front of other people that I wasn’t paying attention to the conversation.” And then you can just as calmly consider his point of view and apologize: “I’m sorry. I didn’t realize that would bother you. I’ll try not to do it in the future.”

> Obviously, having this conversation calmly and lovingly can be a hard place to get to. For a long time, my husband thought I had a mean streak. After learning more about Asperger’s, he began to understand that my AS wiring is responsible for a lot of the dumb stuff that comes out of my mouth. Now he tries to calmly point out when I’m being insensitive.

We had to learn this one the hard way. The fact is that Aspie-NT couples often hurt each other's feelings unintentionally because we're not wired up to perceive the same things in the same way emotionally. It's really like a cross-cultural marriage. You can't win an argument about which culture is "better." You just have to learn what the other person's taboos are.

And, most of all, you each have to have bedrock faith in your partner's good intentions, and truly believe that the other person did not intend harm, no matter how obvious it seems to you that what they did was "wrong."

We like this one, it's not just a for dads, but we've used it a lot. We got it for free from our pediatrician with some Similac formula (even though we were planning to breastfeed). It's from the American Academy of Pediatrics. http://www.amazon.com/Your-Babys-First-Year-Third/dp/0553593005/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1324619278&sr=1-2

Not a pregnancy book, but I love this one:
If Your Kid Eats This Book, Everything Will Still Be Okay

Funny and straightforward advice on what to do, and when to panic, and what to do.

Good on you!

You can't become a "registered behavior technician" and work with your own child but you can absolutely get the 40 hour training and have a consulting BCBA that trains, supervises, and updates the program for you.

Some other useful resources for implementing your own program are the classic Maurice and Green book and Mary Barbera's book and courses for "gung ho parents."

Here's a good one that covers everything that can/will go wrong. It saved us several trips to the doctor and I can't recommend it enough.

For the rest, the only thing your kid's going to remember is whether or not he/she was loved. Make sure your kid always knows that and the rest will take care of itself.

I had a fussy/colicky baby too. I heard it goes away at 3-6 months, but mine got better when he started crawling (8 months).

Anyway, it is stressful because there's not a "cure" so-to-speak. There is only "treating the symptoms." And the symptom is crying.

So, the only thing that really helped me was white noise. And this was before iPhone Apps, so I bought a CD with white noise on it. There are plenty of apps with white noise now-a-days. So, download one and try some out.

Also, read this book: The Happiest Baby on the Block

Now, don't let the title fool you. It certainly won't make your baby the happiest, but it will at the very least get him to stop crying so much.

Just know that it gets better and you'll look back on this time as a small blip in your life. Soon you'll be mentoring other mothers who come on this subreddit complaining of crying babies.

I read a book recently that might help in this situation. [Asperger's on the Job] (http://www.amazon.com/Aspergers-Job-Must-have-Functioning-Employers/dp/1935274090/ref=la_B0039XA9M4_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1395793100&sr=1-2) gave me some good tips on how to navigate job-related situations.

in regards to alcohol. She most definitely can have a drink periodically. That is one of the biggest myths out there with breastfeeding.

Typically depending on your metabolism one ounce of alcohol such as Vodka or rum, a 4oz glass of wine, a beer will metabolize in about an hour and a half. Some people maybe an hr, some people maybe 2 or 3 hrs. Alcohol hits its peak in your blood about a half hour after consumption. Alcohol leaves your breastmilk once it is out of your blood. If you are ok to drive, you are ok to breastfeed. My kiddos tended to have a stretch of sleep from 8pm-midnight. So I would nurse them to sleep, get up and have a glass of wine 2 or 3 days a week, then follow that with some water. By the time babe was ready to nurse I was good to go.

How old is your little one? and just curious you mentioned she has sensitive nipples. is this in general or just since breastfeeding? Has babe been checked for a tongue or lip tie?These can affect the latch and cause sore nipples or damage. it can be clipped or lasered which will vastly improve the latch. Other common things for the sensitivity could be thrush or vasospasm. The soreness I wonder about plugged ducts. Is she wearing any restricting clothing? too small of a bra or one that has underwire that may be pushing on a duct near her arm pit.

Teething could go any which way. My oldest it never affected her latch, she cluster fed and that was about it. My youngest has just finished getting her molars and she got lazy with her latch. I had to spend more time making sure she was latching well but that was about it. Some kids actually nurse less cause it can hurt to suck when teething. Generally speaking if the latch is good, she should not feel the teeth.

Neither of my kiddos ever took a bottle. If I wanted to go out I waited till they were older to go longer then 2 hrs. but generally once they were past the newborn nursing stage and going longer naturally between feeds if I nursed first, left and then were back in and hr or 2 all was well. We co sleep so no reason for my partner to take over feedings, he would change the diaper and burp when needed though. Also even if your little one took a bottle, your SO still has to get up to pump to keep up her supply. she still has to pump when babe would have normally eaten. If she does not then that signals to her body to make less, since less was removed. It is a supply and demand game when it comes to breastmilk production.

www.kellymom.com is a fantastic resource and usually gives links to their sources. May want to check that out as well.

Even though this is not of popular opinion, especially on reddit.I have to say I feel your wife when it comes to vaccines. We saw some negative reactions with my oldest and she has a permanent scar now from an injection site. I myself had a negative reaction to a vaccine. We did more research when pregnant with our second and have choosen to hold off till she is 2 yrs and then re evaluate. I am leaning towards 2 In particular, but my SO does not want her to have any still. Our doctor is pro vaccine but after my reaction and our daughters he is very hesitant to move forward with vaccinations with our youngest. I read and researched a lot. It is hard cause most articles and papers are very biased. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0316180521/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1374668468&sr=8-1&pi=SL75 this book is not as biased I found. The author is still pro vaccine, but he addresses a lot of what people worry about. Maybe it will help you understand your partners concern or even help her or you come to a consensus on what is best for your kiddo. I do believe that the parents need to agree or compromise on something that is this big of an issue.

I just read this book and it conveys the basic concepts in a beautiful, simple way.

Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew

http://www.amazon.com/Things-Every-Child-Autism-Wishes/dp/1935274651/ref=pd_sim_14_4?ie=UTF8&dpID=51nHl1KOasL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR107%2C160_&refRID=1RK2JE56ATQX4EY87Y80

Check out this book! I've been reading it and it's great. https://www.amazon.com/Mayo-Clinic-Guide-Babys-First/dp/1561487503

Congrats on the baby! Do you know what you're having? This book helped a lot! http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00TCI48AE?keywords=happiest%20baby%20on%20the%20block&qid=1452274949&ref_=sr_1_1&s=books&sr=1-1

I love this one: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1561487503/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1397573328&sr=8-1&pi=SY200_QL40

Dad of two kids here.

Buy these two books -

https://www.amazon.com/Happiest-Block-Revised-Updated-Second/dp/0553393235

https://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Sleep-Habits-Happy-Child/dp/0553394800

...read them twice and commit to them.

"Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" is sometimes difficult to put into practice, but once you do, your kid will sleep through the night. If you don't believe me, believe the Amazon reviews.

The other thing I would suggest is if you have the money and space, bring the gym home. I have a rowing machine at home. You don't need a gym to do pushups, sit-ups and burpees.

Congrats. Just had our first 6 weeks ago. Warning, the first month is sooooooo hard! No sleep! 6 weeks is only moderately better. Everyone says 2 - 3 months is when it starts to even out. We'll see.

Also, this book is a lifesaver.
https://www.amazon.com/Happiest-Block-Revised-Updated-Second/dp/0553393235/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=10OKYUFFJWPPG&keywords=happiest+baby+on+the+block&qid=1550595906&s=gateway&sprefix=happiest+baby+o&sr=8-1

It comes on DVD and is worth the 40 minutes.
We got it from our library, it is probably on YouTube as well. (I didnt read the book, but there is an article that sums it up, DVD helps you to see the positioning)

Article: https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/baby/the-5-s-s-for-soothing-babies

And steal 3 of the infant swaddle blankets from the hospital They are a little bigger than the junk you buy at the store and will come in handy. Then get these, they come in a variety of styles:
https://www.amazon.com/SwaddleMe-Original-Swaddle-3-PK-Busy/dp/B013GYQVCW/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=swaddleme&qid=1550596102&s=gateway&sr=8-3

I highly recommend taking a look at http://www.amazon.com/Aspergers-Job-Must-Have-Functioning-Employers/dp/1935274090 and having him read it. A big part of getting ahead with AS is playing to your strengths - the normal rat-race structure of sending out resumes and failing interview after interview isn't going to do him any favors.

I've been reading Heading Home with Your Newborn. I really enjoy the practicality and comprehensiveness of it. And, for once, it has enjoyable writing too. It covers most topics, with extensive focus on "what goes in and comes out" of the baby XD. I'm disappointed theres not more on exclusively pumping, BUT there seems to be little in the way of judgement so far. And it's written by two female pediatricians that are moms themselves.


Heading Home With Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality https://www.amazon.com/dp/1581108931/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_m0ykDbBHYX80Y

Speaking of book recommendations, I have not read this one yet, but it addresses the issue directly and has good reviews so far.

I don't know how good it will be but I got the Mayo Clinic Guide since I have found their pregnancy book very helpful.

This a good resource book, it has a lot about life as a parent too: about relationships, work, etc. It goes month by month into how your child is developing and growing. https://www.amazon.com/Mayo-Clinic-Guide-Babys-First/dp/1561487503

The Verbal Behavior Approach: How to Teach Children With Autism and Related Disorders
http://amzn.com/1843108526
This is a fantastic place to start. It will provide you with a new framework for understanding and addressing behavior.

If you are feeling ambitious:
Applied Behavior Analysis (2nd Edition)
http://amzn.com/0131421131

This is the "bible" for ABA. It can be a little technical, but not beyond the average adult's comprehension. At the very least it will give you a reference.

I found this book very fun to read during pregnancy: http://www.amazon.com/Mayo-Clinic-Guide-Babys-First/dp/1561487503. It goes month-by-month with what to expect and helpful advice (based on actual science!).

Note: It is 4 years old and there are a few guidelines that have changed since the publication date, but nothing major.

But vaccination isn't just for your child's benefit. By not vaccinating him at a young age that creates a risk for children too young to be vaccinated.
I'd also like to add that my mother did not have me vaccinated for meningitis as a child. I only found this out a matter of years ago and was furious. As my mother it was her responsibility to do everything she could to ensure my survival until I was old enough to look after myself. As for the book, anyone who wants to read some of it, the majority of it is available to read on Amazon for free. http://www.amazon.com/The-Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting/dp/0316180521

Also, please remember a majority of the thought to be 'problematic' vaccines in this book were using the live virus, something which is rarely if ever done with babies nowadays. Injecting your baby with saline solution and a dead virus so it's white blood cells can recognise it in the future is simply common sense. As for the "bad reactions" some kids get, a lot of them are actually just their white blood cells getting to work and ensuring that the virus is dead (which is was when injected). Just like when we get colds our glands swelling up is a good sign, it's our body fighting back, despite how uncomfortable it may be.

While I was doing inventory, one of the formula goody-boxes had a copy of the book Your Baby's First Year. Pretty swank.

Get [Happiest Baby On The Block](http://The Happiest Baby on the Block; Fully Revised and Updated Second Edition: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer https://smile.amazon.com/dp/0553393235/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_SNV2DbC29KRVP) it helped us out a lot

So long as you aren't suicidal, nothing wrong with self-education. The professional community is lacking in ASD as a whole.

Being forced to NT standards, and then burning out because of it sounds common.

Here are some resources that I know of... I was just diagnosed, and some of these were recommended by the psychologist who made the diagnosis. I am a man, but I have mostly female stereotyped manifestation/traits of ASD.

Pretending to Be Normal: Living With Asperger's Syndrome by Liane Holliday Willey

https://www.amazon.com/Pretending-Normal-Aspergers-Syndrome-Spectrum/dp/1849057559/

The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome by Tony Attwood

https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Guide-Aspergers-Syndrome/dp/1843106698/

And for free you can check out Cynthia Kim's Blog:

https://musingsofanaspie.com/about/

She has a book too:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1849057575/

If you have the ability to start ABA, take advantage. I've been a therapist for the last decade, and I have seen world's change for these kids with the right therapy. I worked with a little girl who came to the clinic a little older than two. She wouldn't let her dad touch her and she screamed all of the time. Her poor father had never hugged his daughter. Now she is in a typical class and has tons of language. Her life got completely turned around by ABA therapy. One little boy came to us at age two and he only like to watch lint fall and he had no language. He is also mainstreamed and was able to have his diagnosis removed. Another young man was functional in high school, but was completely rigid and did not engage in conversation. After his senior year and three years of ABA, he got an internship st a hospital and was able to carry on simple conversations. ABA, when implemented properly, is as close to magic as I've ever seen.

I highly recommend this book:
The Verbal Behavior Approach: How to Teach Children With Autism and Related Disorders https://www.amazon.com/dp/1843108526/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awd_Hhtywb1FT6Y8S

I'm sorry you have to go through this. All is not lost, your son is so young that early intervention can have a profound effect. Find a support group and educate yourself on the rights of your child. It won't be easy, but you're his mother and you can do it.

Fixed your link:

The Art of Roughhousing: Good Old-Fashioned Horseplay and Why Every Kid Needs It

I have that one. That is a good book. I have this one too and it comes with a CD.

You might find some good connections on www.wrongplanet.net

I've heard this is a good book on the topic: http://www.amazon.com/Aspergers-Job-Must-have-Functioning-Employers/dp/1935274090

Happiest Baby on the Block saved my sanity with my first. The shushing thing is a big part if it.

There are a few books like this

Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year: From Doctors Who Are Parents, Too! https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1561487503/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_0oa-BbHJTKHH5

A Google search for "baby development guide" will reveal others.

Heading Home With Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality. It's especially great if you have some experience with infants but haven't had one 24/7 before.

I'm a 3rd year medical student, on my 5th week of pediatrics, we had a lecture on vaccines today. Apparently there's an "alternative" vaccination schedule proposed in The Vaccine Book where at least the MMR (Measles, mumps, rubella) vaccine can be broken up to be given in smaller or broken up doses over more visits, I don't know about other vaccines.

Book is legit, written by a licensed pediatrician completes the current vaccination schedule appropriately, just in a different manner. The end difference is that you have to take your kid to the doctor a bunch more-->more copays-->more money for the pediatrician.

The end result, really is that some pediatricians don't have a problem with it, moreso ones in private practice, because they get more business and money for doing something that has the same health effect as the less financially beneficial path.

Could you argue that spacing out the doses puts kids at higher risk for preventable infections? Yeah, but I guess the schedule isn't TOOOOO different to make it a big issue.

As far as Trump saying that the kid got a fever a week later? Yeah, that can be a known side effect of certain vaccines. Your physician should let you know about that when they give them to you/your kid, but the fever isn't a serious problem at all unless you're already febrile and/or/maybe have a low threshold for seizures...which you probably don't.

TLDR; There is an alternative schedule which delivers the same amount and type of medication as the traditional method, but takes more time and costs more money.

Sure sounds like it. Check out these books. I'm an adult but they still helped me a lot:
https://www.amazon.com/Asperkids-Secret-Book-Social-Rules/dp/1849059152
https://www.amazon.com/Nerdy-Shy-Socially-Inappropriate-Asperger/dp/1849057575/

The Autistic Brain: Helping Different Kinds of Minds Succeed

Here's some unsolicited advice on getting sweet tiny babies to go to sleep. read this: The Happiest Baby on the Block; Fully Revised and Updated Second Edition: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553393235/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_0zmoxb183CF91

Or just watch this video: http://youtu.be/mm3aJ78TXak

A couple of books:

What to Expect When You're Expecting

Your Baby's First Year

Also, while she is pregnant, be prepared to go to the grocery store at any hour. You could be stocked with any food you could think of, and she'll crave [insert food you don't have at home].

My wife craved Frankenberry...

This should make for some fine reading.

YWBTA. Read this book: https://www.amazon.com/Art-Roughhousing-Old-Fashioned-Horseplay-Every/dp/1594744874/ref=asc_df_1594744874/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312150641898&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17521960872481857613&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9033307&hvtargid=pla-540668335610&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=62860525180&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312150641898&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17521960872481857613&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9033307&hvtargid=pla-540668335610

I will give you a recommendation, but it's not about raising the kid. It's about when your kid needs medical attention, and when it's not a big deal.

It's called, If your kid eats this book, everything will still be ok.

This is one I give to many of the parents I work with.

https://www.amazon.com/Verbal-Behavior-Approach-Children-Disorders/dp/1843108526

Our baby is the cutest!

I’ve heard this is helpful and am planning on reading it but haven’t yet. https://www.amazon.com/Heading-Home-Your-Newborn-Reality/dp/1581108931

Well...like this one.

https://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316180521

http://www.amazon.com/Social-Skills-Picture-School-Beyond/dp/1932565353/ref=pd_sim_b_3?ie=UTF8&refRID=1XDQKNZZGK34D713B45R

The Vaccine Book is very detailed and balanced.

Dr. Spock my fellow.

people may believe these kind of things. But i dont think anyone would risk their child's live by avoiding these kind of medicines, just by believing these whatsapp/fb videos. Dont worry so much.

Seems like healer baskar is talking about this book: https://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316180521/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1486266298&sr=1-1

has anyone read this book? or know what it is about?

Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate: A User Guide to an Asperger Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/1849057575/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_sSEGAbARNZ9DZ

I was recommended to get The Vaccine Book by Dr. Sears.

(36W FTM) I personally got it on CD to listen to on my commutes. It seems pretty balanced IMO.


Also, it IS overwhelming. I'm just researching the vaccs as they come to me in order... so... Flu, Tdap, Hep B right now.


I still haven't decided on tdap for myself yet though. I'm having a hard time. Hub is for it...


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The No-Cry Sleep Solution, So That's What They're For-breastfeeding basics, baby 411.
As a pediatrician, lactation consultant and mother, please avoid:
Babywise it has been condemned by the American Academy of Pediatrics and La Leche League for its bizarre recommendation that newborns be put on a feeding and sleeping schedule that is pretty much designed to lead to breastfeeding failure, attachment issues, and failure to thrive. The reviews on amazon tell quite a story--some of the 1 star are former 5 star submitters who realized that their baby wasn't "good" or "obedient" or "quiet", they were starving like little Romanian orphans and had given up making noise because they were just ignored. If I could put every copy in an incenerator I would.
The Vaccine Book, a wildly misleading tome full of misinformation and fearmongering. For accurate vaccine information, please read Dr. Paul Offit's Vaccines and your child. He is a vaccinologist, meaning that he has devoted his entire professional career to studying vaccines. Dr. "Bob" is a general pediatrician, like me, and has no additional training in immunology, virology, microbiology, or vaccines.